In this powerful live session, Brandy works with a volunteer experiencing ongoing physical pain — including neck pain that begins at a level 6 out of 10, along with other symptoms — and uncovers a critical subconscious pattern that can quietly perpetuate patterns of struggle and hardship.
As the session unfolds, you’ll see how the mind can become miswired when pain, illness, or struggle gets subconsciously linked to positive benefits such as attention, relief, or emotional connection. And when that happens, the subconscious mind may resist letting go — because, at some level, the pattern has been associated with a perceived benefit.
This doesn’t mean pain is intentional — and it doesn’t mean people can’t grow or learn through challenges.
It means how experiences are linked in the subconscious mind matters deeply.
In this episode, Brandy gently but precisely helps the volunteer identify and begin to release these subconscious links in real time — resulting in noticeable physical shifts during the session, including a significant reduction in neck pain and hip pain.
Rather than focusing on positive envisioning or surface-level mindset work, this session demonstrates how true healing often requires re-wiring subconscious associations that don’t follow logical reasoning — but can powerfully influence the body and emotions.
This episode is especially helpful if you’ve been doing inner work, self-healing, or personal growth — yet still feel stuck in recurring pain, emotional patterns, or frustration that doesn’t seem to resolve.
Resources and deeper trainings referenced in this episode are available in the show notes.
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Brandy: [00:00:00] Welcome to Heal Yourself. Change Your Life. My name is Brandy Gillmore, and after recovering from my own life changing injury, it’s become my mission to share with others the same discoveries I made that changed my health and my entire life. Our minds are truly incredible. The placebo is proof of this.
Each week I will take this simple awareness to a whole new level. I will even coach live callers to free themself of physical pain using only their mind, and then I’ll provide you with a combination of practical and spiritual insights that you can use. To master your mind, your emotions, and your energy to help you heal your health yourself and your life.
Let’s begin.[00:01:00]
Hello and welcome. It is so wonderful to connect with you. I love that you’re here, and I just love the insights from today’s episode and really so many things from today’s episode. First and foremost, our volunteer. She’s just so sweet and loving and wonderful and precious. Just beautiful inside and out.
So I love her. And also the insights from today’s episode. You know, recently we’ve been talking about. The problem when something positive gets linked up to something negative, that it can affect your health, your life. And that is exactly what we’ll see also in today’s episode, is you can see it with clarity, how that connection can get linked up and then create problems at [00:02:00] a subconscious level.
So I love that because so often the mind can be very confusing on how it works, and that’s part of the reason that it can feel hard to get results. When it comes to mind body healing or mind programming or manifestation or whatever you want to call it. It can feel tricky because the mind doesn’t follow traditional logic.
It really follows its own different type of logic. And so that’s where we’re going now as we step in, I just want you to notice something. Our beautiful volunteer, her name is Tanya. And when we step in, she’s a bit mean to herself. So she’s kind of blaming herself, like she’s created these problems and her brain is, and so I just want to kind of call that out ahead of time in a sweet way, in a loving way, because I don’t want anybody to feel as though if they’ve had some type of injury or illness or problem that it’s their fault.
[00:03:00] You know, in my own life with my injury, I don’t feel like it was my fault that I created it. And of course, our thoughts help create our lives as well, but. It’s not like I put thoughts in my head on purpose. It’s not like I wanted to have an accident or an injury and nobody does. Nobody puts negative thoughts in their subconscious mind on purpose, and so I just want to kind of keep that in mind just because as we step in, you will probably notice those things and I, they’re not things that I correct right away just because I wanted to give her a moment to really step in and I wanted to wait to the right time to kind of lovingly kindly come back to that topic.
And so just wanting to give you that awareness ahead of time, that please make sure to be loving and kind and supportive and nice to yourself as you’re working with your mind and self-healing. It is key for really getting the results that you [00:04:00] want. As you’ll see when we dive in with our beautiful volunteer Tanya.
Here we go.
Hello. It’s wonderful to connect with you.
Tanya: It is, it’s wonderful. And I’m honored. It’s such a privilege. Thank you. Happy New Year. Thank you. Thank
Brandy: you. And likewise. Happy New Year. Thank you. And what can I help you with today? Beautiful. Okay.
Tanya: Well, I, I believe I wrote down a, a statement because of course, with my brain, I’ve been,
Brandy: what, what will I say?
What will I say?
Tanya: Um, I believe that you can help me see clearly why and how I just create, um, so much pain and hurting in myself. Um, physical pain. Yes. Mental, emotional. Um, you know, you can go head, shoulders, knees to toes. I [00:05:00] always have something. Some of it can be considered medically serious. Some of it is just.
I discount a lot of it. Um, I do take care of myself. Um, I don’t ignore, I, I’m aware of emotions now, but it has to be me. It has to be coming from something in me that I have yet to identify or see clearly. Okay. Um,
Brandy: yeah. Okay. So, um, all right, so let’s, uh, let’s dive in, uh, to beautiful you. So here we go. Uh, if I ask you your current level of pain right now, what would you say it is?
Zero to 10. Okay.
Tanya: Um, I’m going to like, think right now of the place that hurts the sharpest. It would be my neck, and that’s probably about a six.
Brandy: Okay. So about a six. Okay. Um, and if I ask you, um, as far as other things that are going on, uh, so we have the neck at about a level six. Mm-hmm. [00:06:00] I might have even said a little bit higher, but I I got you.
I feel you.
Tanya: Yeah.
Brandy: So, um, bingo and, um, bingo. Okay. And, uh, and if I ask you, um, as far as other things going on, can you gimme a, a, a couple other things just so I
Tanya: just, I can give, yeah, I can give hips. Hips are about a four. They’ve been worse. And eyes are, they’ve varied a lot today. At this moment, they’re going back to about a, a six again, too.
Totally
Brandy: manageable, but not comfortable. Okay. And so eyes, tell me more about eyes real quick. What’s, what is going on with eyes? I,
Tanya: 20 plus years messed up Lasik surgery blind now, um, in the left eye because of astigmatism, but the nerves and all that work, uh, really dry eyes, tear film. Isn’t clear and nice.
I have specialty contacts [00:07:00] that will correct that astigmatism and let me see distance and help the right, the right eye too. It’s not nearly as bad, but the, because the tear film isn’t clear and nice, the contacts fog up and so it, and then I take ’em out and I’m fun even because one eye is off the charts astigmatism and one eye is pretty close to normal after the surgery, so I’m like dizzy and feel funny all the time.
Glasses can’t, can’t really correct the one side. So, um, it’s, I, I always feel like it’s contact wars or battling. I can’t see. I’m grabbing one thing after another trying to see. Okay.
Brandy: Okay. But right now
Tanya: it’s not too bad because I just put the lenses in and cleaned them really well and things like that.
Yeah.
Brandy: Okay. And what level is it in your eyes right now?
Tanya: Seven.
Brandy: Okay. Seven. What are and what are you grading on the seven? Just to make sure I’m clear with [00:08:00] what you’re grading.
