Welcome to Heal Yourself. Change Your Life. I’m Brandy Gillmore and what I’m most known for is helping people to create radical transformations and even demonstrating the power of the mind and self-healing under medical equipment so you can see the results and my work has even been published in a medical journal because it’s truly incredible what we are all capable of when we understand our own minds at a deeper level.
So whether you’re new to this work or you’ve been studying the power of the mind for many years. I love that you are here. I love that we’re on this incredible journey together, and I look forward to sharing breakthrough information with you. That said, on this podcast, I’ll share two types of episodes.
First, self-healing episodes, where I share key insights from working with live volunteers. And the second type are where I answer questions from the audience. That said, if you’d like to volunteer or submit a question, come visit me at BrandyGillmore.com. On that note, let’s dive in.
Hello, and welcome to today’s Quick IQ episode where we talk about insights and questions. And today I want to share with you a very profound insight about working with your mind in a different way, because so often I’ll see people who have been on the healing journey 10, 20, 30, 40, 50 years and are still struggling to get results.
And then I show them how to work with their mind in a different way. And they are amazed because they start really healing themselves and changing their lives. And so there are key differentiators that may seem small, but they’re pivotal when we start really understanding them. And that’s one of the things that I want to share with you today, is I want to talk about the well-known topic of gratitude. likely if you’re here, you’ve probably heard the word gratitude about 10,000 times, but what you haven’t heard is that it can actually keep you stuck. And so I want to explain, because of course I’m not going to say don’t go into gratitude. What I’d actually say is there are some profound awarenesses that can really lead to your next breakthrough, but also help you get unstuck.
And, really realize what you want to do at a deeper level to heal yourself. And so as we step into this, I want you to think with just emotional logic for a moment. Now think about it like this. Imagine somebody who is working on healing themselves, but they have deeper feelings or patterns on the inside, feelings of guilt or feeling like they’re beating themselves up, or they made a mistake in the past, or they’re critical of themselves, or feel bad about receiving or undeserving in life, not for any particular reason, but just because maybe they just don’t feel deserving or they feel like it’s bad to receive. Maybe they have a belief that says it’s better to give than it is to receive. Now imagine if this person starts then bringing in gratitude and they say, oh, I’m so grateful for this in life and I’m so grateful for this.
I’m so grateful for this. What happens? Well, in that case, it can make them feel worse at a deeper level where it just keeps them stuck because then they feel guilty or they feel undeserving or unworthy. That trigger underneath it keeps them stuck. And I see this literally all of the time, even if it doesn’t make logical sense.
In fact, in my own life, I had a feeling of survivor’s guilt. And let me give you a big picture for a moment. of course, if you’ve heard my story, then you know, I had an accident, technically two accidents. I had a car accident and a fall, so I had a physical injury, but my body was not healing.
Instead, it was just getting worse and worse. So I was given a whole long list of ailments, including CRPS, which is complex regional pain syndrome, and nerve lesions and spinal endplate fractures, and a whole long list of ailments. And one doctor after another after another kept saying there was nothing else they could do for me. And of course I continued to go to my doctors and I would get nerve ablations or infusions or just different things to try to help. And yet nothing was really working. And so I continued to look outside of the box for answers and try diet and supplements and anything that I could find to try to get my body to heal itself.
And as I was researching, I just kept finding different anomalies. I mentioned previously that it was just eye-opening that a person with multiple personality disorder could have different illnesses in different personalities and that it was medically documented. Even additionally to that, when I was looking at the body and healing from a very practical standpoint, I thought about the awareness that our bodies are constantly repairing and replacing cells.
In fact, science estimates we have a whole new skeleton approximately every 10 years, depending upon which research study you look at. But point being is that if even our bones are repairing and replacing cells. I thought, why isn’t the body naturally healing? How is it possible for somebody to continue to have a lifelong illness?
If the body is constantly repairing and replacing cells, then why is the body not healing these issues? And of course, that made me look at the mind as well, because even though the majority of the physical body is constantly repairing and replacing cells, the brain is not, or at least not like the physical body is.
And so that was another thing that really just made me start looking at the mind, even though I didn’t really initially think that my mind could heal my physical body, I could also look at the research from a practical standpoint and think about it like this, is that if research has shown that even people after surgery can heal much faster if they’re in a positive state of mind and much slower if they’re in a negative state of mind, and even have increased chances of rehospitalization or death that I started looking at it and saying, okay, well. If I apply this to an injury, if I have an injury, then the same thing could be true, that if there’s a deeper level of happiness and positivity at a much deeper level in the subconscious mind, then maybe that could help speed up healing.
And of course, negative emotions and stress and fear could slow it down. And so from that practical standpoint, I really also looked at healing and getting the body to heal itself. Now, prior to my injury, I did feel like I was a very happy person, but I just didn’t realize I had so many suppressed emotions and survivor’s guilt and all of these feelings at a deeper level that I didn’t really realize were there because I was so good, quote unquote, at suppressing my emotions. And so for that reason, I didn’t really think that emotions could have anything to do with my body not healing or my injury or anything like that. But since nothing else was working, I was desperate. And the more I saw the research that pointed to the mind as holding the key, the more I was willing to just continue down the rabbit hole.
