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Welcome to Heal Yourself, Change Your Life. My name is Brandy Gillmore and after recovering from my own life changing injury, it's become my mission to share with others the same discoveries I made. that changed my health and my entire life. Our minds are truly incredible. The placebo is proof of this.

Each week I will take this simple awareness to a whole new level. I will even coach live callers to free themselves of physical pain using only their mind. And then I'll provide you with a combination of practical and spiritual insights that you can use to master your mind and your energy to help you heal your health, yourself, and your life.

Let's begin.

Hello and welcome. It is so wonderful to connect with you. I just love it that you are here, continuing to expand your mind, your energy, your consciousness, your healing. I just love it. And I just love. Today's episode, because it highlights the importance of transforming our patterns to not only heal our body, but to transform our relationships, even with our parents, our loved ones, our, you know, our mothers, considering that it's Mother's Day coming up here.

And, you know, just. The importance of transforming these patterns, not only for the relationship itself, of course that is important, but also for our own health and wellbeing and life. And so that's one of the things that I really love about today's episode is that you can just see the awareness of these patterns that can be so impactful in every area of life.

And what I also love about seeing patterns is this. Is you know, if we're going through life and things feel off or a problem or relationships patterns or whatnot, it can feel frustrating. If it can feel discouraging to just have problems or negativity or hurt or wounding come up over and over and over again.

However, when we start to realize that. Everything is happening because of patterns and we can see the patterns in life. It becomes empowering because then instead of needing to change everybody and everything and circumstances feeling out of your control, instead you can take back the feeling of control of your life by then working to identify the specific patterns and transform them.

And that level of awareness and empowerment. becomes exciting in life. It makes you feel more optimistic. It, it also helps you, of course, to begin creating that deeper level of transformation that then has the ability to transform your health, your happiness, your life, your future. And that is one of the many things that I love about today's episode.

And so on that note, let's go ahead and dive in our beautiful volunteer. Her name is Anastasia and she's beautiful. And she's also got. A lot of stress and hurt and wounding going on, and also some conflict and guilt and whatnot in her relationship with her mother that is deeply impacting her health and her life and her happiness.

And of course, in transforming that it becomes key to creating the relationships, the connection, the happiness, the health that she's wanting. And so for that reason, I just absolutely love this episode. And let's dive in with our beautiful volunteer, Anastasia. Here we go.

Hello. It's wonderful to meet you. Nice to meet you. Thank you for the opportunity. Absolutely. And, and wonderful to connect. And, uh, what can I do for you today? Beautiful. Um, I had, um, I started having problems with my movements over the past two years, uh, I, uh, in the hips, in the knee, in the back. and I had a hip replacement when they broke my femur and something happened to my knee and my back keeps hurting and I used to be a completely healthy and mobile person and now I have this fear and anxiety about the future.

Am I going to have more operations? Am I going to go down the drain? And, uh, Everything has been turned upside down, and I feel completely insecure about my future, and I just want to stop this, because it's okay to have arthritis, but it's not okay to be gay. Suddenly having all of these problems and things.

I understand. So first and foremost, I get that whole feeling of uncertainty in your future and all of those things. I very much lived that. So I very much understand how that feels. Not a fun feeling. I get it. And, uh, let's definitely dive in and, and take a look. Um, if I ask you your level of pain right now in your back, what's your level of pain in your back?

Zero to ten? Well, I don't have these pains when I move. So the constant pain I, I have developed recently is in my neck, where my shoulder meets. That's there all the time. And over the past three years, I started having pain in my abdomen. These two are constant, now it's, and it's this kind of stiffness and trembling and uh, and just stress.

Uh. Okay. So the other pains are when I move. Okay. So if you were to stand up right now, would that increase your pain? Not if I stand, but if I start going. But the prine in my neck is there all the time, so that's probably for some. Do you want me to stand? Yeah. Okay. Um, yeah. Do you want to just stand and walk around for just a second?

Yeah. Okay. And as you're standing and walking around,

hold on, do you want to go ahead and set the camera down so it's, uh, wherever, so you can go ahead and get it situated. Thank you.

