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Welcome to Heal Yourself, Change Your Life. My name is Brandy Gillmore, and after recovering from my own life changing injury, it's become my mission to share with others the same discoveries I made that changed my health and my entire life. Our minds are truly incredible. The placebo is proof of this.

Each week, I will take this simple awareness to a whole new level. I will even coach live callers to free themselves of physical pain using only their mind. And then I'll provide you with a combination of practical and spiritual insights that you can use to master your mind, your emotions, and your energy to help you heal your health, yourself, and your life.

Let's begin.

Hello and welcome. It is so wonderful to connect with you. I love that you are here, continuing to expand your mind, your energy, your consciousness, your healing. I just love it. And I just love Today's episode, you know, you hear me say all of the time that each episode is just so unique in its own way. And also, of course, divine timing as well.

And that is so true for today's episode. We have another beautiful volunteer, Millie. And in today's episode, as you'll notice, as we step in, there's a strong feeling of feeling not understood. And let's be honest, a lot of people can relate with that very feeling of feeling not understood, or even feeling like others always want to be right, or even feeling like maybe you always want to be right, or a combination.

And a lot of times, it's just In this space, it can feel like a struggle, relationships can feel challenging or you can feel unheard. And that's the very situation from our current volunteer that she's been experiencing is just this feeling of feeling like everybody around her is always needed to be right.

And then she needs to support their opinion. And it's just been like this whole combination of emotions of not feeling heard. and not feeling understood, and just a lot of emotions that are also connected to some health challenges that she's got going on. Now, of course, these emotions are very intense for her in her life.

As you'll notice, there's just a lot of hurt throughout her life with this pattern, but Let's be honest, so many people can relate to this very feeling. Maybe it's not as intense as hers, but just the insights and the awareness and the heart and the compassion and just all of the things, the pattern, the feeling, just all of the things.

that come with this episode are, are just really insightful. And by the way, I know for me personally, when I first started working with my mind and my energy and healing myself, it was such a combination of feeling not understood and also feeling like I couldn't tell anybody what I was doing because they were going to think I was crazy trying to heal with my mind.

And, you know, Um, even at the time I didn't fully understand healing with the mind and when I first started, you know, and so it's just this mix of feelings where sometimes we feel like we can't express ourselves or it doesn't go well. I mean, just so many feelings coming up and I know that that was something that I had a challenge with many, many years ago and, and you know, I've, I've cleared that sense then.

And so now communicating just feels like. You know, second nature now, it's just, it's something that I do, of course, every day. But there was this point when it didn't feel great and it didn't feel easy. And so the beautiful thing is, is of course, we can transform these patterns in our lives. And of course, that was something that I did.

Now my pattern wasn't connected to my health issue, but just in one way or another, there Communication and being understood obviously affects all of us in one way or another, from, you know, communication in a romantic relationship to friends, to family, to people with global companies who, you know, have to communicate with other companies or other, or their executive team, or, you know, whatever that looks like.

In your life, communication, of course, is so important. And so that's where we're going as we step in with our beautiful volunteer, Millie. Here we go.

Hi, Millie. Are you there? I'm, I'm here. Yes, I am. Wonderful. Wonderful. It's wonderful to connect with you. And, uh, what can I help you with today? Well, uh, I've been listening to your podcasts and I've been reading, uh, the book and I've had some, uh, health issues. I have a, I've, uh, had sciatica and it lasted, uh, they said, you know, it's going to last for a month, but it lasted like nine months.

And, um, so I, I started recently, and then I got some allergy on my tongue and had trouble with different allergies and so on and so on. And, uh, but, uh, most of all, I, in the past few years, uh, I've had trouble, you know, a mild anxiety or panic attacks, or, you know, a mild And, you know, mild, mild depression, maybe something like that.

And, uh, so I've started researching and I did some things that you've been recommending, you know, on your healing journey. And, uh, they've started to, and I didn't think that it was going to work, but Uh, I started with music and, um, some of those exercises and things that you've mentioned. And then some things started to get better.

