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Welcome to Heal Yourself, Change Your Life. My name is Brandy Gillmore, and after recovering from my own life-changing injury, it's become my mission to share with others the same discoveries I made that changed my health and my entire. Our minds are truly incredible. The placebo is proof of this. Each week I will take this simple awareness to a whole new level.

I will even coach live callers to free themselves of physical pain using only their mind, and then I'll provide you with a combination of practical and spiritual insights that you can use to master your mind, your emotions, and your. To help you heal your health yourself and your life. Let's begin.

Hello and welcome to this week's quick IQ episode where we talk about insights and questions. And today I wanna share with you a quick insight on the topic of love, because of course, love can be an important topic for healing. And also for enjoying life and living life to its fullest. And of course it's also Valentine's Week, but obviously every day of the week and every day of the year, it's great to feel loved.

And so going with that theme though, I wanna talk about. Feeling really deeply connected. And by the way, this doesn't necessarily have to do with just the topic of love towards a partner or spouse, but this could be towards your family members or friends or anybody that you really wanna connect with.

And as we dive into this topic, before we do, I wanna take a quick moment and start with a foundational awareness that. how our mind works and emotions work and energy works. There's frequently a counterintuitive aspect to it. You know, for example, a lot of times people will have a feeling of hurt in life and they'll hold onto those feelings of hurt, and unfortunately it will attract more of the same thing.

You know, there's the pattern or people who have the feeling of rejection or fear or whatever it is, and they'll hold onto to. , and unfortunately it just repeats the same pattern, and so it's counterintuitive to let the pattern go, but that's when it becomes liberating. Now I wanna take a moment and apply that same awareness to relationships, because all the time I'll see people who will want to have more connection, a deeper sense of love and connection with their partner.

and they wanna feel understood. And a lot of times people are craving that feeling of just, I wish I was more understood, or their head's filled with words such as, you know, he or she doesn't understand me. And so there's just like this soul craving to feel understood. And that's what I wanna bring to the surface today is exactly that, is it's counterintuitive in that.

To feel more understood in a relationship if you can give even more understanding and you can really embody being genuinely. More understanding, it can open up your level of love and depth in the relationship so much more for so many reasons. And that's what I wanna invite you to bring into your awareness today.

Whether it's for Valentine's Day or life in general, I wanna invite you to really give somebody in your. even more understanding. When I say give them understanding, I don't necessarily mean give, yes, of course, give understanding, but also embody that, like to really understand them even more, because you'll be surprised at how much it actually takes the relationship and the connection to the next level because you can feel it.

And not only that, but it minimize. Arguments or disagreements or disconnect, even just mental chatter disconnect, where you might find yourself saying, that person doesn't understand me. Or even moments where you may assume the worst, and I see that all of the time as well, where people have been married for long periods of time and they have a belief that says, oh, well my partner just doesn't care about this, or My partner's not so thoughtful in this area, or that, you know, they have.

Misconception and I, I see it all of the time. That creates a feeling of disconnect in a relationship that you would be surprised. I mean, most people in relationships, all kinds of relationships misunderstand each other to a greater extent than people would realize because. . Again, going back to if you think of past podcast episodes, that everybody's mind works in a bit of a different way, and when you really understand each other at the next level, it just brings about a deeper level of soul connection in a most beautiful way.

And so that said, I know that if you are somebody who has been craving feeling even more understood, then chances are this is going to. Counterintuitive to you. And by the way, I can tell you I have worked with people before who have given this type of exercise to, in their relationship of asking them to give more understanding and really embody that.

And they're like, but I need more understanding. You know, they really felt like they were craving it, but as they genuinely embodied that with others, they felt it even. And they didn't realize how much it would fill them up. And by the way, another thing that I see all of the time is people not really understanding one another, but always giving advice.

and that blocks the connection too, which is brilliant. When you stop and think about the timing of this message, because if you think about our last podcast episode with Sharon, our beautiful volunteer, and if you recall, she has so much love for her kids and you could feel it. I mean, just loves them. If you recall, there was that feeling of wanting to control and give advice to constantly and just really give so much advice to that it wasn't allowing her kids to flourish.

And of course I see that in relationships all the time, even with men and women, you know, or couples relationships is exactly that, is people cannot understand, but then they wanna give advice and it just becomes this feeling of disconnect and it crushes others. And again, you know, if you think back to last episode, just divine timing.

To see how that unfolds, and also to see how that can actually impact your health and your healing. So that is key. And so from that, I wanna invite you to take a few exercises from this. You know, first and foremost, making it a point to let go of some of the chatter in your head. If you find yourself saying, well, so and so doesn't understand me, or You're frustrated, or you're annoyed by something, I wanna invite.

To start getting curious and be more open to understanding the other person. Maybe it's your mother, maybe it's your partner or a kid, or whomever, but more open to understanding from a very open perspective. So that's one thing I wanna invite you to do. Another thing is I wanna invite you to maybe write down and just notice zero to 10 how much you feel like you fully understand your partner.

By the way, the interesting thing is on this is all the time when I have people do this and they stop and think about it, they go, oh, you know what? I guess maybe I only understand my partner at a level five, maybe a four, maybe it's six. You know, people kind of give varying amounts, but it becomes eye-opening because when they stop and reflect on it, Especially if it's somebody who's been really craving understanding, they realize there's room for improvement on their part as well.

And so I wanna invite you to reflect on that in your life. It's just asking yourself, you know, how much do I really understand this person? And then, of course, make a point to be open-minded and understanding. And by the way, I know this is a super practical down to earth exercise, however. I wanna invite you to implement it because all the time, what I do see is people will have that deeper level of understanding for their partner and either that automatically will create even more depth and more understanding, or from that, it'll open up even more communication.

That leads to mutual understanding at a deeper level. So it's the path, just kind of going back to the initial awareness that all of the time, the changes with the emotions can seem very counterintuitive. But then when we make those changes, It can be life-changing. And so that's the insight that universes wanted me to bring forth today is exactly that.

It's creating even more love and connection and joy in your life for your happiness, for your health, and of course for your spiritual being. And so on that note, please do. Mega point to hit this share button on this episode. You know, share it with somebody you love or somebody you care about, somebody you don't even know.

You know, the more empowered and happy and healthy and loved, and connected and loving and understanding that every single person is in our world, the better this world is for all of us. And so on that note, please do make a point to have a most wonderful, incredible, loving rest of your day. And I look forward to connecting with you on the next episode.

We'll see you there.

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If today's episode touched your heart or expanded your mind in any way, please do me a favor and be sure to share it with those you care about or those you know who really need it. As more and more people become empowered, it really will change our world for the better. That is the point and the power of these demonstrations is to create a radical shift in our world consciousness by showing every.

What we are all capable of. And of course each volunteer will really need to follow through to reinforce their programming, to maintain their results. But the point is for you to see that you really can create rapid results in your health and your life if you really understand how to use your mind. You are incredible.

And I do wanna be clear though, that most people will not get results this fast on their. I make it look very easy because of the discoveries that I made. You'll wanna remember that there's so much more going on in our minds at a deeper level than people realize. That said, if you wanna send me any questions or comments, come visit me on my [email protected] slash podcast.

And if you're currently experiencing physical pain and would like to be a volunteer on the show, you can sign up there as well. Last. Please remember, if you do have any health issues, you won't want to avoid your doctors. Instead, you'll wanna continue seeing them and make it your goal to blow their minds with what you are capable of with your mind.

Thank you.