Tanya: I’m grading. Well, because the right eye is getting sticky and gooey feeling, and the contact is starting to fog up already. Oh. And there it got better.
So, and then now the left eye got a rum of fog. And if I blink, yeah, it’s like, oh, the irritation level, I’m gonna be trying to see you and noticing the haze rather than being able to look past it. Yes, I can see you. Okay. Yes, I can see, but I, I notice the flaws or that, I consider it flaws.
Brandy: Okay. All right. So, um, all right, so gimme one second.
And, um, that, gimme one second. Bingo. All right. And as far as the level in your hips, you mentioned about a four, is that correct? Mm-hmm. Yeah. Okay. Um, gimme one second. Okay. Bingo. [00:09:00] If I ask you, can you see the part of you who, when you don’t feel like you are getting your way or what you want might be a bit demanding, commanding, reactive, upset?
Can you see that part of you? Yes. Okay. So I’m gonna ask you to breathe, and if I ask you how long that pattern has been going on for you, what would you say? Without judgment, without criticism,
Tanya: I’d say since childhood, I want things my way. It has to be right. It has to be perfect. And I’ve somewhat decided I have to give up on ever having it my way.
And I’m mad about that, probably Uhhuh. I love
Brandy: your awareness. I love your awareness Now. Bingo. Bingo. And I would say you’re absolutely spot on. Like even at age six, it’s like you wanted your way and you wanted to get your way. And if it wasn’t going to be your way, [00:10:00] you were going to be a bit pissed off.
Can you see that?
Tanya: Yeah. Be quite a little brat.
Brandy: Yeah. Okay. Well, we don’t need to call names. That’s not, yeah, but I call myself names all
Tanya: the time.
Brandy: I noticed that and I noticed that energy as we were stepping in. And that’s the, also, if you may have noticed, I said I’ll go ahead and check in with your beautiful self and your energy, uh, ’cause I wasn’t gonna join you in that.
So it wasn’t, it was that I was not going to join you in the negative energy towards self, right? Mm-hmm. So I was not going to join you in that, and I’m still not going to join you in that mean energy towards self. It’s very critical. So I’m gonna ask you to breathe.
All right, so let’s go ahead and pause it just for a quick moment. You know, first and foremost, I just love her. I love her awareness. I just, I absolutely love her heart. Just the way she shows up is beautiful. Now, of [00:11:00] course, wanting to change that piece where she’s hard on herself and actually kind of mean to herself, and so, or critical, whatever you want to call it.
But that’s the piece that I want to speak to for a moment because it’s a little tricky, and this is what I mean is that, you know, I mentioned that when positive things get linked up to negative things in the mind, it creates a problem. Now, a very common example of that very thing is this, is if somebody says, oh, I look really horrible in this shirt.
What is, what is the normal response? No, you don’t. You look amazing, right? And so what happens is, in that case, somebody beats themselves up like, oh, I look horrible, or, oh, I did bad at this. And then somebody else provides reassurance or a compliment. Like, no, you don’t. You look great. Or you know, whatnot.
And so that’s where we also see that negativity get linked up to a positive. So somebody beats themselves up and then they get [00:12:00] love or acknowledgement or safety or reassurance, and that gets linked up in the subconscious mind, and then it becomes a pattern. And so that perpetuates the problem. Now, the reason that I’m saying that is because even as she’s beating herself up right now, I know that the typical response in our culture is exactly that, is to say, no, you don’t.
You look amazing, or No, you’re great, is to do that. But if I do that, I’m only going to continue to reinforce. Problem. So it, in other words, it then reinforces and even incentivizes her mind to keep the pattern to, to keep beating herself up and being hard on herself and keep beating herself up. And so my point is, is it so often when it comes to healing and creating a real transformation, the patterns and the programming and the mindset really do occur at a much deeper level, and [00:13:00] they can be so counterintuitive.
And there are other counterintuitive pieces as well. And so that’s where we’re going as we step back in with our beautiful volunteer. Tanya. Here we go.
And, and I want you to notice that feeling of the inner tantrum. Can you see that?
Tanya: Yeah. Mm-hmm.
Brandy: And if I ask you how long that inner tantrum has been going on, what would you say?
Tanya: I guess forever.
Brandy: Mm-hmm.
Tanya: I bet it’s been forever.
Brandy: Yeah. So I would also say there’s a part of you who feels so pissed off and angry and upset.
You can’t see straight. And I get it. And I understand. And to think about that for a moment that, you know, if you think about somebody who’s really, really frustrated and they’re frustrated and they’re frustrated and and they’re trying to do something, and they’re trying to do something, how does it typically go?[00:14:00]
Probably not so well, it’s
Tanya: hard. It’s not an ease, but you can get it done.
Brandy: Okay. So wait a second. So I want you to think about somebody who’s frustrated. They’re trying, they’re trying, they’re trying, and then they calm down.
Tanya: Mm-hmm.
Brandy: And they reapproach something with a different attitude. Does that work better?
Yes or no?
Tanya: Oh, it works better total. It works better? Yeah.
Brandy: Okay. So, uh, so I’m gonna ask you to breathe, and now I’m gonna ask you also, can you give me your mom’s first initial, please. D Bingo. Now, out of curiosity, if your mom did not give you what you wanted, how did that go?
Tanya: I generally would accept it and believe that that sh what she was not giving me, I didn’t deserve, um, that that was the better way to keep peace.
Brandy: Okay. Now, if I ask you how often, [00:15:00] if you wanted something and you did get upset, she actually gave it to you, what would you say?
Tanya: Hmm. Did I
Brandy: get upset
if you threw a tantrum as a child? Mm-hmm. How often did you find yourself getting what you wanted?
Tanya: I don’t, right now, remember throwing tantrums, but yet I have the sense that I did. Um,
Brandy: if I ask you if you, you really pushed your mom for something. Mm-hmm. What are the chances she would give in?
Tanya: I can remember the times that she did not give in.
So those stand out. Mm-hmm. Um, otherwise I, I guess like 80% of the time she would give
Brandy: in. Okay, so watch this. So notice how I mentioned frustration, [00:16:00] and even if I said, well, if somebody’s doing something and you’re frustrated, you’re like, but it can work.
Tanya: Mm-hmm.
Brandy: Okay. So notice the part of you that feels like if you get frustrated, eventually you’ll get your way.
Yes. Can you see that?
Tanya: Mm-hmm.
Brandy: Mm-hmm. Okay. Now. If I said that, if I get angry and angry and angry at you, eventually you’re going to love me. How well is that gonna go?
Tanya: That’s not going to go
Brandy: well. Then I’m gonna get more and more and more and more angry at you and eventually you’re probably gonna love me.
Tanya: No,
Brandy: no. It probably won’t work.
Tanya: No, definitely not.
Brandy: Okay, so notice for a moment you have a belief that says if you get frustrated and frustrated and frustrated, eventually you think it’s going to work.
Tanya: Yes.
Brandy: How’d you learn that? And are you sure?
