309: The #1 Mindset Shift to Heal Faster, Release Pain, and Create Real Change 

[00:00:00] Welcome to Heal Yourself, Change Your Life. My name is Brandy Gillmore, and after recovering from my own life-changing injury, it’s become my mission to share with others the same discoveries I made that changed my health and my entire life. Our minds are truly incredible. The placebo is proof of this.

Each week I will take this simple awareness to a whole new level. I’ll even coach live callers to free themselves of physical pain using only their mind, and then I’ll provide you with a combination of practical and spiritual insights that you can use to master your mind, your emotions, and your energy—to help you heal your health, yourself, and your life.

Let’s begin.

[00:01:00] Hello and happy beautiful day to you. Today we’re going to talk about a few specific things that you’ll notice from today’s episode. First and foremost, we’re going to talk about a way to help speed up your results. So that’s one thing that we’re going to talk about.

Now, another thing that we’re gonna talk about is the reason that people who are really, really, really smart can sometimes have a harder time or struggle more to get results—and what you’ll want to do differently, of course. And so that’s where we’re going.

And today I work with a beautiful volunteer. Her name is Jen. You’re absolutely going to love her.

What you’ll notice as we go through the episode: First and foremost, she has a wonderful sense of humor, wonderful personality, and is extremely smart. She’s very smart, very self-aware, and also she’s got a few things that are holding her back from healing. And not only that, but actually creating issues in her life.

And so that’s where we’re going. And as we go through today’s episode, I kind of want to point out a bit—there are multiple layers—but even just the self-love and self-kindness aspect will be another piece that we talk about. And you’ll see where that comes up as well. So there’s just, there’s multiple pieces.

But that’s where we’re going: talking about what you want to do differently to get results, how to speed up the results, and also the importance of self-love and what you’ll see as we’re going through. So that’s where we’re going as we step in with our beautiful volunteer, Jen.

Here we go.

Hi.

Jen: Hi. How’s it going?

[00:03:00] Oh my gosh, I’m so honored to meet you. I’m just gonna try to turn my volume up a little bit here. I have been listening to you for over a year.

Brandy: I love that. I love that. It’s so—it’s an honor and wonderful to meet you. So honored to meet you.

Jen: Thank you. Thank you. Thank you, my dear.

Brandy: Beautiful to meet you. And what can I do for you today?

Jen: I have two things. One of them is peripheral neuropathy in my feet. It started five years ago, diagnosed as idiopathic. They don’t know why—I’m not diabetic. All my blood work looks good. Can’t figure out why the nerves in my feet are dying.

And I’m also really struggling with depression, and I don’t know if my feet hurt ’cause I’m depressed, or if I’m depressed ’cause my feet hurt. And there are a host of other crazy symptoms going on with me too, like kidney stones and liver cysts and just all kinds of not-so-fun stuff that no one can figure out.

So I’ve been listening to you and—there’s gotta be something going on there.

Addressing Emotional Roots and Physical Symptoms

Brandy: Okay, let’s—at a high level—let’s dive into that. Let’s dive into that. It’s not fun. I get it.

Alright. So right now, currently, what’s the level of pain in your feet right now?

Jen: I would say it’s about a five. And I was gonna not take my pain medication and—I forgot. I’m in such a habit of taking the pain medication.

Brandy: Okay, so right now it’s about a five. But without it, it gets up there. The stabbing—it’ll make me cry.

Jen: I get it. I get it. Yeah, it’s definitely not fun.

Brandy: Not fun. No, I don’t recommend it to anybody. It’s not a good idea. You would think, “Oh, stabbing in your feet, fun!”—not. No. Not. Not.

Jen: Yeah, I’m with you. We agree.

Brandy: So I’m gonna ask you to breathe. Bingo. All right, let’s dive right in.

Give me one second.

Bingo. Bingo.

Okay. So…

Brandy: So, can I ask you—there’s an interesting presence I’m sensing. There’s a person to your right. Are you in a relationship?

Jen: No, I’m not.

Brandy: Okay. There’s a person that’s next to you, kind of behind you… and it’s either—do you have a sister?

Jen: I do. I have three sisters. Yes. I have one full sister and two half-sisters.

Brandy: Okay. And do you also have a daughter and an ex-husband?

Jen: Yes.

Brandy: Okay. That was the other energy I was picking up. Can you give me his initials?

Jen: S. S like Sam.

Brandy: And your sisters’ initials?

Jen: L, M, and also L.

Brandy: Bingo. Give me one second.

There’s a little… it’s showing up a couple different ways, so let me go in a slightly different direction. Okay.

