310: The Invisible Patterns That Block Healing — and How to Finally Break Free

Welcome to Heal Yourself, Change Your Life. My name is Brandy Gillmore, and after recovering from my own life-changing injury, it’s become my mission to share with others the same discoveries I made that changed my health and my entire life. Our minds are truly incredible. The placebo is proof of this.

Each week I will take this simple awareness to a whole new level. I’ll even coach live callers to free themselves of physical pain using only their mind, and then I’ll provide you with a combination of practical and spiritual insights that you can use to master your mind, your emotions, and your energy to help you heal your health, yourself, and your life.

Let’s begin.

Hello and welcome. It is so wonderful to connect with you. I just love that you are here continuing to expand your mind, your energy, your consciousness, your healing. I just love it. And one of the many things that I love about each episode is just that it can highlight different areas where people get stuck all of the time. You know, it just highlights those stuck spots, if you will, when it comes to mind-body healing.

And that is so true from today’s episode. What you’ll notice is that some of the invisible stuck spots that keep people from getting results can be so both obvious and then hidden and invisible. And when we really start to look at things in a different way, that’s when we can create a radical shift.

Discovering the Invisible Stuck Spots

And so that’s one of the many things that I love about today’s episode, and that’s where we’re going. We have a beautiful volunteer. Her name is Michaela, and you’re absolutely going to love her. As you’ll notice when we dive in, she has really great self-awareness. She’s been working with her mind and studying for years, and she’s just so self-aware and so sweet. And also, she’s dealing with some major health issues that she’s looking at changing.

So that’s where we’re going as we step in with our beautiful volunteer, Mikayla. Here we go.

Hello, Michaela.
Michaela: Hi, Brandy?
Brandy: Yes. Can you hear me?
Michaela: I can.
Brandy: Beautiful. How are you?
Michaela: I’m doing very well, thanks. And you?
Brandy: I love that. I’m doing very well. Thank you. I’m doing very well. Alright, so, first and foremost, how’s your day going?
Michaela: Excellent. I had like a very chill day here in Mia. I’m standing three days before I’m returning to Germany and then Cape Town. So my three months vacation is nearly over.
Brandy: Ah, amazing. Amazing. That sounds beautiful. That sounds beautiful.
Michaela: It is. I’m very blessed. I’m very blessed.
Brandy: Absolutely. Yeah, I love that. I love that. And what can I help you with today?

Michaela: Beautiful. I have like a swollen lymph node in my right armpit, which is giving me trouble on the one side. It’s radiating pain into my right breast and into my right arm.

Brandy: Okay, give me one second. Go ahead. I’m sorry.

Michaela: Funny enough, if I’m walking, the pain is coming within five to ten minutes. If I’m just swinging my arm and having a 45 degree angle and just constantly moving it, it’s fine. So this knot is cancerous and I am like, I don’t really want to go through the regular therapy. So I’m like, what can I do? I’m worried that I need…

Brandy: You’re saying it is cancerous or it’s not cancerous?

Michaela: It is cancerous.

Brandy: Okay. And so your doctors told you it is cancerous, but you told them you don’t want to go through the regular therapy, etc.?

Michaela: Correct.

Brandy: Okay. Because I believe that the body is showing me something which I need to pay attention to, and I don’t believe in cutting it out because then the body just needs to create other maybe harder symptoms for me to learn the lesson.

Understanding the Role of Medical Support and Mind-Body Awareness

Brandy: Okay. So, first and foremost, what I want to make sure to say is, no matter what, when you’re working with your mind, when you’re working with anything, make sure to be responsible with your health and always make sure to see your doctor and consult with them, etc. So that’s number one importance. Okay?

Number two, let’s go ahead and dive in. So I just want to be clear, make sure that you’re working and talking with your doctor always. Here we go.

Alright, so let’s go ahead and actually take just a moment because I want to unpack this a bit more and give you food for thought on this very topic, just because so often people will ask if they should get surgery or if they should not get surgery. And I want to give you a few thoughts on ways to think about it.

Now, by the way, when somebody asks me that question, I will tell you every single time that I cannot legally give you information or advise one way or the other. I can’t say yes. I can’t say no. I can’t speak on that legally, and so I don’t. So that’s number one. But I want to give you some food for thought on this topic as well, and from both sides.