Tanya: I think the only way my mother [00:17:00] received something she wanted, and maybe to me to some extent, was when we, when it was a crisis, when it was bad enough to be deserving.
Brandy: All right, so let’s go ahead and pause it just for a quick moment. You know, I just am so impressed with our beautiful volunteer. I love her level of self-honesty and self-awareness. And what I also love is that you can start to see really how misfired the mind can be. And it’s not just her. When you think about it for a moment, have you ever heard somebody say before?
They say, well, I’ve had a really hard day. I deserve a break. So if you think about that very comment, if you think about it, somebody saying that very thing that if they’ve had a really hard day, now they deserve a break. Well, what [00:18:00] if they deserve a break because they had a really amazing day? What if their day was amazing and flowy and wonderful, and they still feel like they deserve to have a break just because they’re wonderful and they deserve to have a break and take some time for them.
Not because they had a bad day, but because they had a wonderful day. So my point is, is this stuff gets linked up all of the time. In fact, I’ve seen people before who have said that, for example, they say, oh, well I just had a medical procedure and they had some type of surgery or problem or hardship or whatever it is.
And they say, you know what? I deserve to be able to give myself a vacation for that, or I deserve to go buy something nice for myself. So they’ll say something like that, and what happens is that it links up that they’re deserving if they have some type of illness or problem or hardship. And so it’s tricky.
[00:19:00] And by the way, that’s the reason. If you think about recent episodes, we’ve really been talking about the awareness that. Even people will link up a gift to a problem where they say, oh, that trauma or hardship ended up becoming a real gift. And it’s like, wait a second here. You don’t want to link up gift to hardship or problem.
And so they get it linked up that if something negative happens, that they then deserve a positive benefit. And so again, I just love her awareness and that’s where we’re going is I’m gonna be a little bit counterintuitive, a little pushy in her energy. ’cause I want her to see things from a different direction to start creating that shift.
And so that’s where we’re going as we step back in with beautiful Tanya. Here we go.[00:20:00]
Okay. So. If I come with you with a crisis and I’m frustrated, frustrated, frustrated, are you finally gonna love me?
Tanya: No. If you need help, if you, if, yeah, possibly. Hey, delete.
Brandy: Delete. I don’t even want that in my, okay. I even want that in my energy at all. Okay. Because the truth of it is, is this,
if you picture that somebody is always coming to you for help, and they’re always coming to you for help, and they’re always coming to you for help and they’re always coming to you for help, and how long till it gets old, it gets old pretty quick. Oh, but don’t you get your way that way? Or does it get old pretty quick if they said, no, that’s the way to get my way.
That’s the way to get my way. That’s the way to get my way, is I just, if it’s really, really bad, if it’s really, really bad, if it’s really, really bad, how much are you going to love that[00:21:00]
Tanya: if somebody’s doing that to you? You are not you, you, you could still love the person, but you’re not gonna love interacting with them. You’re not going to love the, the, the, the process of life.
Brandy: Yeah. Yeah, exactly. Now watch this. So I’m gonna ask you to also look at the big picture for a moment. So I want you to picture that in your whole life, things always have to get really bad for you to get what you want.
How soon till your life is great, it will never be great. Bingo. Yes. Uh uh. Yeah. Yes. So, you’ve heard me say before, like even on past episodes I’ll say people have patterns of sympathy. And the problem with that is they always have to have something wrong. So they can’t never, they can never have a great life or pride in hardship in which mm-hmm.
They’ve always gotta have some type of hardship. So how soon so they can have a harmonious life.
Tanya: Never. Can’t. Right?
Brandy: So if things always have to be bad enough, and you always have to be frustrated enough to get [00:22:00] what you want. When does that ever lead to what you want?
Tanya: It doesn’t. And, and then it can create such a pattern that you, you lose even knowing what you do want because you’re suffering.
Brandy: Bingo. So
Tanya: it’s well said. So I’m gonna
Brandy: ask you to breathe
and also want you to notice the level of anger inside
Tanya: Right now. You go ahead. Yeah. Right now my anger level is like, it’s just, it’s medium. Maybe. I, I wish it was lower, but it’s probably about a five. But it is so much lower than it was a year or two ago. So, I mean, it’s been amazing progress for me, but I, it, it’s probably, it. It has to still be there. Okay. So I’m gonna
Brandy: ask you to breathe, and I want you to notice the part of you who was wanting sympathy.
The things have to be bad [00:23:00] enough and bad enough and bad enough, and then you feel like if they’re finally bad enough, somebody will give you blah, blah, blah, blah, blah. Can
Tanya: you see it? Oh yeah. Some somebody’s gonna fly in and fix everything or give it a magic pill. Yeah.
Brandy: Okay. So, uh, so I’m gonna ask you to breathe, and if I ask you how that pattern’s going for you, what would you say?
Tanya: I’m, I’m embarrassed to even have the pattern. Okay. Well, don’t add
Brandy: more negative emotions, it seems. It’s so nonsensical, but Yep, yep, yep. So, I’m gonna ask you to breathe. You Please do not add embarrassment or judgment or nonsensical critic to the, we don’t need more negative to add to it. Okay? Okay. I mean, if you wanna, so that, that pattern just doesn’t do anything.
It. Wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait. So I’m gonna ask you to preach, [00:24:00] and that’s the thing, is if you spiral every time you try to work with your mind and then you in a whole bunch of negative things, it’s going to make it impossible to get ahead. So imagine for a moment if you went to go clean your house and I noticed you were cleaning your house.
So then somebody came in and said, well, here’s a bunch more things to clean too, at the same time and made a big mess. How successful would you ever feel at cleaning your house? Not very. Not
Tanya: successful at all? Not
Brandy: very successful at all. So I’m gonna ask you to breathe. Bingo. So I’m gonna ask you to breathe, and I want you to notice the part of you who has a feeling of feeling like if it’s bad enough that somebody’s gonna come in and save you.
Can you see that? Mm-hmm. So I want you to picture, you keep that pattern and how it looks 10 years from now, 20 years [00:25:00] from now, there. All you need to do is every time you just need to have it bad enough to have rescue, to have somebody come in and rescue that it’s bad enough and that it’s bad enough. Is that really like, and by the way, if I ask you, can you see this pattern?
Like you even mentioned, you see it from your mom where you felt like if it’s bad enough that somebody would come in and and help,
Tanya: right?
Brandy: Mm-hmm. So notice if I ask you zero to 10, how much you have been just wanting somebody to just come in and help
Tanya: 10.
Brandy: 10, yeah. But what if, what if you’re the power? What if you just changing, this is the answer and I’m gonna ask you to breathe.
And I also want you to notice the part of you who has felt like if it’s just bad enough. You’ll get love there too. Can you see that? Mm-hmm. Mm-hmm. Mm-hmm. And I’m gonna ask you to breathe, and if I ask you [00:26:00] how much you have that bond with your mom in the past, what would you say you had? How much would you say you had that bond with your mom of, if it’s bad enough?
