What if the love, connection, and emotional healing you’re healing you're wanting isn’t just about how much you give… but about how open you are to truly receive?
Have you ever found it difficult to receive love, support, or even compliments while giving endlessly to others? Or maybe you've been doing “everything right” on your healing journey, but still feel emotionally stuck or energetically disconnected.
In this heart-opening episode, Brandy explores the beautiful (and often overlooked) role of gracious receiving and thoughtful reciprocity—and how these subtle energies can profoundly shift your relationships, your joy, and your capacity to heal.
Whether you’ve been struggling with emotional blocks to healing, feeling unappreciated in one-sided relationships, or simply sensing that something’s missing despite your spiritual work… this episode is here to help you reconnect with the flow of love.
You’ll learn:
If you’ve ever:
…then this episode is for you.
You might be gently surprised by how deeply this episode touches your heart.
When love flows freely (both in giving and receiving) it becomes a beautiful force for healing, connection, and transformation in every area of your life. Are you open to receive it?
IMPORTANT NOTE: We understand that some may believe mind-body healing is impossible. Therefore, if you would like to see images of individuals using their minds to relieve pain, you can check out this medical journal. It includes images from some of Brandy's case studies. If you want to learn how to use your mind to heal yourself, you can check out the training on Brandy's website. Each week, Brandy publishes a volunteer episode where she coaches a volunteer to heal themselves using their own mind. In addition, Brandy shares a quick IQ episode (Insights and Questions) where she answers listener questions or delves deeper into insights on working with the mind for healing.
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Welcome to Heal Yourself, Change Your Life.
My name is Brandy Gillmore, and after recovering from my own life changing injury, it’s become my mission to share with others the same discoveries I made that changed my health and my entire life. Our minds are truly incredible. The placebo is proof of this.
Each week I will take this simple awareness to a whole new level. I’ll even coach live callers to free themselves of physical pain using only their mind, and then I’ll provide you with a combination of practical and spiritual insights that you can use to master your mind, your emotions, and your energy to help you heal your health, yourself, and your life.
Let’s begin.
Hello and happy beautiful day to you.
On today’s quick IQ episode, we’re going to talk about the topic of receiving because I have had some questions regarding that topic. So often people may have feelings of guilt about receiving, or I’ve seen more and more people actually also create disconnect or hurt or add some wounding regarding the topic of receiving.
And so I wanna go ahead and unpack that.
Part of the reason is because we’ve received some comments and questions regarding this topic. A few podcast episodes ago, I worked with a beautiful volunteer by the name of Wild, and part of what we talked about is she had a lot of guilt about receiving.
As some people heard that topic about the guilt about receiving, one of the things I mentioned in that episode is I also said that feeling of graciousness in receiving — like when we receive from somebody, we can also create a graciousness but also a reciprocity.
Where we can feel really grateful but then also give and receive, and we create that flow.
Now, the question that came in was this: I’ve had a few people say that they learned through spirituality that if you feel a need for reciprocity, it’s actually telling the universe that you don’t deserve.
Let me unpack this because this could go the wrong way.
I’ve heard this and I’ve had this question many times throughout the years, so I want to unpack this because there are specifics to it.
Let’s say that you receive something and immediately feel the need to give it away. For example:
That might be an issue with receiving and not feeling good about it.
So yes — it’s important to not feel the need to reciprocate immediately by giving something away. Absolutely.
However, there is also a magic in reciprocity — in giving and receiving — that actually creates more giving, more flow, more love, and more sweetness.
Think of it like this:
Let’s say you give somebody something and they are so grateful, they go, “Oh my gosh, I love this so much,” and they want to reciprocate in different ways. Maybe they want to do this or that for you. What happens is that it creates a love fest — you receive and then give and then receive.
It creates a beautiful flow.
I’ve seen some people who have been on the spiritual path for years, and somewhere along the way they heard that if somebody gives them something, they should just receive it without any feelings of reciprocity.
I would say this can actually create a disconnect in the ebb and flow of giving.
Think about it: If you are giving to people who are just always receiving, always receiving, always receiving, it starts to feel like a one-way thing.
For me personally, I love to give.
When I have people in my life who also love to give, it creates that beautiful love fest:
“Oh, let me do this for you.”
“Oh, let me do that for you.”