There we go. Um, if I ask you, when you stood up and walked around, did that increase your pain? It's stiffness in my thigh and in my knee. And there is one point pain in the back and in the left here, but that's just like a stinging short pain. All right. Um, so I'm going to ask you just for a moment to breathe.

And if I ask you what level of stiffness, you would say zero to 10. What's your level? Three. Okay. So I'm going to ask you to breathe and give me one second. Hang on. There's somebody very close to you. I don't know if it's a, I don't know if it's a relationship or if it's like a sister. Who is the person you would say is the closest to you?

Well, I have a very tense relationship with my mother, who started at the same time developing very serious depression, the same time when my pain with movements started. Okay, can you give me, um, okay, so a few things, can you set down the, the camera or, or is that perfect? Okay, great. Cause it's making a lot of noise actually.

Perfect. Can you give me, uh, so your mother, can you give me her, um, her first initial please? R. Bingo. If I ask you to notice how much fear you're experiencing towards her health, what would you say? A lot. And if I ask you How much you're tired of the burden of her, what would you say? A lot. Ten. Hundred. A thousand.

Mm hmm. And so, I'm going to ask you to breathe, and if I ask you, how does that feel to you? Guilty. Mm hmm. Okay? And so I'm going to ask you to breathe, okay? And if I ask you, just for a moment, to notice the feeling of the burden of her, and I'm going to ask you to breathe, and I also want you to notice the part of you who is, has all these emotions, the frustration, the anger, all of these emotions, right?

So I'm going to ask you just for a moment to breathe. And if I ask you, and how old is your mother, by the way? Eighty seven. Okay. So, eighty seven. And, um, and ask you to breathe. And is there somebody else who takes, who helps take care of her? She, she doesn't know. She, she can look after herself, but, uh. She is, um, she only wants us.

She doesn't accept any outside help and, uh, she is, uh, lonely all the time and nobody goes there and this is why she is unwell. So

I'm going to ask you just for a moment to breathe. Give me one second.

Bingo. And you're no longer married? No. Okay. I live alone. But I can't go to herself anymore and I don't have to because I developed all these problems in my movement. So I stopped visiting her. Okay. And if I ask you a few things, okay, so if I ask you. Let's see. Let's go this way first real quick. Uh, if I ask you how much in your marriage, how much you felt like you always had to do things for your ex, how much did you feel like you always had to do everything for him?

What would you say? Not for him, but for the children, all, all responsibility was with me, with both children. They were from two different fathers, but eventually I brought both of them up. Myself. Alone. Yep. Alone. Right? And so I'm going to ask you to breathe, and I want you to notice how you love both of your children.

You love them, love, love, love them, and also how much there was a part of you who was very upset for having to do and take care of them alone. Can you see that? Yes. Yeah. I love your awareness. So I'm going to ask you to breathe.

All right, so let's go ahead and actually pause the session right here. You know, first and foremost, I love her self awareness, I love her self honesty, and also, as we talked about in the very beginning, you can see the pattern. And what happens all the time is this, is that, you know, when a pattern first starts, there can be wounding.

regarding the pattern where somebody's maybe feeling overwhelmed or they're feeling obligated or they're feeling like they have to do everything on their own. And what can happen is, of course, over time, people can build up a lot of resentment and hurt and anger, frustration. And so if you think about it for a moment, she's got all of these different woundings of feeling frustrated with her mom and feeling like, you know, it's just overwhelmed.

And then also feeling guilt. Towards her mom for needing to do anything. Now, what you'll also notice in the session coming up is she's also got a lot of anger and hurt and feeling like her mom mistreated her throughout the years in her childhood and whatnot. And so the problem is this, is that we as a culture, you know, we can go through times of wounding and hurt and we get that stored up.

And in our culture, so often what we want more than anything is we crave understanding. Like a person can go through a hard time, a trauma, and what happens is, is, you know, when we crave understanding, we crave love for it, or wounding, or whatnot. And that can happen. The problem is, is it can become like a never ending craving.

