IQ-144 Transcript: Hidden Keys to Healing: 2 Key Insights for Self-Healing, Loneliness & Transformation

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Welcome to Heal Yourself, Change Your Life. My name is Brandy Gillmore. And after recovering from my own life changing injury, it's become my mission to share with others the same discoveries I made that changed my health and my entire life. Minds are truly incredible. The placebo is proof of this. Each week, I will take this simple awareness to a whole new level.

I will even coach live callers to free themselves of physical pain, using only their mind. And then I'll provide you with a combination of practical and spiritual insights that you can use to master your mind, your emotions, and your energy. to help you heal your health, yourself, and your life. Let's begin.

Hello and welcome to this week's quick IQ episode where we talk about insights and questions. And today I want to share with you a few really powerful insights regarding human connection and how that can impact your health and some things that you could look at in your mindset to even connect more with others and that can also Impact and improve your health, your life, your healing, your longevity, all of that.

And so that's where we're going today. And before we dive into those insights, I just have to say something that I love is this, is that, you know, when I was going through my injury and researching, I would have thought initially You know, back in 2005, you know, almost 20 years ago now, but, but 2008 in there, I would have thought, and I did think that, you know, emotions are so insignificant.

I absolutely thought that. And I know that a lot of people have. And one of the things that I love is even in 2023, the Surgeon General released a statement and an entire report and, you know, an entire advisory report on the healing effects. And when you stop and think about it for a moment, the fact that our Surgeon General is actually releasing a report on the healing effects of social connection just shows how much more and more people are waking up to the awareness of emotions and the impact and that we're headed in the direction of awareness and waking up.

And by the way, even in his report, which I'll share a link. In the show notes for you on my website, so I'll share a link to it, but even in his report he says, when I first took office as Surgeon General in 2014, I didn't view loneliness as a public health concern. And so if you think about that, you know back in 2014 not viewing loneliness as a public health concern and yet here we are with this statement about the healing effects of social connection.

And what I love is even in the report, he goes on to say, you know, loneliness is far more than just a bad feeling. And he continues and it says, you know, it's associated with greater risk of cardiovascular disease, dementia, stroke, depression, anxiety, and premature death. And then the information continues on.

One of the things that I love, you know, even back in 2016, when I did my TEDx talk on the healing effects of bringing in positive emotions and letting go of negative emotions and even getting rid of loneliness, et cetera. So even when I did my TEDx talk on this. topic. Ted made a note at the bottom of my TED Talk that said, you know, researchers and doctors don't yet support this or something like that.

You know, that's the gist. It's not word for word, but point being is that, of course, Ted liked the talk and they posted it and all of this, so Ted is wonderful. And my point being is look at how far we've come and look at the level of waking up to the awareness that, hey, emotions really do impact our health, our happiness, our life, our longevity.

And by the way, if you are somebody who likes to kind of geek out on a bit of the technical, I know I am. I do, but a lot of times when I do these insights, I try to make it something that you won't hear somewhere else or, you know, that can expand your mind. And by the way, as far as some of the technical stuff, we are going to be diving into even more of the understanding of energy and how it works and the technical stuff behind it.

So that is going to be on upcoming episodes. So it's not that I don't want to do technical episodes because we will be breaking apart some of that and geeking out. on some of that information. But I really like to do things that you won't find anywhere else or even things that you can implement and really start applying into your life that will expand your mind and think in a different way, which is part of where we are going today.

But just saying that if you are somebody who likes to geek out on the technical, then you may want to check this report out just because. It does break down studies and information about how human connection can also improve healing and health and the impact of loneliness and disconnect when it comes to longevity and diabetes and coronary heart disease.

And that also. That as we improve human connection, that it can improve biomarkers, and reduce oxidative stress, and improve cardiovascular numbers, and it, all of it. So it does really break down the information, and the studies, and numbers, so you can really see the data behind emotions and human connection.

And so, again, I just love how far our world has come, and the awareness that, hey, emotions are important, and that our world is is starting to wake up and also, of course, the importance of human connection. And so that's also where I want to go. You know, when you stop and think about it for a moment, the fact and the awareness that we have over 8 billion people on the planet.

And yet, loneliness is a huge factor. It tells you that we have a core issue, several core issues in our world, in our mindset. You know, logically, there should never be a person who's experiencing loneliness in a world of 8 billion people. That should be impossible to experience loneliness. So of course, that tells you that if there are 8 billion people on the planet And there's a problem with loneliness that that problem starts on the inside is in our mindset because there should be no physical logical reason that anybody feels lonely.

And so I want to talk about a few key insights. that do keep people stuck. Because, you know, as we just talked about, loneliness is very real. And, you know, if you think about past episodes, every episode you see me work with people and show them how to release pain and create a radical shift in their health and their life.