The love, the connection, the bonding, the how hard life is, yada, yada, yada. Can you see that?
Tanya: Yep. Eight.
Brandy: Mm-hmm. Okay. So I want you to picture that even moving forward, you keep bonding over how hard life is now, by the way, if I ask you also how much sometimes you have a sense of humor about it, what would you say?
Seven. Yeah. I feel like even as we’re talking about this, I also, I feel your, like the energy of, a sense of humor of going, oh, well this bad thing happened and this bad, so there’s a connection over the mouse. You see that, right? Mm-hmm. So I’m gonna ask you to breathe,
and if I ask you how long you see this pattern going on, what would you say?[00:27:00]
Tanya: It doesn’t have to go on. It, it okay. It can stop like today. That would be a great idea.
Brandy: Yeah. I like the way you think. Brilliance. Okay. This one. This one. I like the way you think. Okay. So if I ask you in the past how far back you can see this pattern going, when did this child, when did this pattern first start?
Tanya: I bet it started when I was a toddler and had chronic ear infections and my dad would bring home from work sick presents because he would feel bad. So, but I was sick. He’d come from the office with a little stuffed animal or, Hey, delete,
Brandy: delete a cookie or, I hear you. I hear you. And uh, so I’m gonna ask you to breathe.
Okay. I notice by the way, that even when you were saying, oh, if it’s bad enough, and I said, Ooh, I don’t want it linked in my energy, so I’m not doing [00:28:00] anything different for your energy that I wouldn’t do for my own. When you started to say something, I was like, I don’t even want that. Yeah. Up in mine, right?
Mm-hmm. So I’m gonna ask you to breathe. So what if you just got love and a connection and attention and love and connection for being amazing you, what would that look like? What would that look like?
Tanya: It would be, it would be, uh, it’s happened in my life and I can start to recognize it. It would be calm and peaceful and empowering.
Um, okay.
Brandy: So what if that’s just you? Yeah. What if life is just amazing and wonderful? Now gimme one second. There’s a big feeling of feeling like you don’t deserve it. Why is that?
Tanya: I guess I kind of fear it wouldn’t happen. Um, I don’t deserve it because I’ve all like, since, since I was little, I remember having like feelings like hate in me and I don’t understand why.
And I [00:29:00] hate, I hate the hate you hate. Like where does it come from? Do you hate the hate
Brandy: feeling? Yes. I, I hate the hates feeling be in. It’s embarrassing. So you’re gonna add an embarrassment too. And hate, you’re gonna hate the hate feeling. So think about this. I don’t, but wait a second. Notice how I tried to interrupt you and you kept going.
Okay, so if I told you I feel hate about the hate feeling, okay, so watch this. If in your house is messy, so you need to clean it. Mm-hmm. And so you see that it’s messy. And so you throw more mess on the floor and then you see that it’s messy and you throw more mess on the floor, how soon till it gets cleaned.
Tanya: It doesn’t ever. It doesn’t. So if
Brandy: you hate the hate, you are literally doing what
Tanya: you are. I am
Brandy: creating more hate. Exactly. So you’re reinforcing the pattern instead of releasing the pattern. Does that make sense? It [00:30:00] does. Great. So I’m gonna ask you to breathe. Okay. So if I ask you how often you’ve called yourself something similar to like an idiot or something like that Yeah.
Tanya: Infinite times.
Brandy: Yes. So that’s what I’m feeling in your energy. Part of the reason you feel like you don’t deserve it is because you quote unquote, feel like you’re an idiot type of energy. Now, of course, I’m not saying that is true at all, but I’m just saying that’s the other mm-hmm. That’s another thing that’s coming in.
So when I say, why don’t you deserve, it’s because there’s a part of you that’s really, really, really mean to yourself. Okay. So I’m gonna ask you to breathe. This is, so this is the problem, is that you’re mean to yourself. And then because you’re mean to yourself, you’re feeling undeserving, but you’re part of the reason you’re mean to yourself is because you need to get sympathy because then you think sympathy is going to help.
So you’re literally, all of your, you’re patterns are literally piling on [00:31:00] top of each other and keeping you stuck. Does that make sense? It does. Okay. So I’m gonna ask you to breathe.
All right. So I want to go ahead and pause it just for a very quick moment. And the only thing I really want to say is I am so impressed with her. Just beautiful job, beautiful awareness, just fantastic. So that’s it. And if I add on that, I could also say that of course. It’s tricky. You can see how one pattern can keep another pattern stuck, can keep another pattern stuck.
But I’ll build on this at the end. As we continue, I’ll kind of unpack this even more, but just, I’m just so impressed with her. Beautiful job, beautiful awareness, and let’s dive back in with beautiful Tanya. Here we go.[00:32:00]
Bingo. So I’m gonna ask you to breathe,
and I want you to notice the part of you who feels addicted to sympathy. Can you see that? Yes. What would it feel like to let go of wanting that?
So I’m gonna ask you to breathe now, watch this. Are you in a relationship? Yeah. And how long have you been married for? 33 years. Okay. And I’m gonna ask you to breathe, and I want you to picture that your husband is in sympathy all the time. Hmm. He’s in sympathy all of the time. If I ask you, that’s sexy, right?
Tanya: No.
Brandy: Okay. What do you mean? No? [00:33:00] No, it’s sad. Okay. But if I ask if it makes you want to give him more and more love?
Tanya: Yes. Okay. So I have a question. Potential care, but not more love. Not more love, just, okay.
Brandy: Bingo. So I’m gonna ask you to breathe and so notice how you want more love from him. And so you go into the sympathy, just like you did with your dad.
Can you see that?
Tanya: Mm-hmm.
Brandy: Okay. So I’m gonna ask you to breathe now. I want you to picture he’s in sympathy. So you feel like you want to give him care, right? Mm-hmm. And then he does that a lot for one year and two years and three years and five years in 10 years it’s hot, right? Sexy?
Tanya: No. Not so good.
Brandy: So how many years until you start getting tired of it?[00:34:00]
Tanya: Yeah. Not def more past that threshold. Long time ago. Yeah.
Brandy: Okay. So I’m gonna ask you to breathe, and now let’s say instead he’s showing up kind and fun and funny and playful and connected and bantering or sweet or funny. And if I ask you, mm-hmm. How much you wanna spend time with him, then what would you say?
Much more time. Much more. Yeah. But if I ask you how often you go into sympathy to get his attention, what would you say?
Tanya: I’d say I am getting better at it, but, um, I think quite a bit. Like,
Brandy: quite a bit. So this is the problem, right?
Tanya: Mm-hmm.
Brandy: The problem is this. Let’s say he’s going into sympathy all the time. He’s going into sympathy all the time. All the time. So you feel like you need to care for him and care for him. And all of the time.
And all the time. If I ask you how much, there’s a part of you that would want a little [00:35:00] bit of a break from that, what would you? Mm-hmm. For sure. So then what happens is this, when somebody’s draining you or they’re always needing, or they’re always needing that, or always needing that, what happens is then.