Some of my relationships got better. Uh, I had some, uh, blood tests and my sugar level was okay. So I, I started thinking, okay, maybe this is working, you know? So, yes, but I, I didn't really think because I was, I was really, at the beginning I was really panicking every morning. It was so, then I started doing all those things.

I'm still doing them. So it's getting better. Yes. It's getting better. So, if I ask you, what specific thing are you focused on now that you're working on? What would you say that is? Like what's, what would you, what would you want to focus on today? Okay, I was having trouble with that allergy on my tongue.

And, uh, I thought it was something, it had to do with something that I needed to say, and I felt like I wasn't allowed to say it, or it was prohibited for me to say, uh, some of my opinions. Maybe it had to do something with my previous job, because I work as a journalist and, um, So let me see real quick.

Give me one second. Now, um, as far as your tongue, the allergies on it, are you experiencing any physical symptoms or physical discomfort? Uh, well, at this point it's, it, it has calmed down for the past few days and now I'm, I'm just I'm hoping that it will stay that way. And, um, even when I had sciatica, I went to doctor and all the patients there, and even the doctor, and with this as well, he, they all keep pointing to my head, you know, and they kept saying, you know, you're, you're afraid.

And, uh, there's something in your head that's provoking this. I love that more and more people are waking up to it. That's what's exciting. You know, I healed over 15 years ago now and it's, it's exciting to, to see that. So give me, give me one second. Let me just, uh, let me just look into your energy real quick and let's see.

So give me one second.

All right, so let's go ahead and pause it just for a quick moment. You know, first and foremost, I love that she. is reading my book, and that she's going through it, and that she's following through, and that she's already seeing changes in her happiness, and her relationships, and that her tongue is even improved for the last few days.

So I love that, that she's doing that, and she's making the changes, and that she's working through it, and that is really, really great. And of course, you know, the book has got a lot of information in it, which is really powerful, so she's working on it. I also love that she's looking at what is the negative emotion that's specifically impacting her.

And the reason that I say that over and over again is because, let's be honest, all the time, even my own life, I mean, I worked on meditating and thinking positively and affirmations and chanting and all of the things, which can all be great, but it didn't heal me. And once I got specific with the mind and really understood the specifics, it was.

Pivotal and just powerful. And so I love that. And of course, that's where we're going with our beautiful volunteer. But I love that she's doing the things, she's making the changes and she's feeling happier. So progress and celebrating her, just beautiful. And I'm going to go ahead and check into her energy.

Now, the quick note is also this, is that as I do, you'll notice that I say something. I say, basically, I say that, that, that. Now, as we step in, and what that means is, I'm looking for, different pieces basically that are going on in her mindset. So in other words, as I'm checking into her energy, I'm looking at that, I'm looking at that and that, and, and, and so, and, and I'll share with you what that, what that is coming up.

But my point in saying this right now is when we step back into the audio. Cause I was saying that, that, that, and just whispering it, like it was just under my breath as I was checking. So I didn't even mean to say it aloud, but she immediately thought I was saying bad, like bad, like she was bad. And so that's what you're going to notice as we step back in.

I say that, that, that, and she says bad, and I'm like, no, no, no, you're not bad. Um, and so just kind of explaining that that is what happened and, um, that is where we're going as we step in and it kind of becomes the perfect. Segway, if you will, to open up the conversation about communication. And so that's where we're going as we step back in with our beautiful volunteer, Millie.

Here we go.

Has to do with that, that, bingo. That. Bingo, that, oh, that, that, that. I was looking at that. I was looking at different pieces. So it wasn't bad. Just that. I said that, that, that, uh, one thing. So one that, uh, so I try not to bring it up until I'm ready to unpack it with somebody. But, uh, what I said that, uh, there's a feeling of feeling like at times, bingo, uh, that you might say things that could be a little abrasive to people.

