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Welcome to Heal Yourself, Change Your Life. My name is Brandy Gillmore, and after recovering from my own life-changing injury, it's become my mission to share with others the same discoveries I made that changed my health and my entire. Our minds are truly incredible. The placebo is proof of this. Each week I will take this simple awareness to a whole new level.

I will even coach live callers to free themselves of physical pain using only their mind, and then I'll provide you with a combination of practical and spiritual insights that you can use to master your mind, your emotions, and your. To help you heal your health yourself and your life. Let's begin.

 

Hello and welcome to this week's quick IQ episode where we talk about insights and questions. And today we have a great question from a listener regarding how we're supposed to look at people, so to speak. You know, as far as being upset with people or bad people, or looking at people with compassion, or always seeing the best in people and.

That's what I wanna go ahead and unpack today, because this can affect your energy, this can affect your healing and what you're manifesting and your happiness of course in life. And so starting with the answer first, but then we'll go into the insight of how you can apply it to your life. So first and foremost, the answer of how to look at people is through the [00:02:00] eyes of compassion.

And this is the way that I would invite you to think about it. Is like this. You know, if you think about my injury, I didn't come into this world and want to have my injury consciously, you know? Or even if you think about all the time on past episodes, I'll use the example of the woman with the abusive father who leaves him and finds the abusive boyfriend, boss, spouse, et cetera, et cetera.

You know, when you stop and think about it. She didn't consciously choose her pattern. And when you look around, every single one of us has patterns that we didn't consciously choose. And so we come into this lifetime and you know, some people might have patterns of feeling criticized or patterns of rejection or patterns of hurt or patterns of feeling unloved.

And we can have so much compassion for them because those are painful patterns. And I can tell you, Also that other people who come in who have [00:03:00] patterns of being the bad person of patterns, of acting out, of being out of control, of having anger that is explosive, and then they hit something or hurt something, and then they beat themselves up and they go through all of that.

Now, let's be honest, we don't want to be around those people. So I'm not saying to be around them or keep them in your space. Not at all. But what I am saying is, That you'll ultimately wanna have compassion that. They didn't pick their pattern. And I would say have compassion. And I would also say, you know, have gratitude, feel grateful that you are who you are and that you didn't come into this life with those patterns.

And by the way, if you are somebody who is listening and you have those patterns, then you'll definitely wanna change those patterns. And by the way, I can tell you in working with people, the patterns that come up for people who are quote unquote, Bad people a lot of times in their own mind. [00:04:00] They're justifying the very things that they're doing.

They're looking at it through a consciousness that they think somehow it should be okay, which sounds odd, but let me unpack this a bit further. You know, if you think about somebody who maybe has a victim consciousness where they go through life and anything that happens, they feel like the victim and something else happens, and they always feel like the victim.

Right now, of course we can have compassion for that person. They didn't choose to see things that way. They didn't choose to feel that way. And by the way, even if you think about past episodes you'll hear me talk about all the time, you know, you've heard me say emotion controlled consciousness, which is as I've figured out going through my injury, was that our emotions.

Control our consciousness control what we see. And so somebody who has a victim consciousness, they'll continue to see that they're a victim. Now, similarly, I've seen people who treat others poorly, who are mean to [00:05:00] others or angry to others, and if you ask them, They're the victim. They really actually think that they're the victim, they're mistreated, they're unloved.

And I can't tell you how many times I've seen this and where I've had to say to people before, well, you're really, you know, abrasive. You know, obviously if you've been listening to past episodes, I'm very honest with people. I'm very direct and I say, well, you know, You've got a lot of abrasive energy and the way that you're being towards others isn't in integrity, and you'll really wanna change that.

But inside, they'll see themselves as the victim. And even many times I've had people say before, oh my gosh, now that you're mentioning it, I see how abrasive I am. I see how mean I am towards other people, and I didn't even see it before. And so my point is very simply is definitely have compassion for people who are quote unquote, Bad people who are just not good people.

Of course, you do not want them in your space, but for [00:06:00] me personally, you know, I just feel a sense of compassion for them. I wouldn't want to be them. I'm grateful that I'm not them. Um, I understand how emotions and subconscious programming can hijack your consciousness. I understand because I've seen them.

People, you know, justify their actions and they really believe what they're thinking. And I've seen people who will go and steal things and you know, and of course I wanna check into their energy and say, well, why are they doing that? And a part of them feels subconsciously like they deserve to be because life has ripped them off and life has been unfair to them.

And it's a cold world and they have to be. Brutal to get by and, and that's their whole perspective. And it's just, again, something you don't wanna have in your space. And so not inviting it in your space, not giving it energy, and also just having compassion and being grateful that you are you is what I would recommend.

And by the way, if you've listened [00:07:00] to episode number nine on the podcast, then you know that I went through my own traumatic. Blah, blah, blah experience. So I am saying this from experience, if it is somebody bad or this, that the other, you know, there used to be a time when I was very upset with that man and I cleared it all of the energy, and I just have compassion, and of course wouldn't wanna see him.