It’s like when they’re not in sympathy, you wanna go, okay, let me get a break. So then they, it’s like they feel like they need to go back into that to get more attention. So does that make sense? So in other words, the problem is you get hooked in the cycle. It’s like, um, a drug addict who feels horrible as they start to get sober.
So then they feel like they need more drugs. Need more drugs. Mm-hmm. Because they’re in that loop. Does that make sense? Yes,
Tanya: it does.
Brandy: So then when you’re in a sympathy loop and sympathy cycle and that’s how you’re used to getting it and used to getting it, it’s like when you stop, it feels like disconnect initially because a person might feel like because, because they might feel like they just need a break for a moment or, or whatnot.
Does that make sense? It does. [00:36:00] So what would happen if you completely stopped the sympathy? Mm-hmm. And completely stopped the sickness Attention.
Tanya: Yeah.
Brandy: You really actually turned it into fun and playful and sweet and connecting and bantering and playfulness and that energy, that sweetness, that love, what would happen if you started creating more of that energy?
Tanya: The relationship with Mark, my husband gets, gets so much better with just the little steps that toward that, that I’ve been able to make. Um, I’m sure it would with, with myself and with everyone if I, uh, didn’t, didn’t feel that way because I know I’ve kind of withdrawn because I don’t want to be a burden on a lot of things too.
So that creates a lot of loneliness. Mm-hmm. So I’m gonna ask you to breathe.
Brandy: [00:37:00] Bingo. Great. So I’m gonna ask you to notice the level of pain in your neck, zero to 10. What’s your level?
Five. Four. Five. Okay. And so I’m gonna ask you to breathe,
and again, I’m gonna ask you to breathe. And I want you to notice what it would look like for your relationship with your husband to be really different than your relationship with your dad. Or your dad is like, oh, there was that sympathy I illness, the blah, blah, blah. And it’s like, you, you didn’t even want that in your current relationship at all.
Like it’s a different connection. It’s a different connection. And the you showing up, you get to be empowered and beautiful and lovely. And you, and, and you get to be the person that you really want to be and the person who you know you can be. Yes. So I’m gonna ask you to [00:38:00] breathe.
And that more of that version of you is showing up and more in that, more of that version of you is showing up, and you don’t need that old connection with your dad and then da, da, da, da. Like you, you don’t need that at all. The mm-hmm. Oh, you, you’re infection the blah blah. Like, you, you don’t want that.
You don’t need it. You don’t want it. It’s not safe, it’s not love. It’s not, it’s not the direction you want. And so I’m gonna ask you to breathe
bingo.
And that your relationship with your husband, you actually start showing up in such a beautiful way with him that makes him feel good. What would make him feel good? So instead of thinking, how do I get love? [00:39:00] Connection from him. If you think about what could I do to connect with him that would make him laugh or love or open his heart or feel good or feel sweet, what does that look like?
Tanya: It looks to it. I wanna say that it would look like myself being present and like what’s actually happening at the moment. Not being so self-focused on whatever is hurting or not hurting. Like self-focused. Let go of that.
Brandy: Yeah. So you can show up and be present and Absolutely. Mm-hmm. Absolutely. So you don’t need it to be horrible.
You don’t need the sympathy, you don’t need, you don’t need the sympathy pattern. Let me ask you. Mm-hmm. He proposed to you because he felt sorry for you. Right.
Tanya: No. Oh, definitely
Brandy: not. Oh, so why did he propose [00:40:00] to you?
Tanya: Well, there’s, that’s a whole nother story. I don’t think we have time to get into. Uh, he proposed to me because as he told his mother that, um, it was, we were too young to get married, but he was never gonna meet anyone if he ever was gonna get married, who was as good as me.
Okay. So, so he proposed to me ’cause he didn’t think there’d be anyone better, which is a compliment, but it is also a lot of pressure. Okay. So I’m gonna ask you to breathe.
Brandy: So it was because he felt sorry for you then?
Tanya: No, but he had expectations of, oh, you,
Brandy: it’s big. So you mean it’s the exact opposite?
Totally. He didn’t say, this is the most saddest person I could possibly find. Things couldn’t get possibly worse for her. And I, I guess I’ll, I guess. I guess, you know she is. Things are so bad. I might as well, I feel sorry for her, [00:41:00] so I’m just gonna Definitely not, I’m gonna propose. So you mean it’s the exact opposite.
He thought you were amazing and incredible and he was enamored by you. Oh yeah. So I’m gonna ask you to breathe Bingo.
Tanya: I never saw it that way before. Oh, I never saw it that way before. What you just said. He was enamored with me. He thought I was incredible. I never have hurt. I never have felt that before.
Wow.
Brandy: All right, so let’s go ahead and pause it just for a quick moment. Again, I just am so impressed with her and I absolutely just adore her. What a beautiful, beautiful being. I love her level of awareness and just open-minded, and she’s just, she’s brilliant. So I love that, and I love her [00:42:00] heart. Just a beautiful, beautiful being.
And I also love the comment that she just made where she said. Oh my gosh. She never looked at it in that way before, and she even said, wow. Right Now, the reason that I want to emphasize this is because so often when I’m working with people, it seems like I’m just helping people to shift their emotions, but I’m really helping them to shift their consciousness to see and feel in a different way.
And that’s part of the reason that I can be a bit pushy because I need people to really change and to really feel differently. So when you see people who are releasing pain and creating a radical shift in their lives, it’s, it’s because there’s a, there’s a feeling to it, there’s an energy to it. There’s an, there’s a shift to it.
And so what I really, really love is just her awareness here, where she says, wow, she never looked at it in that way before or [00:43:00] felt. That before, and of course, feeling that way in her marriage, wanting her to feel that way that her husband’s in love with her and, and enamored by her, and they had this sweet, beautiful connection because ultimately.
That’s the feeling that she’d want to have. You know, and the compliment that he gave to her, he didn’t say, well, there’s nobody else. I guess I’ll marry you instead, it was this sweet, he, he’s looking at her through a beautiful way of seeing her and, and that feeling of just loving somebody so sweet. And of course, because this is new to her mind, I’m going to push a little bit so she really takes it in even more.
But that’s the insight that I wanted to point out, is that these things that sometimes seem so obvious, if you will, in some ways, are really a shift in consciousness. And that’s the reason you hear me say that all of the time. All of the time, that it [00:44:00] really does take. A deeper shift in the subconscious mind because when we go in the subconscious mind and really shift it, that’s when you feel the paradigm shift, the consciousness, the, the shift in consciousness, the deeper level.
That’s when it sticks. That’s it’s a deeper level of transformation and rewiring that’s needed to really get the results. So that is key. And of course there can be other blocks and resistance and a variety of different things in the mind, which is the reason it can be a little bit tricky. And so that of course, is where we’re going as we step back in with our beautiful volunteer, Tanya.
Here we go.
