IQ-133 Transcript: Breaking Free From Perceived Selfishness For A Happier Healthier Life

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Welcome to Heal Yourself, Change Your Life. My name is Brandy Gillmore, and after recovering from my own life changing injury, it's become my mission to share with others the same discoveries I made that changed my health and my entire life. Our minds are truly incredible. The placebo is proof of this.

Each week, I will take this simple awareness to a whole new level. I will even coach live callers to free themselves of physical pain using only their mind. And then I'll provide you with a combination of practical and spiritual insights that you can use. To master your mind, your emotions, and your energy to help you heal your health, yourself, and your life.

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Hello, and welcome to this week's quick IQ episode, where we talk about insights and questions. And today I want to share with you a very important insight that likely. You may not think is that important, but it can impact people's lives in a variety of different ways. And it is the topic of being or feeling selfish or feeling like you're not supposed to be selfish.

And again, you may not feel like this pertains to you, or you may have. A lot of feelings about this topic, but I want to unpack this because it is definitely something that impacts people everywhere from health to finances to drug use to all kinds of things, which may sound odd. So I want to go ahead and unpack this.

And by the way, Part of the reason this is coming up is because our beautiful volunteer, Nicole, actually mentioned it on the last episode that she feels selfish. And again, this is something that can impact you in a variety of different ways. So I want to give you a few examples, even before we dive in, you know, I have worked with people who have felt that.

If they receive anything for themselves, it's selfish. And in these cases, like extreme cases, I have seen this impact people to the point of anorexia. Because in their body, in their being, at a subconscious level, they can feel as though they're not allowed to take in any nourishment. for themselves. And if they do, then it is selfish.

And so at a subconscious level, it's impacting them. Or in another case, I have seen this young man who grew up who believed that if he kept anything for himself, he was a really selfish guy. He was supposed to just give and give and give. And if it just keeping for himself, it was very selfish. Now there was a part of him that wanted Things for himself and it made him hate himself at a subconscious level.

He felt like he was a bad person, which was part of his spiral of drug use because it was so ingrained in him at a very young age not to be selfish. And so it brought about this feeling of loving self, but also hating self and all of these feelings. Now, on another level, not in an extreme case. But just in an average day to day case that I might see is that a person can feel that if they have more than others, that it's selfish.

And then what happens is somebody can be working and driving towards success in their lives and every time they start to get close, they sabotage it all. Why? Because if they have more than others, it would be quote unquote selfish. So they have these feelings in their subconscious mind. Or, of course It can apply towards health issues because a person can feel if they don't give away everything, that they're being selfish, or if they're not putting others first, that it can be selfish.

And so there's just a variety of different ways that this topic shows up, and it is hugely Most people don't even realize it's impacting them. And if you recall, the theme from last week's episode had to do with exactly that, with patterns that you don't realize are impacting you, but they are. And this is a huge one.

And so for that reason, I want to invite you to look at this in your life and really analyze what were your childhood about being selfish. What are your current day beliefs about being selfish? What does that really look like? Because for a lot of us, we can grow up with programming about being selfish, especially if you grew up with a lot of siblings.

I know for me personally, in my household growing up, you know, I grew up with four siblings, so there was five of us, and it felt like if you wanted anything for yourself, it was. Pretty much selfish, so, and maybe that's not exactly true, but it definitely had times that it felt that way. And of course there were things that you got to yourself, but it was, everything was about sharing and not sharing.

Something was definitely looked down upon. And while that could work as a child, of course, when you grow up, being able to have things for yourself. Now, if there are things that you want for yourself and you feel bad or guilty for it, it still can impact your health and your life. And there are plenty of children that this very energy can definitely be impacting their health.

And, by the way, you know, all of the time people will look back on their childhood patterning and they get upset about it or frustrated about it and want to blame or get mad at their parents. But, as I mentioned, you know, I had a lot of feelings about, you know, you have to share everything and anything less than that is selfish growing up.

And I can see my parents point why they did that. Do I necessarily agree with it? Maybe not a hundred percent, but I want to invite you also to look from this perspective. And you may have heard me use this example before, but you know, if you think about in childhood, a lot of us had diapers. Which worked as a child.

You know, we might have had diapers, we might have used the bottle, or whatever. But if you're walking around in diapers in college, or as an adult, it's probably not so cool. Doesn't work so well. And so, in other words, sometimes Programming that worked for us as a child doesn't work for us as an adult. We don't have to get upset at our parents for everything, but maybe sometimes realizing that a certain patterning may or may not have worked at a certain age, but won't work.

in your future or in your now. Um, and so looking at it and analyzing it and changing it. And that's what I really want to highlight on today's quick IQ episode is exactly that, is I want to invite you to analyze and reflect on your emotions around being selfish. You know, do you feel like you're a selfish person?

And is that fair? Are you being fair to yourself? Are you really selfish? What are your rules regarding that? And by the way, sometimes what will happen is people can also look at others and point out, Oh, well, others are being selfish. Others are being selfish. And it can affect them because they're pointing at others for being selfish and again, as we talked about on the last episode, that feeling of judging others can impact self.

And so that's something that I'd invite you to look at as well is in your life, are you pointing to others? And feeling like they're selfish. Are you feeling personally that if you have more, or if you get to have something for yourself, that you are feeling selfish? So again, I wanted to invite you to analyze this for yourself and see if it makes logical sense.

You know, I know that I have worked with a lot of mums who feel like it is selfish to do anything for themselves. So, if they want to go get a massage for themselves, or if they even want to just go spend time by themselves, and they have children, they feel as though they can't possibly do anything for themselves because that would be, you know, that would be, Selfish, at least, you know, by their rules.

I'm not saying it would be selfish. I'm just saying that that is the belief and so Notice there are different pieces of this where this could affect life in general or being a mom or having money or Anything really or again going back to the anorexia to that point So this can affect your life in a variety of different ways.

And so I want to invite you to To just take a moment and really analyze and see if this is something that is subconsciously impacting you. And if so, I want to invite you to write that down and then identify how you want to feel instead. You know, how you want to feel moving forward about being selfish and what that looks like in your life.

You know, what are your rules for that? What do you want programmed? In your subconscious mind, and get very clear on what that is, because ultimately, you know, to me personally, if we can have things that are ours, that we can have as our own, and also there are things that we can share, and also there are things that we can give, there's a balance there.

And it's a beautiful harmony of feeling like you can have for self, and it's okay to allow self to have certain things. And also to give, of course. And so to me, that is what makes the most sense. And of course, as I mentioned, I want to invite you to look at what this looks like in your life. All right, so that's today's quick IQ episode.

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As more and more people become empowered, it really will change our world. That is the point and the power of these demonstrations is to create a radical shift in our world consciousness by showing everyone what we are all capable of. And of course, each volunteer will really need to follow through to reinforce their programming to maintain their results.

But the point is for you to see that you really can create rapid results in your health and your life. If you really understand how to use your mind, you're incredible. And I do want to be clear though, that most people will not get results this fast on their own. I make it look very easy because of the discoveries that I made.

You'll want to remember that there's so much more going on in our minds at a deeper level than people realize. That said, if you want to send me any questions or comments, come visit me on my website at BrandyGillmore. com/podcast. And if you're currently experiencing physical pain and would like to be a volunteer on the show, you can sign up there as well.

Lastly, Please remember, if you do have any health issues, you won't want to avoid your doctors. Instead, you'll want to continue seeing them and make it your goal to blow their minds with what you're capable of with your mind.

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