Welcome to Heal Yourself. Change Your Life. I’m Brandy Gillmore and what I’m most known for is helping people to create radical transformations and even demonstrating the power of the mind and self-healing under medical equipment so you can see the results and. My work has even been published in a medical journal because it’s truly incredible what we are all capable of when we understand our own minds at a deeper level.
So whether you’re new to this work or you’ve been studying the Power of the Mind for many years. I love that you are here. I love that we’re on this incredible journey together, and I look forward to sharing breakthrough information with you. That said, on this podcast, I’ll share two types of episodes.
First, self-healing episodes, where I share key insights from working with live volunteers. And the second type are where I answer questions from the audience. That said, if you’d like to volunteer or submit a question, come visit me at BrandyGillmore.com. On that note, let’s dive in.
All right, so when it comes to healing, it is so important to heal your relationships, to be able to heal yourself for so many reasons. You know, I’ve seen people before who are in a place of, even with work, where their relationships at work. We’re impacting their health, their life, their happiness, or of course their re romantic relationship or family connections have been in some way or another impacting their relationship.
And part of the reason this topic comes up is because if you listen to. Last week’s episode, I worked with a beautiful volunteer, and as I was working with her, Noelle, you know, some of the topics, a lot of the topics that came up had to do with feelings of hurt. Even though she’s a great person, you know, she’s a great person, very loving, very giving in relationships, and yet simultaneously was experiencing a lot of hurt in her relationships.
That was in turn. Connected to pain and health issues, major, you know, health issues going on, and I see this all of the time. And so I wanted to provide an additional insight just because it’s something that I do see so often and the insight that I want to provide you with is this. Is that so often when it comes to relationships, people may have this, they, they basically can do this where they go into, you know, personal development or law of attraction or mind body healing, and they have this vision where they just want to, you know, manifest the perfect partner.
And they, so they have a vision of what they want, or they’ve written down the list of what they’re wanting, or even at work, they’re writing down the list of how they want everything to go, and yet they don’t realize that there are underlying patterns that are playing a role. And so they’re not really addressing those patterns, the hurt or rejection or feeling unloved or feeling depleted or whatever that is.
And they’re not. Really addressing that. And that’s part of what was going on with our last volunteer is exactly that, is just those patterns perpetuate. And of course, as if you listen to that episode, as I helped her to shift her mindset, she was able to release her pain and feel a radical shift Now. I want to take this to the next level, and it’s this, it’s that.
So often people will think in a practical way where, where they’re either, you know, in her case she was like, okay, well what do I do different? What do I do? And so there is an actionable piece that is so important because that’s part of what we were talking about. Was that her actions were feeding the problem.
And so that’s one insight that I want to share because so often I’ll see that very thing where maybe somebody has a pattern of, you know, always feeling like they’re always in an argument, but they might feel defensive or they feel criticized all the time. But maybe they have a pattern of feeling defensive or doing subtle, unconscious things that they don’t even realize they’re doing.
Maybe they’re not following through with something they said they were going to, or whatever it is. A person can really have those patterns that are perpetuating, and I see that all of the time. And so insight number one is this. Is that if you have a pattern going on in your relationships, I’d invite you to just notice if there is some type of behavior of your own that is perpetuating the problem.
And even again, if you listen to the last insight, the the last episode where I worked with our beautiful volunteer, that was exactly the thing. Even her in her desire to give and give and give, it was too much. It was pushing people away. And of course, you know, when I started talking to her about it, she was like, well, I can see it now.
But previously she couldn’t see it and she couldn’t see just how much it was contributing to the problem. And so here she is, this beautiful being who’s caring and loving and kind and trying to do nice things, and yet it’s backfiring and pushing people away. So we had talked about that, but it, what I’m ultimately wanting to do.
Build on that because I see that happen in so many different ways where people show up and try to do something nice and they don’t realize that something in their unconscious subconscious behavior is actually pushing people away. And I see literally all of the time, and that’s the reason that I want to emphasize it, just because of course I see that connection where somebody has hurt relationships and then that hurt those hurt relationships.
Or impacting their health, their life, their healing, and it becomes a barrier for healing. And so food for thought, that’s insight number one to really kind of look and notice if you’re finding something. Now, by the way, it could be something as subtle as this. Sometimes people will have a pattern of rejection where they felt rejected repeatedly, so much so that they’re hesitant to connect with others.