Releasing Disappointment and Self-Criticism

Brandy: If I ask you, zero to ten, how much you can find the feeling of being disappointed about where you are in life?

Jen: Ten.

Brandy: Okay. So I’m gonna ask you to breathe. I want you to notice the part of you who has felt like, “I thought I would be in a different place at this age, at this time…”

You can see that, right?

Jen: Yeah, for sure.

Brandy: Okay. And this is not bringing tears to your eyes at all, correct?

Jen: Oh, definitely not. Not.

Brandy: Okay. No tears whatsoever?

Jen: No, no. None.

Brandy: Perfect. Okay, so I’m going to ask you to breathe. And I want you to notice that part of you who feels that disappointment and all the judgments you have around it—where you think you should be, and so on.

Now breathe into that awareness…

If you knew that life was just going to get better and better… could you stop being disappointed?

Jen: Yes.

Brandy: Great. Would you be willing to stop being disappointed long enough to actually create the life that you do want?

Jen: Yes.

Brandy: Wonderful. So I’m going to ask you to breathe.

Would you be willing to stop being so judgmental toward yourself—where you think you should be—and being frustrated and self-critical?

Jen: Ideally, yes.

Brandy: Good.

Understanding Patterns of Blame

Brandy: So let’s pause for just a quick moment. First and foremost, I just love her. I love her self-awareness. I love her heart. She’s really beautiful inside and out—just a beautiful, beautiful being.

Now, notice for a moment—there are some judgments. And that’s what I want you to kind of pay attention to, because what you’ll notice is that they start to surface more and more. There’s a lot of self-criticism going on. And so creating that change is going to be really important.

But you’ll also notice, as it comes up, you’ll see where it’s coming from. And there’s multiple pieces.

Again, she’s brilliant, she’s beautiful, I love that. But what you’ll notice is that the programming—her mind programming—is not serving her in the direction she wants to go.

That said, let’s go ahead and dive back in with our beautiful volunteer, Jen. Here we go.

Brandy: Okay, I’m going to ask you to breathe. And I want you to notice the feeling of being self-critical and judgmental. And I also want you to notice the feeling of blame.

If I ask you, zero to ten, how much you would say you have blame toward your ex, what would you say?

Jen: That’s a tough one… okay, so if he was just different, do I feel like my life would be better? Yes.

Brandy: And if I ask you how much you feel like that is his fault—emotionally, high level?

Jen: Ten. Logically, no.

Brandy: So I’m going to ask you to breathe.

And if I ask you, zero to ten, how much you can see the pattern of blame in your life?

Jen: Six.

Brandy: Okay, I would have said probably closer to an eight. But we’ll go with the six—somewhere in there.

So I’m going to ask you to breathe…

Brandy: Can you give me your dad’s first initial?

Jen: G.

Brandy: Bingo. And if I ask you, how much you can find a feeling of blame toward him—what would you say?

Jen: Three or four.

Brandy: Okay. And if I ask you why?

Jen: Well, he did… my parents divorced when I was very young. And he moved across the country—from the east coast. And it was one disappointment after another in my childhood.

Brandy: Okay. I’m going to ask you to breathe.

Jen: Just to add, at one point we had a very heart-to-heart conversation about it. He was in tears and acknowledged and owned the fact that he was not a very good father. And I feel like I was able to forgive him and let that go.

So when I try to pull up those feelings of blame toward my dad, I feel like he did do the best he could. At least on a conscious level, I don’t feel like I’ve been holding onto that. But I’m also open to the idea that maybe subconsciously there is something there.

And my mom—she reminds me of that a lot too. Like, “Your dad kind of messed you up,” is what she’ll say.

Brandy: I’m going to ask you to breathe.

Do you think that there’s anybody whose dad left at a young age who is doing great?

Jen: Yeah, absolutely.

Brandy: So are you sure it was his actions or your interpretation?

Jen: No.

Brandy: Okay. That’s what I want you to notice. Now remember—patterns breed more of the same, right?

Jen: Right, yes.

Brandy: So if someone says in their childhood, “It was one disappointment after another after another after another,” what does their life feel like?

Jen: Disappointing.

Brandy: Exactly. Now, have you felt that way—that life is disappointing?

Jen: Absolutely.

Brandy: Okay, so wait a second—you’re telling me there’s a pattern here?

So weird. So strange. This is odd. Does that even happen? How did that happen? What patterns? Hmmm…

So I’m going to ask you to breathe.

How long would you like to keep this pattern?

Jen: Don’t want this pattern anymore.

Brandy: But you could totally keep it for another year or two or ten…

Jen: Thank you—no.