Wouldn't ever wanna spend time with him. He's not my vibe. And also I have compassion for his soul, and I hope it heals. And I don't say that from a righteous place or a superiority place, but just from an understanding of how the mind works and feeling grateful that I don't have those patterns. And so I would invite you to look at that in your own life to really have that, those feelings of genuine compassion.

And feeling that and not feeling upset and triggered or any, any of those other feelings, because that's the second insight. You know, in the very beginning I mentioned [00:08:00] that this can affect your health, this can affect your life, and. We all have patterns, you know, and so what happens is if you have somebody who is triggering you in your life in this way, you'll definitely want to look at your own patterns and make sure to transform them.

Now, of course, if you are not physically safe, get away from this person. And clear your patterns. But you know, if you think about, again, using the example of the woman with the abusive father, and then she leaves him and finds the abusive boyfriend, boss, spouse, et cetera, et cetera, that pattern continues.

I can't tell you how often I have seen people and worked with people who. Have the pattern of feeling exactly that in their lives. And you know, to be honest, a lot of times what I've seen is I'll see women who feel really upset with men for one reason or another, and then maybe they split up with, you know, their partner [00:09:00] or whatever, and then they think, well, it's never gonna happen again.

And then they end up. The pattern then shows up in their children when their children get older or whatnot, because that pattern just keeps playing out in one way or another. And then somebody will really, really wanna change it. And so point being is very simply, if you are feeling triggered by somebody, a lot of times people, what do they want?

They usually always want the other person to just change. I just need the other person to change, but. If you're feeling triggered by somebody, you'll definitely want to change that and transform that. And by the way, I have also seen where people go to change a pattern towards a particular person, but they don't actually rewire it in their subconscious mind, so they don't clear the entire pattern, in which case it still shows up and just repeats itself in a different way.

And so, Ultimately what you wanna do, it's like [00:10:00] a weed in a garden. If you keep chopping it off at the top and chopping it off at the top, it's still gonna come back. It's still gonna come back. And ultimately you'll really want to eradicate it. But that's the gift in it all because when you do and you identify specifically what it is, and you genuinely transform it, It's freeing.

It feels fantastic for your subconscious mind, your nervous system. It's like having weight on your shoulders that you didn't even realize was there until you release it. And then you realize, oh my gosh, this feels amazing. And so it's beautiful. And of course, healing yourself, changing your life, manifesting different things in life.

So it's absolutely beautiful and pivotal. And so that's today's quick IQ episode is exactly that, is looking at others through the lens of compassion. And by the way, it doesn't have to be somebody who's really, really, really messed up either. Even if people have their patterns that they're working on [00:11:00] or their quirks or this, that the other, you know, everybody does, and sometimes people will get caught into fault finding where they always wanna point out the problem in everybody in their lives.

And of course, That's not great for your relationships. And you know, again, coming from a place of compassion and understanding and lifting your own energy is the real transformation. And by the way, on that note, as you shift your own energy, I can't tell you how often I've seen people who were triggered by somebody in their lives that when they really do genuinely transform that energy.

That relationship changes. And I can't tell you how often I have seen that, even though it may sound impossible, because even most times when people do exactly that, when they transform it, their relationship changes. You know, I'll get emails all the time from people who say things like, oh my gosh, you're not gonna believe what actually happened.

I changed this [00:12:00] and my relationship changed. And then they'll follow it up with something like, well, I guess you will believe it. And it's true. It's true. It's amazing how much power and influence that we do have in our relationships that we don't even realize that we have. And so, on that note, I wanna invite you to live in that, to feel in that, to embody that change.

And I do also wanna ask you to please do make a point to hit the share button on this episode. You know, share it with somebody you love, somebody you care about, or somebody you don't even know. Because the more happy and healthy and loving that every single person is in our world. The better this world is for all of us, and so please do hit the share button and please do make a point to have a most wonderful, fantastic rest of your day.

I look forward to connecting with you on the next episode. We'll see you there.[00:13:00]

Thank you for listening to Heal Yourself, change Your Life. All of the time people reach out and say how much these episodes have given them, hope or touched their heart, or help them stay positive in hard times, or even woken them up to a completely new level of awareness. Of how amazing we all really are.

If today's episode touched your heart or expanded your mind in any way, please do me a favor and be sure to share it with those you care about or those you know who really need it. As more and more people become empowered, it really will change our world for the better. That is the point and the power of these demonstrations is to create a radical shift in our world consciousness by showing every.

What we are all capable of. And of course each volunteer will really need to follow through to reinforce their programming, to maintain their results. But the point is for you to see that you really can create rapid results in your health and your life if you really understand how to use your mind. You are incredible.

And I do wanna be clear though, that most people will not get results this fast on their. I make it look very easy because of the discoveries that I made. You'll wanna remember that there's so much more going on in our minds at a deeper level than people realize. That said, if you wanna send me any questions or comments, come visit me on my [email protected] slash podcast.

And if you're currently experiencing physical pain and would like to be a volunteer on the show, you can sign up there as well. Last. Please remember, if you do have any health issues, you won't want to avoid your doctors. Instead, you'll wanna continue seeing them and make it your goal to blow their minds with what you are capable of with your mind.

Thank you.