And it's not typically just one emotion. So in my work, I have found that it's a combination of emotions, as we've discussed on past episodes. And the simple analogy you hear me use all of the time to really illustrate the awareness that it takes multiple emotions is just thinking about multiple ingredients in a recipe for food.

You know, if somebody wants to make cake and they have flour. Well, they can't make cake, but if they have flour and mix it with eggs and butter or vegan eggs and butter or whatnot, now there's multiple ingredients, now they can make cake. Or, of course, if they change the emotional ingredients, if you will, then there's a different recipe.

And so, similarly, that's how I see the connection with illnesses. You know, it's a combination of emotions. But, loneliness, love, connection, is part of that combination. It's an important ingredient. And so, if you're lacking that in your life, then you're definitely going to want to transform that. Now, there are two important insights that I really want to share with you, and it's this.

You know, a lot of times what can happen is that people will get stored up emotions. And triggers in their mindset that then make them feel not good around others. And let me explain. You know, imagine for a moment if somebody went to go drive a car and they had so many triggers regarding driving that as soon as they got into a car, they felt hurt, rejection, upset, angry, awkward, and disconnected.

As soon as they got into a car. In that case, it would not feel fun to drive a car or to go for a road trip if you're triggered with all of these negative emotions. Now, by the way, I have to say personally, I love going for long drives. I love going for road trips. There's something about the road, the scenery, seeing people.

I just, I love that. Road trips. But anyways, the point being is that if you had all of these negative emotions, it would take the fun out of driving. Now, similarly, what's happening for a lot of people is they have all of these stored up subconscious emotions towards social connection that then they go around people and they have fear or upset or criticism or judgments or insecurities or, you know, all of these different emotions that come up.

In which case, it feels less and less fun to be around people, and so a lot of times, people might spend less time connecting, or they don't feel as great about connecting. And if that is the case for you, I want to invite you to look at that in your life, and be willing to start resolving and shutting down those emotional processes.

Because what happens is, as you genuinely transform them, it feels good. To hang out with people. It feels connecting and loving and wonderful and fun. And by the way, some of the biggest culprits that people may experience are feelings of feeling not good enough or insecure or inferior. So of course, with those emotions going on inside.

A lot of people don't feel like connecting. And that's exactly the point is that part of what's happening is that there is this disconnect where people are feeling less and less connected, less and less social. And then you hear data that says, Hey, social connection can help improve your life. But because these underlying emotions exist, a lot of times people think inside of themselves, I don't want to connect with more people.

And so what can happen is people feel lonely inside and they simultaneously don't feel like connecting with others, don't want to. And so if you've experienced that, I want to invite you to look at what is really going on inside of you. What are the emotional triggers or subconscious emotions that are running?

Because another thing that people will say is they'll say something like, you know, being social takes a lot of energy or a lot out of you. Which is also another sign that there are negative emotions running in the subconscious mind because Those emotions, if that energy, if it felt good, it's something you feel energized by.

And so food for thought on that. Now there's another key insight that I want to bring to the surface that is also fueling these feelings of disconnect. And it's this, it's that in our culture, we've normalized judging and criticizing others, or cancel culture, people have righteousness in canceling others for some type of mistake and berating others, or even if you think about it for a moment, if a woman wears an outfit that others don't like to the Academy Awards, in our culture, It has become an acceptable thing to do to label her the worst dressed person and criticize her hair or her dress or what she's not doing.

I mean, could you have imagined a few hundred years ago that millions of people would sit around and critique somebody's hair or judge somebody's behavior or criticize what somebody's wearing and that it would be okay? that people would do that? Now, the point that I want to note is not necessarily about creating a victim story about what's occurring.

Our thoughts are creating our life. So it's not about creating a victim story that's occurring, but rather the awareness that we've normalized having a critical mindset or a judgmental mindset. And what people don't realize Is it affects their own health? I can't tell you how many times I've worked with people who were judging or critical of others or speaking poorly about others and it was affecting their own health or their relationships or their income.

And by the way, that's kind of an interesting topic in and of itself is that I'll work with people, you know, with life coaching, with helping them to understand how to use their mind to radically change their lives. And I can't tell you how often I've worked with people who were. Speaking poorly about others, leaving negative comments on social media to others, and it was affecting their own income.

And they had no idea. So there they are, struggling and having a hard time. And part of what's in their energy is saying, oh, well, look, you're abusing other people, you're being mean or critical or judge, judging and leaving negative comments towards others. Well, of course that's impacting your own income, your Taking others down.

You're being mean to others. You're brutalizing others. And of course, you know, not saying anybody's a victim that, you know, everybody's attracting what they're attracting. Just simply saying that we've normalized judging and being critical and speaking poorly or leaving negative comments online towards others and people don't realize that that it is impacting their own health, their own relationships, their own life, their own income, their own success, and have no idea.