So one thing is—notice—I love her awareness where she said her body is giving her a message and she really wants to get the message. And so food for thought that even if a person does get surgery, they can still get the message. They can still work on themselves, they can still figure it out. And I strongly recommend doing so.

Because, I mean, let’s be honest, there have been many people who have had cancer or some type of health issue—back pain, knee pain, whatever it is—that maybe it goes away, they have a surgery, whatever it is, and then unfortunately it can come back.

So point being is that absolutely, even if a person does have surgery, there’s still a message there to change and you can still get that.

… (continued in Part 2)

Shifting the Mindset Around Healing

Brandy: So, you know, it was like in her situation, she mentioned, “Well, I just really want to get the message from…” And she can get the message with or without surgery. Also. I mean, either way she can still get the message, and I strongly encourage it for everybody to really understand what is the deeper message that the body is trying to give you. So that’s the first thing I want to say.

Now, another thing is this. Sometimes people are stuck and they go, “Okay, well, which direction should I go?” And one way you might want to think about it is like this: Let’s say somebody broke their leg and they’re working on really healing themselves and working on understanding the mind-body connection at that time.

Should they use crutches? Yes or no? Well, crutches could make it easier. Of course—to get around and of course to not continue to create more problems, etc. I know for me personally, when I was working on healing myself, I was on a lot of different medications. I was getting nerve ablations, and there were a variety of different things because I was literally trying every single thing that I could.

And I would say that even though I’m not a huge fan of medications, I would say that it was the crutch that helped me through till I figured it out. And so just point being is that, you know, of course do what’s right for you, do what’s right between you and your doctor discussing it. But I just think that sometimes people may be critical of themselves if they use crutches, so to speak.

And if you are somebody who’s using quote-unquote crutches in some way to support yourself while you’re figuring it out, make sure not to judge yourself. It could be wise to do depending upon your situation. And again, I’m not saying either way. I’m just simply saying, make sure to talk to your doctor and think about it, and to be nice and kind and supportive to yourself. Just emphasizing that above all.

Alright, so that said, let’s go ahead and get started and dive in, because again, there are really powerful insights in where we’re going. So that said, let’s step back in with our beautiful volunteer, Mikayla. Here we go.

Brandy: Um, here we go. Um, if I ask you what is the level of pain right now that you’re experiencing, zero to ten, what’s your level?

Michaela: I’d say none.

Brandy: Okay. And if you push on the area, if I ask you what your level of pain is?

Michaela: None.

Brandy: Okay. Um, bingo. Uh, give me one second.

Brandy: Bingo. If I ask you inside of you how much there’s a part of you who can get really fired up, what would you say?

Michaela: Fired up and like… excited or angry?

Brandy: Fired up and angry.

Michaela: Um, there is the odd situation where I can get really angry and I’m working on turning that and controlling my emotions and telling myself like, no, it’s not worth it. Why are you annoyed? But sometimes I can’t control it.

Brandy: Yes. Okay. So—and that’s the thing—is for healing, we have to do more than just control it. We have to reprogram it, and that is key. Now, a way to think about it is like this:

If I ask you how often you have a huge urge to go skydiving that you just can’t control the urge to go skydiving?

Michaela: Not really. No.

Brandy: Not really. Okay. So if I ask you how often you have an urge to just go to the snow and just be in the snow and be in the snow and be around all the snow. If I ask you, how often do you have an urge to do that, what would you say?

Michaela: Very seldom.

Brandy: Okay. But if I ask you how often you have an urge to go sailing or to be around water, what would you say?

Michaela: Around the water? Nearly on a daily basis.

Brandy: Nearly on a daily basis. So would you say your craving to go to the snow is different from your craving to go to the water?

Michaela: Yeah, going to the snow—not at all. Going to the water—on a daily basis. To quiet myself. To relax. To chill.

Brandy: Yep. So I’m gonna ask you to breathe. Now, would you say that there is somebody who is wired differently than you who would rather go to the snow than to the water?

Michaela: There’s definitely people who like the snow and prefer the snow.

Brandy: Yes. So if I ask you to think about that different programming, that’s the level of change that is needed to heal. That’s the level of change. It’s kind of like this… Okay. How much do you have to control your urge to go to the snow? How much do you fight your urge to go to the snow?