And then what happens is they meet other people and they don’t really connect with them, and then they continue to feel rejected because the person never called them back, or the person never invited them somewhere because they didn’t create that connection. You know, I’ve seen people before where they’re, they’ll show up at a social event.
And they felt rejected in the past. And so even at a social event, when they show up, they’re afraid to connect. And then there’s like another gathering, another party, so to speak, and they don’t get invited. So they immediately feel rejected or not good enough or whatnot. And they have their feelings hurt.
But the unconscious behavior in this case is that they didn’t really connect. So that’s the insight. That’s one insight that I wanted to share is that is, is noticing that pattern and noticing that show up and, and noticing if there’s unconscious behavior that is perpetuating the pattern in some way.
It’s more common than people realize. So that’s one insight. Now the other insight is this, is that we really need to have the right mindset. For the change, because so often if people do see a behavior, maybe somebody knows that they’re not connecting and so they just try to do that, and they try to just take that action, but inside their energy is in that place of feeling rejection.
The patterns there, the pattern is there, and so they end up, you know, it, it doesn’t feel right. It’s, it’s, it’s like, um, the mind blocks them. From showing up in the way that they’d want to. And, uh, one way to think about it would be like, this is, if you think about a, a writer, a screenwriter who’s trying to write and they have writer’s block, it’s like.
They can’t think of what to do, or even somebody who’s maybe even doing math or thinking about something and they just feel mentally blocked to do it. The same is true with connecting in relationships. If somebody has a strong pattern of feeling hurt or rejection, it’s like they can show up and try to do and be in a different way, and yet it feels awkward.
It feels blocked because it’s not programmed in at a deeper level. Or another thing that can happen is a person can feel like they really want to connect with others, and simultaneously, at a deeper level, feel terrified of people. And so then it’s like they’re trying to connect and simultaneously feeling triggered.
And so action from that place doesn’t feel good. It’s like if somebody was really angry and trying to express love at the same time, it’s just, it’s not a, it just doesn’t, it doesn’t flow so well. And so those are the two insights that I wanted to share specifically that is really look at what your unconscious actions are and also what’s really aligned with.
Your relationship connections and how does that look when it comes to healing? And just because, you know, just so often I see the way that it impacts people’s health and life, and even if we think about looking at medical research, you know, even new medical research has shown that loneliness. Can then impact somebody’s health, you know?
And so my point is, is that we, we can see that loneliness, we can see even heartbreak or hurt. You know, somebody can die of a broken heart. My point being that we need love and connection and it’s important. And when we feel heartbroken or hurt or upset. It can impact, it can create an impact. Or there’s even medical research that can show that couples who have a lot of conflict can have slower rates of healing, slower cell proliferation.
So my point is we start looking at the medical studies. You can even see research as it comes to. The healing of the physical body. And of course in my own work, that’s what I found. And again, going back to even the volunteer from last week, her being able to create that radical shift to be able to release pain or even, you know, many other people, as I’ve worked with live volunteers and showed them how to use their own minds.
Where they create a radical shift in their health, their life, their happiness. It’s, it’s beautiful and profound and loving and sweet and wonderful. They can go from feeling like they hate people or hurt by people or a lot of hurt to. Feeling loved, feeling connected, feeling included, feeling happy, healthy.
You know, it’s, it’s a radical shift. And so that of course is, is my hope for you if you’ve been stuck in this area, that you are able to make that radical change. So those are the insights that I wanted to share today. And of course looking at those in your own life, and if there’s some type of action that’s off.
Definitely looking at it, identifying it and being willing to change it. And if there’s an emotional pattern that is off, definitely looking at it, identifying it, and being willing to start really. Changing that. Now, of course, as you hear me saying all of the time, when I work with people, it does take a real change.
So when I talk about people getting radical shifts and and making radical shifts in their life, it does take a real change. But that’s also the gift. So those are the insights that I want to share, and as always, please do take just a quick moment to hit the share button on this episode. You know, share it with somebody you love, somebody you care about, or somebody you don’t even know.
Because the more that every single person in our world feels healthy and happy, and loved and loving. Truly the better this world is for all of us. And so please do take just a quick moment to hit the share button. Also, if you are somebody who wants to understand mind body healing at a deeper level, there is a free training in the show notes, so that is there as well.
So that said, I wish you an incredible rest of your day. I look forward to connecting with you on the next episode. We’ll see you there.
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