Okay. Well now when you look at it and him saying that you were the most amazing, best thing he could ever find, doesn’t that sound like enamored? Yes. Oh, [00:45:00] oh. Gotcha. So I’m gonna ask you to breathe and it’s pressure because at the time you were doing what
Tanya: we had our whole lives in front of us. Oh. And the pressure.
And then the pressure is that somebody else might be better. That’s from me. It’s,
Brandy: yeah. Like, okay. That’s helpful. No, I’m gonna ask you to breathe because you think he wanted you to do what? Exactly? Pressure. Because you think he wanted you to make what? A hundred million dollars a year? Was that, do you think that was his expectation?
Tanya: No.
Brandy: Okay. Oh. Oh. How often did you guys laugh? Lot. Oh, mm-hmm. So you laughed, you’re beautiful inside and out. You do have a good heart and uh, and so he thought, this is the one I want to marry. So obviously in love with you, right? Mm-hmm. Now I’m gonna ask you to breathe. [00:46:00] So what you’re saying is it wasn’t because of sympathy.
That’s so weird. He wasn’t like, oh, I found, I found this one.
Tanya: No,
Brandy: this one, it was an absolute mess. And I thought, ah, I might as well propose. So I’m gonna ask you to breathe. So like you said, so let’s say you start showing up in the room, not in the middle of all your own stuff. Mm-hmm. And your this and that, and how to get love and your insecurities and your blah, blah, blah.
Okay. Because I have, if I ask you how often you’re showing up with your insecurities in a room, what would you say?
Tanya: Oh, all the time.
Brandy: Yeah. Do you actually need those? So I’m gonna ask you to breathe. You don’t need sympathy. Sympathy wasn’t the magic, honey. No. That smile that you have. Your heart. Your smile.
That was the magic. So I’m gonna ask you to breathe. Now as I’m saying this, if I ask you how much, even in when I said the word [00:47:00] enamored and you’re looking at this and all of that, if I ask you how much you’re starting to see this all in a different way, what would you say? Like a hundred percent Uhhuh.
So I’m gonna ask you to breathe and are you sure you really wanna keep the sympathy pattern? I mean, no, I don’t want
Tanya: the sympathy pattern. I don’t need it. What’s that? I do not need the sympathy pattern to you. I don’t need it. Yes. But if I ask you how much you felt like you needed it, would you say, don’t be that to have a life, look at how much you’ve linked up.
Up? I used to think I needed it.
Brandy: Bingo.
Tanya: Everything in a way. Yeah. Yeah.
Brandy: If I ask you how much you felt like zero to 10, you needed the sympathy pattern for love and that that’s what was working, what would you say?
Tanya: A hundred percent. That’s, yeah. Yeah. So if I told you I needed sympathy to have love, but it’s not true.[00:48:00]
Brandy: Exactly, exactly. So notice for a moment, and also your relationship with your dad on how much you felt like you needed illness and sympathy to get the special gifts and the this and the that. And you, you, you don’t actually need that. Your husband proposed to you because he was enamored by you and loving you and laughing with you and loved you.
Tanya: So I’m gonna ask you to breathe. And he also proposed to me at a time, one of, one of the couple years of where I was the strongest version of myself. Oh, he did. I I was not under whatever that influence of, of my mom and dad, it was at college. I. I had ended a dysfunctional relationship that was imposed sort of on me.
I, he, uh, yeah, I, my husband. That was my choice in a stronger version of [00:49:00] myself. And it lasted for quite a while, but Great. I’m ask you to breathe
Brandy: and if you need sympathy for love and connection and you need that for love and connection, what does your life look 10 years from now?
Tanya: Really lonely and painful.
Brandy: Yeah. And painful. Some type of problem. You have to have some type of problem. If that’s just, you get love, you don’t need that. You don’t need that at all.
Mm-hmm. So I’m gonna ask you to breathe, and if I ask you, is that a little shift or a big shift? It’s still a big shift. Uhhuh, but that’s one I can make. I love your attitude, be beautiful and brilliant, and I’m gonna ask you to breathe bingo. And if I ask you a level of pain in your neck here at 10, what’s your level?
Tanya: Only if I move it to the side, it’s about the [00:50:00] four, but you know, just forward. It’s not too bad at all. Okay. That’s like a two.
Brandy: Okay, so I’m gonna ask you to breathe
bingo. So I’m gonna ask you to breathe
and I’m gonna ask you to picture what it looks like for your husband and you to be laughing, to spend this year laughing and connecting where it’s sweet and it’s loving, and it’s caring and it’s romantic and it’s fun, and it’s playful and it’s sweet and you’re showing up and he feels good, and you feel good, and you want him to feel good.
It’s like this beautiful feeling of connectedness.
Tanya: Mm-hmm.
Brandy: And I’m gonna ask you to breathe,
and I want you to think about like if I asked you[00:51:00]
if you wanted to really touch his heart, if you wanted to touch him or his heart, or to light him up, or to make him feel feelings of love and connection, do you know how to do that?
I, yes, I do. I do. Yeah. And if I ask you how often you do, do that?
Oh, maybe
Tanya: two to three times a week, not very much. So I could do that more. Yeah.
Brandy: Okay. But, um, bingo. And if I ask you how many times a week you do sympathy, what would you say?
Tanya: Sympathy toward him or wanting his sympathy through me
Brandy: wanting his sympathy.
Tanya: I actually don’t want, not, not so much like two times a week.
Okay. So, or you
Brandy: think it’s way more [00:52:00] than that. Okay. I do. But, uh, gimme one second. Gimme one second. Bingo. Uh, can you give me his first initial please?
Tanya: M
Brandy: Bingo. Bingo. And if I ask you zero to 10, how much you have felt a feeling of wanting him to nurture you today for health issues? Zero to 10, what’s your level
four? I would’ve said eight, but we’ll go with your four. Okay. That’s a big difference. Okay. Okay. And if I, but, but either way you still see it, right?
Tanya: Mm-hmm. Mm-hmm.
Brandy: And if I ask you yesterday. How much you wanted his nurture for health issues, what would you say?
Six. Bingo. I would’ve said exactly that. Okay. So now, if he wanted your nurture from health issues yesterday at about a level six [00:53:00] and the day before, about a level eight and the day before, about a level five or a level seven, and the day before or the week before? Mm-hmm. Okay. You see? You see the pattern, right?
Yes. And so I’m gonna ask you to breathe, and I want you to notice how you felt frustrated towards life. Mm-hmm. So what happens if you stomp the frustration and you just start doing things in a different way? You’ve stopped the frustration and you take a different approach that’s more successful. You stop the frustration.
Mm-hmm. And the sympathy. You stop the frustration and the sympathy. Mm-hmm. And you take an approach. You take an approach that is more successful, then I would be a success. I like it. I like it. So I’m gonna ask you [00:54:00] to breathe. Bingo.
Bingo. Great. And I’m gonna ask you to notice the level in your neck, zero to 10, your level.
There’s three. It’s better. Okay. And notice if you keep it completely still, what’s your level is just keeping it still just a little tension.
