Welcome to Heal Yourself. Change Your Life. I’m Brandy Gillmore and what I’m most known for is helping people to create radical transformations and even demonstrating the power of the mind and self-healing under medical equipment so you can see the results and my work has even been published in a medical journal because it’s truly incredible what we are all capable of when we understand our own minds at a deeper level.
So whether you’re new to this work or you’ve been studying the power of the mind for many years. I love that you are here. I love that we’re on this incredible journey together, and I look forward to sharing breakthrough information with you. That said, on this podcast, I’ll share two types of episodes.
First, self-healing episodes, where I share key insights from working with live volunteers. And the second type are where I answer questions from the audience. That said, if you’d like to volunteer or submit a question, come visit me at BrandyGillmore.com. On that note, let’s dive in.
Hello and happy, beautiful day to you. I want to add in a quick but important note to make this podcast very easy to navigate because today’s episode has a special format. Today I worked with a live volunteer. As you probably know, there are a lot of people who are now using AI to modify information online.
For that reason, we have taken an extra step to help protect our beautiful volunteer and the integrity of this work to help keep the information from being modified. And we actually love how this turned out because it provides you with even more information. This is how it works. On today’s episode, you’ll hear an overview of the person that I worked with, and I will provide you with simple but powerful breakthrough insights that helped our volunteer begin making a radical shift.
Then at the end of this short breakthrough episode, if you are ready for a deep dive, you can click in the show notes to gain access to the actual self-healing session where I worked directly with the live volunteer. This enables us to help protect the information online from being modified. While still continuing to provide you with powerful information to help bridge the gap between science and spirituality and personal empowerment, because it’s truly incredible what you are capable of when you learn to understand your mind at a deeper level.
That said, let’s dive into the simple but powerful insights that came from working with today’s volunteer. Here we go.
There are so many things that I really love about today’s episode, and one of those things is just that this episode highlights that feeling of wanting approval, and many people have experienced that on some level or another of wanting approval from somebody they love, or a parent or sibling or somebody in their lives and of course, some people experience it. At a level where, it’s something that they would like, but it’s not really all that important. And in other cases, people can feel really hurt and wounded. They can feel a sense of feeling unloved or not safe or upset and frustration or anger and all kinds of things just an entire spiral of emotions. And I’ve seen that. In a variety of cases over the years, and I’ve seen it affect people’s health and happiness and life. And so that’s ultimately where we’re going in today’s episode. I worked with a beautiful volunteer. Her name is Mary, and she’s just lovely and as I was working with her, she’s smart, she’s kind. She’s just this really good hearted human being, and yet.
She’s also got a lot of damage and a lot of hurt and has been stuck unfortunately in a spiral. And in pain. So she’s been struggling with pain in her mouth and she’s also been struggling with a bit of alcohol addiction and shame and guilt and just has been stuck in this painful spiral and so that’s what we started working on today was exactly, that was the painful spiral, the hurt, the approval, the upset, the frustration. And what was beautiful is that as we dove in. Mary was able to take her pain and be able to reduce and release her pain, and so she was able to see the mind body connection so she could see how these specific emotions we’re impacting her, and so I love that she could see that, and I love that she had so many breakthroughs. And the one that I want to really share and highlight with you today is the feeling of wanting approval just because I know so many people may struggle with this pattern.
And it can really, it can affect you in so many ways and so that’s what I want to just highlight are a few key insights that you could use to help start shifting this pattern in your life, or even some hidden elements to it that can keep it stuck and in place. And so the first insight that I want to share with you is this, is that so often the reason that a person may desire approval can be different. One person may really desire it because they really want a person’s love, so they feel like the person that they’re wanting it from is amazing and wonderful, and they just are wanting to connect. And that could be one reason. However, another reason could be a feeling of self-criticism, where a person feels extremely self-critical and extremely bad about self, in which case, part of the reason they may be striving for approval is because they feel a need of security and self, like they want to feel good enough about self and they don’t know how else to get it. And so validation from others is how they’re looking for it. And yet, because they’re also in this spiral of self-criticism.