Like, you know, for example, an alcoholic can crave alcohol, and then if they feed that and feed that, they just crave it more, and then crave it more, and crave it more, and. That's exactly what happens with patterns, is that unfortunately a person can experience some type of hurt or wounding that then becomes a pattern and then plays out and then what happens is then a person may want, you know, sympathy or may hold on to it because they feel like holding on to it is then protecting them and holding on to the grudge.

But the only thing is Is it attracts more of the same? And then the pattern repeats and notice for a moment, you know, our beautiful, beautiful volunteer here, she is in this place in life where, you know, as she mentioned, she has two kids by two different fathers, and she felt like she ended up needing to take care of both of the kids herself.

And then also here, she is feeling. Obligated and overwhelmed to take care of her mother and feeling guilt for it and then feeling resent for it and also noticing that as she mentioned that her mom started going into that deep depression and at that about the exact same time that's when she started experiencing all of the pain and issues and health issues going on.

So that trigger That came up for her was that feeling of now feeling like, Oh, well now I have to take care of my mom and I don't want to because I'm hurt and upset and overwhelmed and there's this pattern. And so all of these things, and the reality of it is, is that if we're honest, I mean, most people have made mistakes throughout their life.

You know, they've made mistakes in their past. I don't know anybody who can ever say, well, they never made a mistake. And what happens is, especially with people who are in our lives for a lifetime, you know, parents or family members, people can make mistakes and then they change. And, you know, unfortunately, if you hold on to the pattern and the hurt and the wounding forever, It just repeats in other areas.

And so that's part of where we're going in today's episode is exactly that, is looking at the awareness that these patterns do breed the same. And so the reason I want to pause this episode right here is this, is because so often when We get caught in the story of the wounding and the problem and the hurt.

And, but, but what happens is when the pattern plays out over and over and over again, it's just going to keep going until we decide to program our minds with something different. Meaning this, you know, all the time you'll hear me talk about, The unfortunate example of the woman with the abusive father leaves him and finds an abusive boyfriend, boss, spouse, et cetera, et cetera, you know, that pattern can continue.

And to create a real transformation, instead of always looking back at the negative and the negative and the wounding and the hurt. Over and over and over. We need to make sure that we're moving it forward and I call this reverse emotional processing And it's because instead of always looking directly at the problem or looking directly at the past We need to look at what do we want and start programming that in.

That is key. Or another way to look at it is Let's say that somebody has spoke English. They learned English. They've spoken English their entire life And now they want to start speaking German Well, then they would need to program that in, that new language. And so if we think about the language of patterns or the language of hurt or emotions or the language of love or the language of, you know, guilt or whatever it is, all of these emotional patterns, we'll call it our emotional language, if you will, continue playing out.

And so what we ultimately do need to do to create a change in our patterns is to start programming in, how do we want to feel? Moving forward. What is our new way of thinking and feeling? So in this case, part of what she's going to want to start feeling is a feeling of having fun, a feeling of not needing to always take care of everybody and feeling exhausted and burdened by it, but instead enjoying the moment.

The connection with others and having a playful, loving connection. And also being willing to let go of hurt. You know, as she's mentioning, her mom wants to spend time with her in connection, but now she's got all these feelings from the past and these woundings. And I get it. I absolutely understand. And we wanna decide what do we want for our future?

Because what happens is, again, for a lot of people, they just go over their woundings over and over and over and over again, and they get stuck there because of something that happened in the past. But the truth of it is, is that everybody's made a mistake in the past. And so part of what we're also talking about here is Mother's Day has come up and for some people they have anger or hurt towards their mother from when they were five.

And, or anger and hurt towards their mother because their mom is not perfect. And that is likely true for most, pretty much everybody. Their mother is not going to be perfect in one way, shape, or form. And how do you want that to look in your life? Like, could you navigate that? Could you still love your mother, even if she's not perfect?

Could you find a fun way to connect with your mother, even if she's not perfect? And by the way, that is part of where we're going to go also on the second half of the session. Meaning this, meaning that I want to pause this session right here. And just invite you to think about this in your own life. And maybe it is your relationship with your mother or maybe it's with a spouse or a partner or your father, whomever that is.

But I want to invite you to get an idea of what you want the relationship to look like moving forward. But with the Mother's Day theme, we're even thinking about mothers right now and thinking about what do you want your relationship with your mom to look like moving forward? And by the way, maybe you're in a place where your mom has already passed.

