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Welcome to Heal Yourself, Change Your Life. My name is Brandy Gillmore. And after recovering from my own life changing injury, it's become my mission to share with others the same discoveries I made that changed my health and my entire life. Minds are truly incredible. The placebo is proof of this. Each week, I will take this simple awareness to a whole new level.

I will even coach live callers to free themselves of physical pain, using only their mind. And then I'll provide you with a combination of practical and spiritual insights that you can use to master your mind, your emotions, and your energy. To help you heal your health, yourself, and your life. Let's begin.

Hello, and welcome to this week's quick IQ episode, where we talk about insights and questions. And today I want to share with you an extremely important. insight that is a misconception that actually creates a lot of pain in people's lives and can affect your health and create problems and hardship.

And most people don't even realize that it's happening. In fact, It is a huge misconception that I have seen so often that people end up programming their minds in the wrong direction that impacts them. And so as we step into today's IQ episode, we're going to do so in a way where I'm actually going to.

Kind of leave breadcrumbs to the answer before we get to the answer, just because it is such a popular misconception and people believe that it's true, that I know for a lot of people, they might have a disconnect where they might feel like the information that we're about to talk about is completely wrong.

We're going to bring in some facts and some information before we get to the answer so that your mind can follow the train of thought. So here we go. So, first and foremost, when we think about it for a moment, the very things that bring us love and connection are the things that our subconscious mind will want to move towards.

Now, a simple way to illustrate this is if we think about children, you know, we've all heard before that if a child doesn't get positive attention, then they'll reach out for negative attention. Now, of course, this isn't something that is conscious. You know, it's not like every five year old texts each other and says, Hey, by the way, if you don't get positive attention, try to get negative attention.

You know, this has been going on in our culture for a long period of time because the subconscious mind needs to connect. It needs attention. It needs love. It needs that human bonding and it will do whatever it can to move in the direction of love and connection. One way to picture that, the analogy that I typically use is if you picture a tree or a plant, and if you've ever seen a tree or a plant grow in the direction of the sun where maybe it has to grow completely sideways because that's the direction that the sun is coming in or towards the window or whatever it is, but you know, we've all seen a tree or a plant grow in an odd way.

to reach the sun. And similarly, our subconscious minds will want to go in the direction of that connection, of human connection, even if we don't consciously realize it. So that is our basic foundation that we're going to start with. Now, if we look at it for a moment, people connect in all types of ways.

They might connect on social media. They might connect through games, through talking, through sports, through having similar hobbies, through dancing, through music, she knows. So many different ways, and we can find depth in that connection. You know, if you picture a couple who are on their honeymoon, there's such a deep connection there, or if we picture people who are having a wonderful time and just being really present at dinner or sharing their dreams or connecting.

And so when we stop and think about it. There can be beautiful ways to connect. And if you've ever done this before, where you're just really present with somebody around you or people around you, and you just feel like you have this epic time, maybe it's at a dinner or with a friend, or even just going for a walk and a talk and a hike or whatever that is.

And in fact, I just was hanging out with a friend and, you know, we. Had a morning exercise and just talking and being really present. It felt really bonding and loving and sweet and fun. And we were just talking about random things, but just being very present and walking along the water, you know, just along the ocean and the beach.

It just, it was just beautiful. And it was just a morning walk and it was sweet. But point being is it wasn't exactly what we were talking about. It was the presence. It was the moment. It was being present and just laughing and connecting and enjoying the moment. And that is my point. And that is exactly where we're going.

is that all of the time I've seen people who are in the personal growth or spiritual space and they feel like real depth is connecting over wounds. And I can't tell you how many times I've heard people say that because that's how they feel inside. Now, this is the part that I really want to invite you to look at with an open mind.

Whatever our nervous systems link up to deep love and connection, the more we're going to want that connection, the more we're going to attract things on that level. And so this is a very important point to really analyze in your life. And if we unpack this even further, if we stop and think about it for a moment, you know, imagine football for a moment.

Now, some people would say football connects you at a level zero. It's so shallow. I don't even get it. And then other people would say, I feel so connected and the sense of camaraderie and family and unity with my family and friends over football. And we all have this in common. And the best thing about it is we all get together and we cheer and we laugh and we root for the same team.

And it's just this beautiful connection. And again, of course, other people would say football, blah. What's most important to note is how we feel connected. So it's not football or not football. It's again, that feeling of connection. Now, if we build on this and we even think about for a moment. A cutter who cuts themselves.

They can experience feelings of relief or euphoria from cutting themselves. And that's exactly the point, is that we as human beings can get a deep sense of connection and camaraderie linked up over trauma. We can also get connection and a deep sense of camaraderie linked up over something like football or baseball.

Or, working out or just being present, laughing, connecting, celebrating. We can have a deep sense of presence and connection over happy, wonderful things, over celebrating the holidays and being present. We can have that deep sense of connection. And by the way, I'm going to provide you with one more really pivotal example and it's this.

It's If you imagine for a moment that when there's a natural disaster, you know, if you picture two different people who are going through a natural disaster, one person may have a life that feels very full and very connected. And so let's say the natural disaster happens and they feel extremely displaced.

In their life, suddenly, there's a feeling of loss of love, of loss of connection, you know, they feel like they can't connect with their friends that they normally would, or in their work, or their family, and so they feel and experience an extreme loss of connection. However, let's say that there is somebody else who has a life that feels very disconnected.