And so that is what I wanted to highlight today, is exactly that. And by the way, it's not necessarily even just about Leaving comments online or speaking negatively about others, even inside, if your mind has a tendency to fault find or judge others, then likely, in one way or another, it's affecting your life in some way, you know, whether it's your health or your income or your relationships or feeling insecure in connection, likely.

It's impacting you in one way or another. Most people just don't realize it's happening. And so that's the second insight that I really wanted to leave you with today is exactly that is that if you are somebody who does have a critical or judgmental mindset, then I would strongly encourage you to change that for your own healing, happiness, success, and wellbeing.

Or if you are somebody who doesn't have that, I just want to give you the warning ahead of time that you don't want to fall into that mindset. You know, if you think about it, cancel culture is a fairly new thing and likely it'll be around for a while, but instead of being called cancel culture, it should probably be called cancer culture.

Because it is a negativity that is creating a lot of disconnect in our culture and not just cancel culture itself, but just the thinking, you know, the critical judgmental way of thinking and being. And now I've outlined all of that, but there are also a lot of people waking up. And I love that. You know, even if you think about the Surgeon General's report that I just mentioned, there are more and more people waking up to the awareness of emotions and also more.

People who are centered around culture and human connection and that it is okay to make mistakes and moving that forward. You know, I know with me and my team, what happens typically if somebody on my team makes a mistake, the first thing I usually say is this, is I say, you know, I don't know about you, but.

I have never made a mistake in my entire life. And of course I say, okay, now that we know that's not true, what do we need to do to fix it? You know, just having an attitude of saying, okay, let's let the mistake go. And what do we need to do to move it forward? And I invite you also as an additional insight to adopt that, to think about in your own life.

If you make a mistake, kind of just remind yourself, Hey, everybody has made a mistake. Let it go and move on and make it great. You know, make life great. And so that said, moving this all forward, I want to invite you to look at these insights in your own life and see if your mind is working in this way.

You know, the first insight we had talked about was being around people and having a lot of internal emotional triggers that. It makes you not want to connect with people as much. You know, you hear the phrase, I just don't like people, or, you know, another one that I hear all of the time where people say, I like my cat or dogs better than I do people, you know?

And so, you know, I hear. People saying that, and it's, of course, because the subconscious patterning and programming, and when we genuinely change that, it's incredible. You know, of course, human connection and love and laughter and happiness and joy can be some of the most amazing, rewarding, Fun, beautiful connections in life.

And actually I just went to a friend's birthday yesterday and I have to say, you know, just sitting around with a group of friends and laughing and connecting and enjoying and just enjoying a meal together and it was just. Beautiful. You know, I could have done that all day. It just was a really great, wonderful feeling.

And so moving it forward in that direction, I want to invite you to reflect on these insights and see if either of these are impacting your life. And by the way, I have to tell you, as far as the critical mindset of a person being critical or judgmental of others, it is something that I do see. Again, just wanting to emphasize, I see this impact people so much more than they realize on every level from health to income to their own happiness or depression or relationships or whatnot.

And so, If this is something in your life, I invite you to not follow the cultural norm of criticism and judgment and whatnot, but instead the new trend, the better trend, the more positive trend of feeling that sense of connection and community and love. and enjoyment and respecting each other, loving each other and moving in that direction.

So those are the insights from today. And as always, I want to ask you to please do make a point to hit the share button on this episode, you know, share it with somebody you love. Somebody you care about or somebody you don't even know, because the more people who can take this information in their lives and implement it and create a change and create more love and happiness and healing, the better this world is for all of us.

And so please do make a point to hit the share button and please do make a point to have a most wonderful, incredible rest of your day. And I look forward to connecting with you on the next episode. We'll see you there.

Thank you for listening to Heal Yourself, Change Your Life. All of the time people reach out and say how much these episodes have given them hope or touch their heart or help them stay positive in hard times or even woken them up to a completely new level of awareness. Of how amazing we all really are.

If today's episode touched your heart or expanded your mind in any way, please do me a favor and be sure to share it with those you care about or those, you know, who really need it. As more and more people become empowered, it really will change our world for the better. That is the point and the power of these demonstrations is to create a radical shift in our world consciousness by showing everyone.

And of course, each volunteer will really need to follow through to reinforce their programming to maintain their results. But the point is for you to see that you really can create rapid results in your health and your life. If you really understand how to use your mind, you're incredible. And I do want to be clear though, that most people will not get results this fast on their own.

I make it look very easy because of the discoveries that I made. You'll want to remember that there's so much more going on in our minds at a deeper level than people realize. That said, if you want to send me any questions or comments, come visit me on my website at

And if you're currently experiencing physical pain and would like to be a volunteer on the show, you can sign up there as well. Lastly Please remember, if you do have any health issues, you won't want to avoid your doctors. Instead, you'll want to continue seeing them and make it your goal to blow their minds with what you're capable of with your mind.

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