Tanya: Like a one or two.
Brandy: Bingo. So notice that part is about, what I have is about a level one. And if you move it around almost. Bingo. Almost a three right in there. Yeah.
Somewhere in there. Mm-hmm. Okay. So I’m gonna ask you to breathe and I’m gonna ask you to breathe. And if I ask you how much longer you wanna be frustrated towards life,
I don’t
Tanya: what? Zero.
Brandy: Zero minutes. Zero minutes. Zero minutes. I like the brilliance behind that. I like that. And, uh, bingo. [00:55:00] Bingo. And if I ask you how much longer you want to be mean to self, go ahead. Go ahead. Be mean to self. Go for it. Go for it. No
Tanya: thank you. What? No thank you. What? Not gonna do that.
Brandy: No, thank you.
I like it.
Tanya: Brilliant. That one brilliant. No, that was a complete sentence. I could say no to
Brandy: that part. Brilliance. I like that. So I’m gonna ask you to breathe.
So you’re willing to be kind to self and supportive to self. Yes, I am. And how much longer do you need things to be? The worst thing in the world?
Tanya: No more. No more what? No more worse. I like it than this in the world. No more
Brandy: dark. But what if they’re bad enough? You don’t need that anymore. Mm-hmm. I love that. So I’m gonna ask you to breathe brilliant. And I love your smile and I love your self awareness and your shift, just brilliant, brilliant. And I’m gonna ask you to breathe.
Fantastic. Fantastic. And I’m gonna ask you to breathe. So what if life is actually good and amazing and wonderful and you don’t have [00:56:00] to have all the hardship.
Tanya: It’ll be a whole new world for me. But it’s pretty, it’s it’s possible. And it’s pretty exciting and sounds fun. I like it. So I’m gonna ask you to breathe
Brandy: bingo. And I’m gonna ask you to breathe. And what would that look like for this year as we’re stepping into like this new year? What does that look like for your life?
I.
Tanya: It just looks like caring for, for myself and caring, being present in the moment. And not, and just not the, no worry. No. Great. Yeah. Great. So I’m gonna ask
Brandy: you to breathe bingo.
Exactly. And I want you to notice, again, thinking back to your husband, being enamored by you wanting to marry you and [00:57:00] notice you were in your strength and feeling good about you actually, and feeling in a better spot. And actually, and he was enamored by you. And so I’m gonna ask you to breathe.
And you don’t need sympathy. You don’t need hardship, you don’t need problems. You can just be amazing. You, and I’m gonna ask you to breathe. Bingo. Great. And your level in your neck, zero to 10. What your level.
Tanya: It, it doesn’t, it, it has sharpness, but it isn’t like painful or worrying me. It’s just there. So it’s like a two, so,
Brandy: yep. So it’s about a two. And notice you’re kind of flinging your neck all around to Yeah. Find it. To check it. Exactly. Exactly. So it’s a big difference from the movement in the very beginning.
Mm-hmm. To the movement now. So gimme one second.
Bingo. [00:58:00] Bingo. If I ask you how much you feel like your husband gives you gifts or does sweet things because you are sick or in pain or whatnot, what would you say he does? Not what? He does not. So I’m gonna ask you to breathe. So, and if I ask you how much you are wanting him to do that, what would you say?
Tanya: I don’t want him to.
Brandy: Great. So I’m gonna ask you to breathe. I just want Great. So I’m gonna ask you to breathe
and if I ask you how much you’re wanting nurture from him in the past from illness, and you can see that, right?
Tanya: Yes. And
Brandy: if I ask you to name one better way that you can get attention and connection from him in a sweet way,
Tanya: it would simply be to slow down and sit and not always be [00:59:00] doing something or working.
And just to pay attention to, to, to thoughts and not be impatient. Just
Brandy: Okay. And maybe to acknowledge him every so often. Mm-hmm. Okay. And, uh, bingo. And also to, uh, if I ask you how sweet he is, what would you say?
Tanya: I’m gonna say like, he is pretty sweet actually. Or he can be, and it’s like him, so it’s like an eight or something. He’s,
Brandy: he’s sweet it. And if I ask you when you met how sweet he was, what would you say?
Tanya: I think he’s sweet. The world might not, but I think he’s actually really sweet. So h
Brandy: Yeah. So I’m gonna ask you to breathe. So what you’re saying is it’s hidden in him and you have an ability to bring this out in him. You do? [01:00:00] Yeah. Okay. And can you give me your mother’s initial again please? D Bingo. Bingo.
And if I ask you zero to 10, how much you can find the feeling of connecting with her over trauma and problems, zero to 10, what’s your level With D? Mm-hmm.
Tanya: Blank.
Brandy: 8, 9, 8, 9, 20, somewhere in there. Okay. Yeah. High, really high, right? Mm-hmm. So if I ask you, um, bingo. If I ask you also how much you have a feeling of feeling sorry for her, what would you say?
Tanya: Oh, 2010.
Brandy: Yeah. So, so I’m gonna ask you to breathe
and instead of feeding into that, could you let that go and just have compassion without needing to feel sorry for her, but have compassion and also know that you don’t want to feed her patterns. [01:01:00] Also.
Tanya: I can do that. I, and I don’t have to repeat her patterns.
Brandy: Bingo.
Tanya: Yeah.
Brandy: So I’m gonna ask you to breathe so you don’t have to repeat her patterns.
You don’t have to feel sorry for her, and you can connect with her or feel connected. And, and by the way, when was the last time you talked to your mother?
Tanya: Yesterday.
Brandy: Okay. And, uh,
and if your life is good, if your life is great and wonderful, bingo. Do you think your mother could be happy for you?
Tanya: Yes, I do.
Brandy: Bingo. What? Yes, I do think she could. Fantastic.
Tanya: Be happy for me.
Brandy: Great. Mm-hmm. So I’m gonna ask you to breathe. Bingo. Uh, great. And, uh, your level. Zero to 10.[01:02:00]
Tanya: My hips are like zero and oh, my neck feels okay. It feels like a a one.
Brandy: Bingo. Bingo. So I’m gonna ask you to breathe,
and if I ask your level of anger right now, what’s your level of anger right now? Two. Okay. And if I ask you much lower, so much lower. Mm-hmm. And if I ask you why you need it, why would you say that is? I don’t need it. You don’t, right? Mm-hmm. So taking a different approach to life. Does that make sense? Yes.
Great. So I’m gonna ask you to breathe, and if I ask you zero to 10, how good did you do with your energy? What would you say?
Zero to 10? I expect nothing less than a 12. Zero to 10. Okay. Yeah. I
Tanya: actually do think I did pretty good with my energy. What I, I did do well. [01:03:00] I did great with my energy. I
Brandy: think
Tanya: so too.
Brandy: I
Tanya: think you did fantastic. I can do this.
Brandy: Yes. Yes you can. Yes you can. I can do, I’m gonna ask you to breathe so you can do this.
Mm-hmm. You can do this. So if I ask you, by the way, the shifts that I’m asking for, small or big.