Um, can you see that? Yeah. True. True. And so then when you do say things that are abrasive, you're very, very smart, but when you do, and when you do say things that are abrasive and then people react, there's a part of you that can also, uh, feel a bit like a victim in that situation. Can you see that? Yes.

Bingo. Okay. So. And it makes me sad.

All right, so let's go ahead and pause it just for a quick moment. You know, first and foremost, I love her self awareness where she just said, you know what, that makes me sad. And she also noticed that when she speaks with people that sometimes she can be a bit abrasive to say what she's saying. And I love her self awareness.

And part of the reason that it is so important is you want to remember. That you'll hear me say all of the time that typically one negative emotion doesn't create an issue with. health. It is typically a specific combination that is absolutely key. And so you notice here where there's that combination of even feeling sad and feeling a bit abrasive.

And so these are all important pieces to the puzzle. that need to be shifted to be able to create that change. And it's key. And so I just love that you can see these little pieces. And of course, I don't want her to feel sad, but I just, I love the awareness and the self honesty, just really. Beautiful. And so that said, let's step back in with our beautiful volunteer, Millie.

Here we go.

Okay. So when you think about it for a moment, um, what's a good way to put it? Um, give me one second. Like I said, normally I unpack, I kind of come in with my positioning first of what I'm going to, of how to shift it. But so I want you to notice this. It's like it. If, and notice, actually this is perfect.

Notice how I just said to you, I kind of think about my positioning on how I'm going to shift somebody's mind around it before I say anything, right? So notice how I even do that to make sure that it lands in a way that feels supportive to help somebody overcome things, right? Okay. So, my point in saying that is this, when we speak about something, kind of like with healing with the mind or anything, when we speak about something, if we speak about it in a particular way, we could trigger people in all kinds of ways.

Or we can also share or say something to somebody in a way where we're not triggering them. Or, if we know we're going to trigger somebody, then Then we don't want to feel like a victim because we knowingly, it's like we knowingly triggered them. Does that make sense? Yes, it does, but I'm, I'm so, I'm also always trying not to hurt people and, um, there are really situations when I'm, like, worried what I'm saying and then I'm afraid to say anything and then I don't say anything and then I feel bad that I haven't, you know, I, like, I'm having, uh, the need to state your opinion.

Sometimes. Okay. So I hear you. I hear you. Now, what I want to do is I want to go beyond the story for a moment. Okay. Okay. Meaning beyond the experience. Okay. Now, notice there's a pattern even from age six of feeling like you're getting in trouble for saying something. Um, it feels like being, like you're with your mom.

Can you give me your mom's initial, your first initial, please? Okay. Okay. Um. Um. Actually, can you give me your dad's first initial? N. Okay, hold on one second. Can you say, uh, school? Uh, primary school? Or you just say the word school? School. Bingo. Okay. So yeah, it feels like even at school, there's a feeling at a young age, a feeling like you got in trouble for saying, for saying things.

Are you familiar with that feeling? Yeah. Okay. Uh, absolutely. Yes, I had, I mean, I was a really good student, but at school they were really strict, so if I said something, the teacher would say something to me, and then I would start crying in front of everyone, and she would like, you know, be angry at me if I said something that wasn't appropriate.

All right, so let's go ahead and pause it just for a quick moment. So first and foremost, I love her self honesty and I love her vulnerability. You know, you just have so much compassion for somebody when they're in that place where, you know, as she mentioned, even though she said, as she mentioned that there was something she said that was inappropriate, she also at that time felt like she was in front of the class crying.

Because what the teacher said, and so that's a lot of hurt and wounding that really gets stored up in the subconscious mind. And so, when I mentioned in the very beginning that, you know, a lot of times people may have feelings of feeling not understood, or frustrated, or whatnot. But a lot of times it may not be as intense as Millie's experience.

And by the way, it may be much worse. My point is, isn't that one situation is worse than another. My point is, is that sometimes we can have these emotions, you know, if I ask most people, Do they feel a sense of feeling not understood, which a lot of people do, but a lot of people also feel that they're not understood or not heard.

