Welcome to Heal Yourself, Change Your Life.
My name is Brandy Gillmore, and after recovering from my own life changing injury, it’s become my mission to share with others the same discoveries I made that changed my health and my entire life. Our minds are truly incredible. The placebo is proof of this.
Each week I will take this simple awareness to a whole new level. I’ll even coach live callers to free themselves of physical pain using only their mind, and then I’ll provide you with a combination of practical and spiritual insights that you can use to master your mind, your emotions, and your energy to help you heal your health, yourself, and your life.
Let’s begin.
Opening and Topic Introduction
Hello and happy beautiful day to you.
On today’s quick IQ episode, we’re going to talk about the topic of receiving because I have had some questions regarding that topic. So often people may have feelings of guilt about receiving, or I’ve seen more and more people actually also create disconnect or hurt or add some wounding regarding the topic of receiving.
And so I wanna go ahead and unpack that.
Part of the reason is because we’ve received some comments and questions regarding this topic. A few podcast episodes ago, I worked with a beautiful volunteer by the name of Wild, and part of what we talked about is she had a lot of guilt about receiving.
Guilt About Receiving and Spirituality
As some people heard that topic about the guilt about receiving, one of the things I mentioned in that episode is I also said that feeling of graciousness in receiving — like when we receive from somebody, we can also create a graciousness but also a reciprocity.
Where we can feel really grateful but then also give and receive, and we create that flow.
Now, the question that came in was this: I’ve had a few people say that they learned through spirituality that if you feel a need for reciprocity, it’s actually telling the universe that you don’t deserve.
Let me unpack this because this could go the wrong way.
When Reciprocity Is Misunderstood
I’ve heard this and I’ve had this question many times throughout the years, so I want to unpack this because there are specifics to it.
Let’s say that you receive something and immediately feel the need to give it away. For example:
- You receive a shirt you’ve wanted, and then you immediately feel like you need to give it away.
- You receive money and you immediately feel like you need to give it away or get rid of it.
- You get money and feel like you have to give it all away.
That might be an issue with receiving and not feeling good about it.
So yes — it’s important to not feel the need to reciprocate immediately by giving something away. Absolutely.
The Beauty of Healthy Reciprocity
However, there is also a magic in reciprocity — in giving and receiving — that actually creates more giving, more flow, more love, and more sweetness.
Think of it like this:
Let’s say you give somebody something and they are so grateful, they go, “Oh my gosh, I love this so much,” and they want to reciprocate in different ways. Maybe they want to do this or that for you. What happens is that it creates a love fest — you receive and then give and then receive.
It creates a beautiful flow.
The Risk of Removing Reciprocity Altogether
I’ve seen some people who have been on the spiritual path for years, and somewhere along the way they heard that if somebody gives them something, they should just receive it without any feelings of reciprocity.
I would say this can actually create a disconnect in the ebb and flow of giving.
Think about it: If you are giving to people who are just always receiving, always receiving, always receiving, it starts to feel like a one-way thing.
Creating a “Love Fest” of Giving and Receiving
For me personally, I love to give.
When I have people in my life who also love to give, it creates that beautiful love fest:
“Oh, let me do this for you.”
“Oh, let me do that for you.”
It’s thoughtful and sweet.
It doesn’t have to be calculated — it just flows naturally and feels incredible.
But if someone only wants to receive, it starts to feel one-sided. That doesn’t feel like a flow.
Answering the Spirituality Question
So, going back to the original question — “If you receive and feel a need to reciprocate, is that bad?” — I would strongly disagree that it’s bad.
Reciprocity can create a sweetness around giving and receiving that builds community and love in your life.
It’s not about giving the exact same thing back. It’s about thoughtfulness.
Reciprocity can be as simple as giving a hug, offering heartfelt gratitude, making someone dinner, or doing something kind in return.
It’s the energy behind it that matters.
Compliments and Everyday Reciprocity
Even with something as small as a compliment, there’s a way to reciprocate thoughtfully.
If someone compliments me, I don’t have to say, “Oh, well you have great this or great that,” just to match the compliment.
Instead, I can say:
“You’re so sweet,” or
“You’re so thoughtful.”
It’s genuine, and it still creates that love fest feeling.
Why I Disagree With “Just Receive”
There’s a message in some spiritual communities that says:
“If somebody gives to you, just receive and be grateful. You don’t need reciprocity.”
I would very strongly disagree.
It’s not that you have to reciprocate — it’s that you want to from a beautiful place.
It doesn’t have to be equal or material — it can simply be thoughtfulness, sweetness, caring.
When that is present, it creates more love, more joy, more connection for everyone involved.
The Health Connection
I’ve even seen people’s health and happiness impacted when they give and give but refuse to receive.
Some people end up feeling resentment because they’re always doing for others but never allowing love back in.
Receiving — even in small ways like a hug, a meal, or kind words — can restore that balance and sweetness.
Increasing Love Through Balanced Giving and Receiving
Look at your relationships and see how this love fest of giving and receiving shows up.
If someone offers you something and you say:
“Oh no, no, I couldn’t possibly accept that,”
you might be shutting off the flow of love.
Instead, try saying:
“Thank you so much,” and then reciprocate in your own thoughtful way.
This keeps the flow alive.
Final Thoughts
Whether it’s giving or receiving, doing both well increases love — but always in a healthy way. Not as a way to buy friendship or love, and not to the point of depleting yourself.
The goal is to create that sweet reciprocity — a love fest — in your life.
Could you imagine a world where everyone was participating in that kind of giving and receiving? It would be beautiful.
So I invite you to create that energy in your life.
And, if you’d like, share this episode with someone you care about — or even with someone you don’t know. The more people experiencing love, joy, and connection, the better our world becomes.
Closing Message
Thank you for listening to Heal Yourself, Change Your Life.
So many people tell me how much these episodes give them hope, touch their hearts, or awaken them to a whole new awareness of what’s possible.
If this episode touched your heart, please share it with others.
Together, we can create a radical shift in world consciousness.
And remember — you truly can create rapid results in your health and life when you understand how to use your mind.
You are incredible.
I do want to be clear though — most people will not get results this fast on their own.
I make it look very easy because of the discoveries that I made.
You’ll want to remember that there’s so much more going on in our minds at a deeper level than people realize.
How to Connect with Me
That said, if you want to send me any questions or comments, come visit me on my website at:
brandygillmore.com/podcast
And if you’re currently experiencing physical pain and would like to be a volunteer on the show, you can sign up there as well.
Final Health Note
Lastly, please remember — if you do have any health issues, you won’t want to avoid your doctors.
Instead, you’ll want to continue seeing them and make it your goal to blow their minds with what you are capable of with your mind.