And even so, you can still think What does that emotional relationship feel like? Maybe it is a place of just really feeling a sense of gratitude and really feeling at peace. And, or maybe you're focusing on a different relationship. Maybe it's focusing on a relationship with your daughter or daughter in law or whomever, but I want to invite you to think about a relationship that you'd like to transform and start thinking about What you will like that relationship to look like if you were to let go of past wounding and hurt and problems or negativity or past patterns, what would it look like for you?

What would you want it to look like? And so that would be great to take that in to get a picture and an idea of what you would like that to be and start feeling that and taking that in. Now, another way to say this to maybe provide even more clarity is this, is we've all heard before, maybe most of us have heard.

Forgiveness can be healing. And I would have to say that I disagree. I would say forgiveness can be a great first step. And this is why, is that when we forgive one person, but we never clear the pattern, many times what happens is this, is let's say that somebody has a pattern of abandonment, and they feel abandoned by their father, or rejected, or whatever it is.

And that's affecting their health. And then they forgive their father. Most cases, what happens is the pattern still shows up in one way or another, whether a person realizes it in other ways, which means if the pattern shows up in other ways, or there's still underlying emotions, those Negative emotions still have the ability to affect the physical body.

Just like in this case with our beautiful volunteer, she has emotional patterns that are showing up over and over and over again. And so if I said to her, well, just forgive your mom and your childhood and this pattern. Well, that's one thing, but. But what I'm instead saying is, Hey, you really need to repattern your mind to think and feel in a different way and focus on where you want to go and look at what that feels like.

Because again, forgiveness can be a wonderful first step, but it's not the whole process. It's not the repatterning. And if we're really going to get life changing results and healing results, you have to go far beyond really forgiveness, but. a genuine shift, a genuine change of heart, a genuine change of emotion and patterning.

And so that's what we're looking at here. And then on the next half of the session and on next week's episode, I'm going to continue the next part of our session with our beautiful volunteer, Anastasia. And we're going to continue on because there's some things that we unpack further. And by the way, kind of a spoiler alert, she is able to get up and walk around with no stiffness.

So she takes it. The stiffness, she really creates a radical shift in her body. So she's feeling radically different, which is beautiful because of the patterns and the transformation. that she steps into. So that's where we're going on the next half of this session as we continue. But first I want to invite you to look at and see if you can apply some takeaways to your own life, and then we'll dive in next week.

So that said, also want to ask you to please do take just a quick moment to hit the share button on this episode. You know, share it with somebody you love. Somebody you care about or somebody you don't even know because the more empowered and happy and healthy that every single person is in our world.

The better this world is for all of us. And so please do make a point to hit the share button and please do make a point to have a most wonderful, loving rest of your day. And I look forward to connecting with you on the next episode. We'll see you there.

Thank you for listening to Heal Yourself, Change Your Life. All of the time people reach out and say how much these episodes have given them hope, or touched their heart, or helped them stay positive in hard times, or even woken them up to a completely new level of awareness. Of how amazing we all really are.

If today's episode touched your heart or expanded your mind in any way, please do me a favor and be sure to share it with those you care about, or those, you know, who really need it. As more and more people become empowered, it really will change our world. For the better. That is the point and the power of these demonstrations is to create a radical shift in our world consciousness by showing everyone what we are all capable of.

And of course, each volunteer will really need to follow through to reinforce their programming to maintain their results. But the point is for you to see that you really can create rapid results in your health and your life. If you really understand, but use your mind, you're incredible. And I do want to be clear though, that most people will not get results this fast on their own.

I make it look very easy because of the discoveries that I made. You'll want to remember that there's so much more going on in our minds at a deeper level than people realize. That said, if you want to send me any questions or comments, come visit me on my website at brandygillmore. com slash podcast.

And if you're currently experiencing physical pain and would like to be a volunteer on the show, you can sign up there as well. Lastly, please remember, if you do have any health issues, you won't want to avoid your doctors. Instead, you'll want to continue seeing them and make it your goal to blow their minds away.

With what you're capable of with your mind. Thank you.