And so the reason I'm kind of emphasizing this or expanding on this topic is just because we can also see that this topic has a deeper wounding around it as well, which is the reason that it can show up as a physical health issue. And of course. There are other layers as well. And so that's where we're going as we step back in with our beautiful volunteer, Millie.

Here we go.

Okay. Can I say how much I love your self awareness right now? So I love your self awareness. And then what I love is I love, like you said, that you've been working on lifting your energy and creating the changes. And then also we need to make sure to look at. the underlying piece. So beyond the experience.

So right now, like you said, you have this experience where you feel like you say something, then you're afraid to say something, and then you're afraid, like, but notice it's been the pattern throughout your life, right? Yes, actually it did. When I better think of it, it's true. It's absolutely true. In different situations, I never thought about it, but it, that, that is true.

Okay, so I have a question for you. How exciting would it be to change this pattern in your life. How exciting! If you repattern, if you had a completely different pattern moving forward, that you felt like you could say what you wanted to say, and it was received, and respected, and blissful, and harmonious, harmonious to the other person, and you, and you felt like you could do that, and it was good, What would that, what would that look like?

What would that experience be like? Well, it would be a great relief. Okay, now if I ask you, you mentioned that you used to do journalism, correct? Yes, yes. Okay, and do you still do that as well or no? Well, not really, no, not anymore. Okay, so, um, so I'm going to ask you to breathe, and I'm going to ask you to mention what your, or I'm going to ask you to notice or even picture what your life would look like.

If moving forward. You change this pattern. And by the way, what you'll notice is that, of course, as we talk about in the book, the spiritual check engine light, right? So it's telling you, hey, this pattern, so this, so what's happening with your tongue is telling you, hey, this is a check engine light. This is a wake up call.

to change this pattern, to transform it in your life, to then transform your life, to make relationships even and connection and work and life even more harmonious. Like if you stop and think about it for a moment, if this pattern really changed, if you really change this all of the way, how would that look like in your life?

Well, that would improve everything. I mean, because the connections would be easier and, uh, yeah. I wouldn't, I wouldn't feel so, I wouldn't feel so hurt because after all those conversations I feel like no one really understands me or what I'm saying. I mean, they don't understand me because I'm probably saying it in a, in a difficult way for them.

I don't know. I love that you just said that. I love, I just want to highlight that for a moment. I love, okay, so, and I want to invite you to change it. So it's kind of like this, it's like if somebody expects to fail all of the time and they expect to fail, so they go to try to do something and they expect to fail, then chances are at a subconscious level, they end up taking the specific actions that make them fail.

Does that make sense? Yes. And so if somebody feels like nobody understands me, nobody gets me, then likely either a couple things are going to happen is either they're going to attract people that really don't understand them, but likely we're also going to be communicating things in a way that are, uh, that's not, that's not healthy, that's abrasive or confusing and subconsciously they're, they can do this.

Does that make sense? Yes. Great. So, I'm going to ask you to breathe, and I'm going to ask you to notice. Let's say you shifted this completely. You felt like you could connect with people, that people understood you, that you got rid of this pattern, that you see this pattern, you can eradicate this pattern completely.

You really change it. If I ask you Do you think that would help with your depression at all? I suppose so. I don't know. You tell me. You tell me. I suppose so. I suppose so. Well, if you knew, I wouldn't feel so lonely, I think. Bingo. Bingo. You wouldn't feel so lonely, right? So, if you felt like you could connect with people And you could connect and really feel that sense of connection and love and camaraderie and communication with people.

And it felt easy. If I ask you how lonely you would feel, what would you say? About a two,

but now I'm feeling like a seven.

All right, so I want to go ahead and actually pause the session right here because when you stop and think about it for a moment, it's really eye opening when you think about how much communication can affect us in our life, in our love, in our health. Because you know, when you stop and think about it, you hear me say all of the time, we need love.