And so point being is that as I was doing all of these things and meditating and positive thinking and, gratitude and chanting and affirmations and binaural beats and Delta State, just all of these things to just try to heal and it wasn’t working. When I started really getting logical about it and saying, okay, I really need to understand how this works, that’s when I started putting logic together with the emotions and the mind and understanding, neuroscience and neuro pathways and, really diving deeper and deeper into understanding the mind and re-patterning the mind and emotions and all of these things.
The more I realized, they just have a different type of logic. And so instead of just bringing in gratitude, I started to realize that I also had deeper levels of feeling undeserving in life and guilty and survivor’s guilt because of this feeling towards nine 11. And by the way, I’ve literally worked with mothers who had children who were sick and so they felt guilty for even being healthy and happy. So you know, imagine a mother who’s got a 7-year-old who’s got an illness and they walk around, the mother walks around saying, I feel grateful for this. I feel grateful for life. I feel grateful, which is something she would want to be able to do.
But it’s also common that a mother may feel guilty for being happy, guilty for having a great life, that it could keep her stuck. And so that’s the insight that I really want to share today is exactly that, is that as you work on healing yourself, you may have patterns that are completely illogical, like guilty for surviving.
That doesn’t make any sense, and yet survivor’s guilt is a common emotion that people can have, or, if we think about gratitude, it makes logical sense to bring in gratitude, and yet these deeper emotions can actually create a conflict with it where you try to bring in gratitude and yet if you’re feeling undeserving or guilty or having a hard time receiving or feeling bad about receiving, then it can actually keep you very stuck.
Now, there’s a few important things to note on that. first and foremost, some people might say. What about studies about gratitude that show positive results? And what I would say is this is, there’s a big difference between research studies versus day-to-day life, meaning that in a research study. people are told to bring in gratitude so they’re allowed to. So in other words, imagine somebody’s in a study and, their whole goal is to bring in gratitude for the next 20 days. Well, in that case. They’re allowed to bring in gratitude. They’re, doing what they’re supposed to be versus somebody else who maybe is feeling guilt and feeling shame or like they made a mistake in the past, and then they’re bringing in feelings of gratitude, feeling, oh, I’m so grateful for life, and life is so wonderful.
Oh, thank you. Life is amazing. That can create a problem. And not feel good. Now, of course, again, I’m not saying at all. I’m not at all implying that the answer is don’t bring in gratitude, not at all. Instead, definitely feel grateful, but you want to address the emotions that are really there. That’s the key to really healing yourself is going deeper and identifying and being real with what’s real, like what is really there.
And by the way, I also have a TEDx talk, and maybe you’ve seen it or you haven’t. I’ll have my team leave it in the show notes. But even in my TEDx talk, I talk about bringing in feelings of gratitude, and I also simultaneously talk about bringing in feelings of confidence with it. Now, the reason I talk about those combined is because by doing so, by bringing in gratitude and also a feeling of confidence, confidence can also bring forth a feeling of feeling deserving.
In some cases, it can help. Of course. Again, reiterating it is so important. If you have patterns of feeling guilty or bad or undeserving or self-critical, it is key to really resolve these at a deeper level. To really heal yourself and change your life. So just food for thought. So those are the insights that I wanted to share with you today on today’s Quick IQ episode, because ultimately when we really master these emotions at a deeper level, it becomes pivotal, life changing.
And so that, of course, is my hope for you. And if you’d like a deeper understanding of how mind body healing really works. Of course, I do have the free training. Is available so you can actually see me working with people and demonstrating how to get real results to be able to heal yourself. So if you want that deeper understanding, you can check that out.
It is also in the show notes so you can access it there. Because ultimately, that is my goal is if everybody understands how to heal themselves and change their lives, that becomes pivotal for our world. And so on that note, by the way, please do take just a quick moment to hit the share button on this episode.
share it with somebody you love, somebody you care about, or somebody you don’t even know because the more that every single person feels empowered and can heal themselves, change their life, it really can help create a better world for all of us. And so on that note, I wish you an incredible rest of your day, and I look forward to connecting with you on the next episode.
We’ll see you there.
Thank you for listening to Heal Yourself. Change Your Life. If you’d like to become a volunteer or join our members area, you can do so by visiting BrandyGillmore.com. Also, please remember to be responsible with your health. This podcast is for inspirational purposes only. You won’t want to make any changes to your medication or to your medical care based on this podcast, nor would you ever want to avoid seeing your doctor.
Instead, it’s best to see your doctor regularly. Keep them informed on what you are doing, and you could make it your goal to blow their minds with what you are capable of with your mind. Thank you.