Tanya: They’re big. They’re like the whole circle flip 180 or 360. They’re big. Yes. So I’m gonna ask you to breathe
Brandy: and is your life worth it? It is worth it. It is worth it. It is worth it. Worth it. It is worth it. Okay. So I’m gonna ask you to breathe and take that in and acknowledging yourself and yeah, it is gonna take a real change. Absolutely. It’s going to take a real change. Multiple changes. Yes. Multiple keys. Yep.
So I’m gonna ask you to breathe, but you’ve got this, you’ve got this. And so what I want you to do is I want to invite you to do [01:04:00] this, to be aware and to go through the video course. Mm-hmm. I want to you to really, really. Re why your, your mind at a deeper level. So you are really, really following through and linking it up and getting this programmed in at a deeper level.
Does that make sense? Beautiful. It, it does. Yep. Fantastic. Fantastic. Bingo. It was such a pleasure connecting with you. Just absolute pleasure. I love your smile. I love your self-awareness, and I love this shift for your life getting out of hardship. Thank you too. And sympathy and getting and not needing things to be yucky stuff.
Yucky stuff. Nobody needs that. Yeah. Bingo. Nobody needs that. It’s been such a pleasure connecting with you. Thank you as well. And I appreciate your time so much. You’re so welcome. You’re so, so welcome.[01:05:00]
All right, so let’s go ahead and bring everything together. And first and foremost, I just love her. I love her self-awareness. I love herself honesty. She’s just beautiful and brilliant and I love that. And I also love this for her. You know, if you think about the mind programming, you hear me say all of the time that the mind can get misfired.
And even if you think about kind of the extreme example that I use of maybe a cutter who cuts themselves. To feel relief or euphoria or control or safety, because that can get linked up in the mind erroneously. Now, if you think about this situation right here, she’s had it linked up in her mind that if you get frustrated enough or if things are bad enough, then that’s when things work or that’s when there’s some type of breakthrough or that she deserves to have some type of help if they’re bad enough.[01:06:00]
So those things getting linked together in the mind can create one struggle after another after another, and one hardship after another, after another. And so I love this shift for her heart, for her life. She’s just a beautiful being and being able to change this. Is pivotal, as you can see. You know, she was able to release her hip pain completely from a four to a zero and able to release her neck pain.
And so you can see it’s not just positive thinking, you know, if you think about it for a moment, I was pushing her mind and shifting and, and so we were pushing and changing and whatnot because it really does take rewiring the mind and taking these, you know, the misfired mind programming. Really changing that, that is so key.
And by the way, I love the timing of this insight because on last week’s IQ episode I was [01:07:00] talking about this very thing where negative mind programming can get linked up to a positive reward and it keeps people stuck. And I see it all of the time, and this topic has been coming up a lot recently on past episodes.
Part of the reason for that is because it is very common for me to see people who have been on this self-help self-healing journey, who actually are inadvertently programming their minds for more hardship. And I literally see it all of the time. And the example that I use is so often. People will have some type of hardship or problem or illness, and then they say something like, oh, that was such a gift, or that was a blessing in disguise.
And what they’re doing in that case is literally linking up the problem as being a gift. And so where we see in [01:08:00] today’s episode as I’m working with our beautiful volunteer, where you see the misfired mind programming, basically what I see is people accidentally doing this to their own minds all of the time.
And that’s the reason that you hear me emphasize all of the time not to link up gift or some type of benefit to anything that’s negative because the mind will want to hold onto it or even create more of it, which was the very problem that we can see. In today’s session is exactly that, is that the positive is linked to the negative.
And so again, I just love this episode and these insights, and I just love this for our beautiful volunteer because you can also see the complexity, how one pattern can affect another pattern. And that’s the reason you also hear me say all of the time that there’s always multiple ingredients. So there’s multiple pieces to the puzzle.
[01:09:00] That is the key, is identifying those specific pieces and then transforming them. And so that said, by the way, if you are somebody who would like a deeper understanding of mind body healing and how it works, I do have a free training in the show notes, so you can check that out. Or I have a deep dive training, which is called the gift method.
And of course it’s not linking up the gift to the problem or the hardship, but instead. It’s to help you transform and create the real gift, which is love and happiness and joy and healing and empowerment. And so those are the insights that I want to share with you today. And as always, I want to ask you to please do to just a quick moment to hit the share button on this episode.
Share it with somebody you love, somebody you care about, or somebody you don’t even know. Because the more that every single person in our world feels healthy and happy and loved and loving, the better [01:10:00] this world is for all of us. And so please do take just a quick moment to hit the share button, and please do have an incredible rest of your day.
I look forward to connecting with you on the next episode. We’ll see you there.
Thank you for listening to Heal Yourself. Change Your Life. All of the time people reach out and say how much these episodes have given them hope or touched their heart, or helped them stay positive in hard times, or even woken them up to a completely new level of awareness. Of how amazing we all really are.
If today’s episode touched your heart or expanded your mind in any way, please do me a favor and be sure to share it with those you care about or those you know who really need it. As more and more people become [01:11:00] empowered, it really will change our world for the better. That is the point. And the power of these demonstrations is to create a radical shift in our world consciousness by showing everyone what we are all capable of.
And of course, each volunteer will really need to follow through to reinforce their programming, to maintain their results. But the point is for you to see that you really can create rapid results in your health and your life if you really understand how to use your mind. You are incredible. And I do wanna be clear though, that most people will not get results this fast on their own.
I make it look very easy because of the discoveries that I made. You’ll wanna remember that there’s so much more going on in our minds at a deeper level than people realize. That said, if you wanna send me any questions or comments, come visit me on my website at BrandyGillmore.com [01:12:00] slash podcast. And if you’re currently experiencing physical pain and would like to be a volunteer on the show, you can sign up there as well.
Lastly, please remember, if you do have any health issues, you won’t want to avoid your doctors. Instead, you’ll want to continue seeing them and make it your goal to blow their minds with what you are capable of with your mind. Thank you.
IMPORTANT NOTE: We understand that some may believe mind-body healing is impossible. Therefore, if you would like to see images of individuals using their minds to relieve pain, you can check out this medical journal. It includes images from some of Brandy's case studies. If you want to learn how to use your mind to heal yourself, you can check out the training on Brandy's website. Each week, Brandy publishes a volunteer episode where she coaches a volunteer to heal themselves using their own mind. In addition, Brandy shares a quick IQ episode (Insights and Questions) where she answers listener questions or delves deeper into insights on working with the mind for healing. This podcast is for educational purposes only and is not a substitute for psychiatric or medical care.
If you struggle with negative thoughts, chronic pain, or chronic health issues, please continue seeing your doctor as recommended. Think of self-healing and mind-body healing as ways to partner with your doctor—keeping them informed and working as a team—so you can feel empowered in your health journey and fully embrace what’s possible through the power of your mind, emotions, and energy. Genuine change and consistent follow-through are key. Please enjoy this self-healing podcast.
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