Michaela: You don’t because you’re not craving to go to the snow, right?

Brandy: Does that make sense?

Michaela: Yes.

Brandy: Bingo. So I’m gonna ask you to breathe. So if I ask you how much you have to control your urge to go to the snow, what’s your level?

Michaela: Currently zero.

Brandy: Zero. So if I ask you how much you feel like you have to control your anger and your frustration, zero to ten, what’s your level?

Michaela: Four to five.

Brandy: Okay. So I love your awareness, and I would have said sometimes six—you just said—and I would have said even closer to about an eight, nine, or ten at times. Can you see that?

Michaela: Oh, I wouldn’t have thought it’s that high.

Brandy: Okay. Okay. But either way, you see the difference. My point is—what is my point?—is that real healing happens when you’re wired in a different way, not just trying to control your emotion. Does that make sense?

Michaela: Yes.

Brandy: So I’m gonna ask you to breathe.

… (continued in Part 3)

Bringing Awareness to Hidden Patterns

Brandy: Alright, so let’s go ahead and pause it just for a quick moment. You know, first and foremost, I love her awareness and I love her authenticity and her transparency, and just the awareness that she can see that she has had this pattern of anger and also the awareness that she’s been trying to control it. And that is what people do so often—they take these emotions, maybe they start to see there’s hurt, there’s anger or upset or guilt or whatever it is, and then they try to control it or end up suppressing it, but not really releasing it.

And that is one of the key insights that you’ll notice from this session—just the awareness of where it shows up. And that a lot of times it can be hidden, even though it’s all around you. And so it, it’s a bit tricky. And so that’s where we’re going as we step back in with beautiful Michaela. Here we go.

Brandy: Give me one second. Bingo. Yes. Okay, so give me one second. Bingo.

Brandy: Okay, so earlier this morning—approximately eight hours ago—there was somebody who you were upset with. Do you know who that was?

Michaela: Must have been somewhere at the market…

Brandy: Bingo.

Michaela: I think it was a person smoking.

Brandy: Bingo. There you go. I love your awareness. On what level?

Michaela: Yeah, it spiked quite a bit because it annoyed me and then I’m like, “No, no, no, don’t let that irritate yourself.” And then I went off to ignoring it and coming down. But there was a spike of anger.

Brandy: Yes. Zero to ten, how high?

Michaela: Maybe a six.

Brandy: I would have said an eight, but we’ll go with your six. But I love your awareness. I love your awareness. Okay, great. So I’m gonna ask you to breathe.

Bingo. So yesterday—I see eight. I see eight times feeling angry.

Michaela: Ooh. Okay.

Brandy: Can you start to see some of them?

Michaela: I recall one, but eight? Oh my goodness.

Brandy: Okay, so let’s say—so I love that you’re recalling one. Give me one second. Bingo. The first one was around 9:00 AM your time. You’re familiar with that one?

Michaela: Yes.

Brandy: Great. Great self-awareness. Okay, so 9:00 AM your time. Then—bingo—the next time was around one your time, and it feels like there were kind of multiple around that time. Around three of them around one o’clock. Can you see them?

Michaela: I felt a little bit stressed at the time because I needed to check out and, um, things weren’t ready as they were supposed to be, and what wasn’t ready was the invoice. And people just kind of didn’t prepare the way it was supposed to be done.

Brandy: Oh. Okay. And how angry did you feel about that?

Michaela: I’d say like a three or four.

Brandy: I would have said higher, but the great thing is—you see it. Okay, so I’m gonna ask you to breathe.

Bingo. 6:00 PM-ish. Checking into a new hotel…

Michaela: I can’t see this one. No.

Brandy: Okay. So it feels like a man—

Michaela: I think I went to a restaurant and this guy came too close to me and I’m like, “Come on, keep your distance.”

Brandy: Bingo. I love your awareness. I love your awareness. Beautiful. Beautiful.

Bingo. Okay, so there was that. Now, um, okay, so there were about four more between—let’s say—bingo, between seven and around eight. So it feels like maybe it was all around the dining experience. There were around four or five more. Can you see that?