You know, it's medically proven that if an infant doesn't get enough love. and connection, they can actually die or have stunted growth. Or, as you've heard me talk about on past episodes, medical research has now proven that loneliness can actually increase illness. You know, increase factors like type 2 diabetes or heart disease or stroke.

There's so many different things. So loneliness and connection and love all come together. are so important for optimal health and healing. Now, another point came up that was really great, and it's this. It's that, you know, if you're in an energy where you feel like people are just not understanding you, they're not hearing you, it's not safe to say something, whatever it is, that stuckness, that feeling, it can perpetuate.

You can keep feeling that, experiencing that, and additionally, from that energy, you can attract more and more and more situations That are similar to that exact thing, where either you're attracting more and more people who just don't understand, or where you're attracting people who could potentially understand, but in a subconscious level, the way you're communicating is They just can't hear you, or another thing that I've seen is this, is people who feel easily frustrated because they feel like nobody's understanding and so they're really emotional and stressed and upset about it and because their emotions are so loud.

People can't hear what they're saying because they're frustration or they're hurt or they're upset or you know in other cases people may have a tendency to Want to be heard, but maybe they jab at the same time Maybe it's a bit abrasive or attacking and from that place. It makes it really hard for people to hear you I mean imagine If somebody's trying to talk to you and simultaneously jabbing you or being a bit abrasive or this, that, the other, it can be very hard for you to really actually hear them for that reason.

And so there are just so many different pieces. And so I want to invite you to look at this in your life. Because, I mean, let's be honest, having healthy relationships is important for your health, for you to flourish in life, for you to even just to have a happy, wonderful, incredible life. You know, having healthy relationships where you feel understood is so important.

And so that said, I want to actually go ahead and pause the episode right here. And just let you unpack this in your life to see how you feel about communication and also see if you could start taking in the feeling that you are understood and start shifting this a bit more because as simple as it may or may not seem to you, it is absolutely pivotal for, of course, connection and love, all of which can be really powerful.

good for your health and healing. Now on the next episode, I'm going to continue on with her session where we actually go into the feeling of where she's also not wanting to connect with people for that very reason that she's feeling like she doesn't want to connect. Because she's had all of this hurt and so that's where we're going next week But I just wanted to break this in half to give you a moment To digest it to reflect on it to think about it in your life and look at how you can optimize This and really make sure that you have a healthy connection inside and out in your own life.

All right, so that said, I want to invite you to look at this and also I want to ask you to please do take just a quick moment to hit the share button on this episode. You know, share with somebody you love, somebody you care about, or somebody you don't even know, because the more that every single person is happy and healthy and loved and loving and understood and connected, the better this world is for all of us.

And so please do Make a point to hit the share button on this episode. And please do make a point to have a most wonderful, incredible, loving rest of your day. And I look forward to connecting with you on the next episode. We'll see you there.

Thank you for listening to Heal Yourself, Change Your Life. All of the time people reach out and say how much these episodes have given them hope or touched their heart or helped them stay positive in hard times or even woken them up to a completely new level of awareness of how amazing we all really are.

If today's episode touched your heart or expanded your mind in any way, please do me a favor and be sure to share it with those you care about or those you know who really need it. As more and more people become empowered, it really will change our world for the better. That is the point and the power of these demonstrations is to create a radical shift in our world consciousness by showing everyone what we are all capable of.

And of course, each volunteer will really need to follow through to reinforce their programming to maintain their results. But the point is for you to see that you really can create rapid results in your health and your life. If you really understand how to use your mind, you're incredible. And I do want to be clear though, that most people will not get results this fast on their own.

I make it look very easy because of the discoveries that I made. You'll want to remember that there's so much more going on in our minds at a deeper level than people realize. That said, if you want to send me any questions or comments, come visit me on my website at BrandyGillmore.com/podcast.

And if you're currently experiencing physical pain and would like to be a volunteer on the show, you can sign up there as well. Lastly, Please remember, if you do have any health issues, you won't want to avoid your doctors. Instead, you'll want to continue seeing them and make it your goal to blow their minds with what you're capable of with your mind.

Thank you.