Brandy: Okay. Now, remember the question I asked you earlier—are you willing to stop feeling disappointed long enough to start changing it?

Notice where we ended up—your mind goes, “But disappointment is my jam!” Not intentionally, but your mind started to replay those patterns from childhood.

Now, I asked you: are you willing to stop feeling disappointed long enough to create a new life?

Jen: Yeah. I don’t want to continue to feel disappointed.

Brandy: Fantastic. So I’m going to ask you to breathe.

Breaking the Cycle and Creating a New Vision

Brandy: I want you to observe your mind and how it’s working, right?

So again: Are you willing to give up feeling disappointed and self-critical long enough to really, really, really be able to change it—and be willing to change it?

Now, notice where your mind goes instead. “But my dad left…” “But my mom said he messed me up…” “But my ex…”

All these things. It’s like we’re running the same story.

Brandy: Almost like there’s another pattern… right?

Jen: Huh. This is…

Brandy: So I’m going to ask you to breathe.

This is what’s exciting: When we get rid of patterns, new patterns emerge.

Jen: Ahhh. Right. Well, we need to establish the new patterns…

Brandy: Exactly. Because they don’t form automatically. But yeah—when we get rid of old patterns and also establish new ones, we change our health and we change our life.

Don’t do that—it’s going to make this whole thing way too easy. 😄

So I’m going to ask you to breathe. And thank you for your sense of humor. You’re brilliant and beautiful.

So I’m going to ask you to breathe. And instead of feeling disappointed, could you actually start taking in the awareness of what it would look like if life actually started working out? If it starts going, and things start getting better and better and better—what would that look like for you?

Brandy: What would that look like? What would it feel like? I want you to really imagine that shift. And I’m going to ask you to breathe into that possibility.

You know, when we say things like, “Life is disappointing,” or, “Nothing ever works,” those beliefs become the programming that runs our emotional energy. And that emotional energy shapes our lives.

So if we shift that inner dialogue to something like, “Life is starting to get better and better,” or, “I’m excited to see how things are unfolding for me,” that new energy starts fueling a different future.

So I’m going to ask you to breathe.

Now if I ask you, what does your life look like when things are going better and better? What would you be doing differently?

Jen: I’d feel free. I’d be creative again. I’d feel connected, and I’d want to be out in the world more, helping people or just enjoying life.

Brandy: Beautiful. So take that in. That’s a powerful shift. I’m going to ask you to take in that energy of freedom, creativity, connection.

Really feel it. Embrace that version of you.

Anchoring the Transformation

Brandy: Now I want you to notice—what you’re doing right now is creating a new emotional blueprint. A new energetic signature for your life.

That’s what transformation looks like. It’s not just understanding the pattern; it’s about embodying the new energy that changes everything.

So I’m going to ask you to breathe again. And I want you to imagine waking up tomorrow with this new energy—feeling excited about your life, trusting it’s getting better and better.

Jen: Wow. That feels… really different. But in a good way.

Brandy: Exactly. That’s how you begin to step into a new reality.

Now, it takes practice. Because the old patterns will try to pull you back. But if you keep choosing the new energy, you start to rewire your entire emotional system. That’s when physical healing can begin to take place too.

Jen: Thank you. I’m feeling hopeful.

Brandy: You are so welcome. And I just want to say—again—thank you for your openness, your humor, and your heart. You’re truly beautiful inside and out.

And I can already see your path becoming so much brighter. Just keep anchoring into this new energy. Keep choosing hope, self-love, and empowerment.

You’ve got this.

Jen: Thank you, Brandy.

Brandy: You are so welcome, my dear.

Closing Reflections and Takeaways

Brandy: All right, so let’s go ahead and unpack what we just experienced. What I really want to highlight here is the importance of recognizing and shifting emotional patterns that are no longer serving us.

In Jen’s case, we saw how disappointment and blame were recurring themes—from childhood through adulthood. And those emotions were not only affecting her emotionally, but also contributing to her physical health challenges.

This is something I see so often. People are incredibly smart, incredibly self-aware, and yet they get stuck in old emotional programming. It’s not about intelligence—it’s about learning how to work with the energy of our emotions and rewire our inner responses.

So I want to encourage you—if you’ve been holding on to old patterns of disappointment, frustration, or blame—ask yourself, “Am I willing to let this go long enough to create something new?”

Because you can. You truly can.

With that said, I look forward to seeing you on the next episode. Until then—please remember to take in the awareness, apply the changes, embody the energy, and most importantly, be kind and loving to yourself.

Have a wonderful, beautiful rest of your day. I’ll see you next time.