It’s thoughtful and sweet.
It doesn’t have to be calculated — it just flows naturally and feels incredible.
But if someone only wants to receive, it starts to feel one-sided. That doesn’t feel like a flow.
So, going back to the original question — “If you receive and feel a need to reciprocate, is that bad?” — I would strongly disagree that it’s bad.
Reciprocity can create a sweetness around giving and receiving that builds community and love in your life.
It’s not about giving the exact same thing back. It’s about thoughtfulness.
Reciprocity can be as simple as giving a hug, offering heartfelt gratitude, making someone dinner, or doing something kind in return.
It’s the energy behind it that matters.
Even with something as small as a compliment, there’s a way to reciprocate thoughtfully.
If someone compliments me, I don’t have to say, “Oh, well you have great this or great that,” just to match the compliment.
Instead, I can say:
“You’re so sweet,” or
“You’re so thoughtful.”
It’s genuine, and it still creates that love fest feeling.
There’s a message in some spiritual communities that says:
“If somebody gives to you, just receive and be grateful. You don’t need reciprocity.”
I would very strongly disagree.
It’s not that you have to reciprocate — it’s that you want to from a beautiful place.
It doesn’t have to be equal or material — it can simply be thoughtfulness, sweetness, caring.
When that is present, it creates more love, more joy, more connection for everyone involved.
I’ve even seen people’s health and happiness impacted when they give and give but refuse to receive.
Some people end up feeling resentment because they’re always doing for others but never allowing love back in.
Receiving — even in small ways like a hug, a meal, or kind words — can restore that balance and sweetness.
Look at your relationships and see how this love fest of giving and receiving shows up.
If someone offers you something and you say:
“Oh no, no, I couldn’t possibly accept that,”
you might be shutting off the flow of love.
Instead, try saying:
“Thank you so much,” and then reciprocate in your own thoughtful way.
This keeps the flow alive.
Whether it’s giving or receiving, doing both well increases love — but always in a healthy way. Not as a way to buy friendship or love, and not to the point of depleting yourself.
The goal is to create that sweet reciprocity — a love fest — in your life.
Could you imagine a world where everyone was participating in that kind of giving and receiving? It would be beautiful.
So I invite you to create that energy in your life.
And, if you’d like, share this episode with someone you care about — or even with someone you don’t know. The more people experiencing love, joy, and connection, the better our world becomes.
Thank you for listening to Heal Yourself, Change Your Life.
So many people tell me how much these episodes give them hope, touch their hearts, or awaken them to a whole new awareness of what’s possible.
If this episode touched your heart, please share it with others.
Together, we can create a radical shift in world consciousness.
And remember — you truly can create rapid results in your health and life when you understand how to use your mind.
You are incredible.
I do want to be clear though — most people will not get results this fast on their own.
I make it look very easy because of the discoveries that I made.
You’ll want to remember that there’s so much more going on in our minds at a deeper level than people realize.
That said, if you want to send me any questions or comments, come visit me on my website at:
And if you’re currently experiencing physical pain and would like to be a volunteer on the show, you can sign up there as well.
Lastly, please remember — if you do have any health issues, you won’t want to avoid your doctors.
Instead, you’ll want to continue seeing them and make it your goal to blow their minds with what you are capable of with your mind.
IMPORTANT NOTE: We understand that some may believe mind-body healing is impossible. Therefore, if you would like to see images of individuals using their minds to relieve pain, you can check out this medical journal. It includes images from some of Brandy's case studies. If you want to learn how to use your mind to heal yourself, you can check out the training on Brandy's website. Each week, Brandy publishes a volunteer episode where she coaches a volunteer to heal themselves using their own mind. In addition, Brandy shares a quick IQ episode (Insights and Questions) where she answers listener questions or delves deeper into insights on working with the mind for healing. This podcast is for educational purposes only and is not a substitute for psychiatric or medical care.
If you struggle with negative thoughts, chronic pain, or chronic health issues, please continue seeing your doctor as recommended. Think of self-healing and mind-body healing as ways to partner with your doctor—keeping them informed and working as a team—so you can feel empowered in your health journey and fully embrace what’s possible through the power of your mind, emotions, and energy. Genuine change and consistent follow-through are key. Please enjoy this self-healing podcast.
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