In which case, if a natural disaster happens for them, they may experience it as an extreme feeling of connectedness, of community, of coming together. And they may experience more love than they've had for a long period of time. And so from this, we can see that two people can go through the same type of situation and have a completely different emotional experience that then continues to impact them.

In a very different way, in which case one person's mind may want to hold on to the trauma or even manifest more and more hardship because if that is linked up, that hardship is a deep sense of connectedness and love, then the mind could want to manifest even more of that at a subconscious level. So I know this is extremely counterintuitive.

Um, but that's the reason, as I mentioned in the very beginning, that I wanted to unpack this step by step because this can happen at a subconscious level in the mind and most people don't realize it's happening. Now going back to what I mentioned in the very beginning, what is happening more and more is that people who have this linked up in their subconscious mind, they might say something like real connection is when you really talk about the wounding and the hardship They believe it because that's what feels like real connection to them.

They experience that feeling and they believe that to be true. Now by the way, I have worked with one person after another after another and so many people who had that linked up that I helped them to reprogram their mind that instead that success and connection and love and just being present had that same deep connection.

But over positive things, like having a dinner, like going for a walk, like laughing and enjoying. And so what happens is that the subconscious mind then wants to experience more of that. And you do find depth in that and joy in that, in sharing your dreams or having moments. Again, if you think about a.

Couple on their honeymoon, there's a depth there or just falling in love and enjoying or talking about positive things and loving or listening to music and melting into it together. I mean, just, there are so many beautiful and positive ways that you can connect. And so that's what I wanted to share with you on today's episode is that as you're going through the holidays, I encourage you to be present, to enjoy, to find the depth in a smile, to find the depth in just enjoying and being present and laughing.

Because when you can find the depth in that, your soul wants more of that laughter, that fun, that connection, that happiness in life and imagine if your life looks like that. So, bringing everything together. This is today's quick IQ episode. And from this, I want to invite you to notice what you're really feeling.

And of course, make a point to find even more depth and enjoyment and passion and connecting in the moment in a positive ways. Now, I want to be clear, I'm not saying just avoid the negative. And don't address it and pretend like it's not there. That's not at all what I'm saying. You know, as you, if you've heard me on past episodes, of course, I'm addressing the negative with people.

And of course, going even deeper, genuinely releasing the negative from your subconscious mind is important. So I'm not saying just completely ignore that it's there. What I'm saying is that you don't want to connect over it, that whatever you're connecting over in life will continue to manifest. And so by connecting over passion and love and being present and dancing or laughing or like the more you connect in that way and feel that.

The more that that will grow and manifest in your life. And by the way, I have seen people and worked with people who had very, very successful, happy lives. You know, when I, when I say successful, I don't just mean with business, but yes, business too, but successful relationships and family and connection, all of these things and felt like, okay, well, they wanted to take their life to the next level of spirituality and connecting even more spiritually.

And then got some beliefs in their mind that said they should then, you know, connect more with the negative and sit with the negative and really share their inner wounding and started doing that and connecting in that way. And then started attracting more and more and more problems and hardship. And, and so I've seen people sabotage their lives.

By connecting in this way. So the goal, again, isn't to avoid the negative and pretend like it's not there, instead it's to make a point to notice your connection with people and connecting in the positive and feeling that and amplifying that so you attract more and more of that in your life because as you do that, that fuels your happiness, your health and what you're manifesting and so it's just, it's beautiful.

And of course, wouldn't that be beautiful if every single person in the world was connecting over passion and joy and happiness and being present and laughing and dancing and, I mean, that would just be incredible to have that energy and those patterns. You know, we, all the time you'll hear me on past episodes, use the example of the woman with the abusive father who leaves him and finds the abusive boyfriend, boss, spouse, et cetera, et cetera.

You know, those unfortunate Patterns continue in our lives, but the beautiful thing is, is that positive patterns can also continue to repeat themselves and play out in different ways as well. And so, point being, is that you want to make sure, of course, to fuel the positive for your health, for your happiness, and for your life, and that would just be beautiful if we looked around the world and everybody.

was doing that and living in that way. I mean, just incredible. And so on that note, I want to ask you to please do make a point to hit the share button on this episode. You know, share with somebody you love, somebody you care about, or somebody you don't even know, because the more happy and healthy and empowered that every single person is in our world, the better this world is for all of us.

And so on that note, please do make a point to have a most wonderful, incredible, loving rest of your day. And I look forward to connecting with you on the next episode. We'll see you there.

Thank you for listening to Heal Yourself, Change Your Life. All of the time people reach out and say how much these episodes have given them hope or touch their heart or help them stay positive in hard times or even woken them up to a completely new level of awareness. Of how amazing we all really are.

If today's episode touched your heart or expanded your mind in any way, please do me a favor and be sure to share it with those you care about, or those, you know, who really need it. As more and more people become empowered, it really will change our world for the better. That is the point and the power of these demonstrations is to create a radical shift in our world consciousness by showing everyone.

And of course, each volunteer will really need to follow through to reinforce their programming to maintain their results. But the point is for you to see that you really can create rapid results in your health and your life. If you really understand how to use your mind, you're incredible. And I do want to be clear though, that most people will not get results this fast on their own.

I make it look very easy because of the discoveries that I made. You'll want to remember that there's so much more going on in our minds at a deeper level than people realize. That said, if you want to send me any questions or comments, come visit me on my website at brandygillmore. com/podcast.

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Thank you.