It keeps them from ever feeling good about themselves and also from getting approval. And so there are several other reasons why a person may feel like they crave approval, but I just wanted to highlight this for you that if you are somebody who has been wanting approval to really ask yourself. Why you’re wanting it?
What are you really looking for? Is it a sense of security? Is it a sense of love and connection? Is it because you feel unloved? Is it because you feel not good enough? And so, often there are deeper patterns underneath this wanting approval. That can keep a person stuck. And so that’s food for thought.
Now, another thing on this piece of wanting approval is that so often I’ll see people who are wanting approval and craving approval from a person who just doesn’t operate that way, where they’re giving approval. If you will, and in, in the episode when I was working with Mary, the example that I used was this.
As I said, if I had this expectation or desire for my cat to do the dishes, I’m probably going to be waiting a long time because my cat is never really going to do the dishes. And so often I’ll see people expect something from others. When it’s just not something that they do, it’s like asking them to suddenly play basketball, and that’s not something that they do and so, so often I’ll see people who are doing that as well, where they’re craving approval because they like getting approval and they want approval, and then they find somebody who they quote unquote, can’t get it from because of this reason. The person just doesn’t really give that, or it’s just not part of the dynamic and they crave it even more. And so those are of course some practical insights that can help you to look at wanting approval in a different way. And ultimately, of course, we’d want to build on this and go deeper into psychology and understand patterns because that’s how the mind works is, patterns repeat.
So a person may have a pattern of self-criticism or a pattern of. Wanting approval or not getting approval, or even the example that you hear me use all of the time, or the unfortunate example the woman with the abusive father may leave him and find the abusive boyfriend, boss spouse, et cetera.
That pattern can continue. Now, this is the thing is that. Patterns, of course, repeat beyond conscious awareness as well. So that pattern can be so ingrained in the subconscious mind that it can just continue to repeat that. You could make all of the conscious effort towards this, but if there are emotional patterns at a deeper level that are there, so often what I see is they repeat even if somebody knows that they’re there and an example of this, or an unfortunate example is if you think about a woman who has been through that example of the abusive father and the pattern continues to repeat, and let’s say she has not yet cleared up this pattern, and let’s say there’s a entire lineup of a hundred men, 99 are really nice, and one of them is not so good.
She may have a tendency to, of course. Pick the one that is not the right one. Even though consciously she might say, I just want a nice man who’s wonderful, who’s nice, who’s kind, et cetera. Unfortunately, those subconscious patterns can play out and she can again, pick the wrong man, or it can show up in a different area of life where sometimes I’ve seen that very thing where a woman has been in that pattern and then she does get the right boyfriend or husband or whatnot, but then the pattern ends up showing up towards a friend who’s abusive or a boss who’s abusive. It just shows up in a different way. My point is just that you’ll want to keep in mind to get the information into your subconscious mind at a deeper level, because when you get the information at the deeper level, that’s when you really feel differently in your subconscious mind at your core, and that’s where it can impact in a positive way, of course, your health, your life, your happiness, your patterns of attraction at a deeper level to create an even deeper shift.
And so in short, yes, we talked about practical information, but anything that you notice that is in your mind that you’ve been doing or feeling or perceiving that you’ll want to make sure to go beyond just conscious thought or conscious change and really rewire it at a deeper level into your subconscious mind so that the pattern doesn’t repeat or show up in a different way.
And so those are some of the key insights that I wanted to share with you today from this episode and of course, there were several breakthrough. Insights. And so if you do want to listen to the live session itself, you can click the link in the show notes or if you want to gain a deeper level of mind body healing, there is also a free training there as well, because my biggest goal is that every single person understands how to use their own mind to heal themselves and to change their life. And so that, of course, is my hope for you and everyone. And on that note, I want to ask you to take just a quick moment to please hit the share button on this episode. Share it with somebody you love, somebody you care about, or somebody you don’t even know because the more that every single person is empowered and happy, and healthy, and loved and loving, truly, the better this world is for all of us. And so please do. Make a point to hit the share button and please do make a point to have an incredible rest of your day, and I look forward to connecting with you on the next episode.
We’ll see you there.
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Instead, it’s best to see your doctor regularly. Keep them informed on what you are doing, and you could make it your goal to blow their minds with what you are capable of with your mind. Thank you.