Michaela: Yeah. It’s—the smoke is irritating me here a little bit, so I know…

Brandy: Bingo. That smoking everywhere…

Michaela: Yes.

Brandy: Bingo. There’s also a feeling of impatience right there. Can you see that? There was an impatience around something as well. It feels like a feeling of almost feeling like somebody messed something up. I don’t know if they messed something up with your meal or this or that, but there feels like there was a frustration and an impatience. Can you see it?

Michaela: I think it took forever for the invoice to come.

Brandy: Yeah. Okay. So, uh, so I’m gonna ask you to breathe.

So we just covered the last 24 hours, right?

Michaela: Mm-hmm.

Brandy: Okay, so I’m gonna ask you to breathe.

… (continued in Part 4)

Seeing Through Emotional Triggers and Perspective

Brandy: Now I want you to notice for a moment, notice how these people—they wanted it to take a long time for the invoice to come, and they were all just sitting there on their bum doing nothing the whole time, right?

Michaela: Now… is that true?

Brandy: They were just sitting there doing nothing?

Michaela: I don’t know. They might have been busy with someone else.

Brandy: Okay. So, I’m gonna ask you to breathe.

And did they tell you they were gonna get it to you in five minutes and then they didn’t?

Michaela: No, they didn’t specify the time. I just asked.

Brandy: Oh. And did you communicate that you were in a hurry to go anywhere? I’m sure you communicated and you said, “Hey, I really need you to get this as soon as possible please.” I’m sure you said that, right?

Michaela: No, I did not.

Brandy: Oh. So you didn’t communicate it. You just asked for the check. They took their time getting it. I mean—but it’s not like anybody goes to a restaurant to just casually be there and hang out and enjoy the time there, right?

Michaela: Hmm.

Brandy: So what was the agreed upon time that you guys set an agreement on how long it was gonna be and they did not follow the agreement, right?

Michaela: Uh, there was… there was no agreed upon time.

Brandy: Yes. Okay. So there was no agreed upon time, but you made up an imaginary amount of time in your head and then you didn’t communicate it to them. But then when they did not comply with your imaginary time that you did not communicate, you got upset with them.

Okay. Well, that’s interesting. So I’m gonna ask you to breathe. You had a right to be angry because they did not comply with your imaginary time that you did not communicate to them. That’s so messed up. They didn’t do that. I can’t—I can’t even believe how… that’s so disrespectful. It’s like they think you were just there to enjoy or something. Who goes to a restaurant to just enjoy? This is ridiculous. Now I see this valid—this upset. I get it. I understand. How just disrespectful and rude they were to assume you were just there to enjoy or taking your time, when clearly they should have known that you were in a hurry and you needed it in a certain amount of time.

Michaela: I think I was taking it for granted that if I’m asking for something, it’s happening immediately.

Brandy: Oh. Hmm. Okay. Sure. Because it’s not like they have anybody there at the restaurant. It’s a restaurant for one person, right? Or at the restaurant they have one staff member per guest, right? So every single table has its own waiter. So of course if you ask for the check, it should be there immediately. Obviously, it’s logical.

Michaela: I see your point.

Laughing at the Ego—The Shift Begins

Brandy: Alright, so let’s go ahead and pause it just for a quick moment. You know, first and foremost I love her and I love her response. Is laughter—perfect. She’s starting to see it in a different way, which is fantastic. Not self-critical, not being mean to self—laughing and going, “I see it.” And that is brilliant, and I strongly recommend doing that with yourself as you’re working with your own mind.

Having the ability to laugh and notice I’m making things a bit ridiculous—and of course pushing, because I need to fill her mind with seeing things in a different way. So I’m going to keep pushing because I need to give her mind also a solution moving forward. Because if there is that urgency and she doesn’t resolve it, you know, then she’s still going to end up going into that aggravation and urgency, etc. And so I’m wanting to give her brain a solution, and so I’m gonna keep pushing—and that’s where we’re going.

But I just wanted to note that that awareness of laughing with self, not being hard or being critical, but being loving and aware and opening up your mind in a different way—I just love that. And I love her. And we’re going back to pushing into the solution. Here we go.

… (continued in Part 5)

Embracing the Shift with Humor and Insight

Brandy: So what you’re saying is, if you wanted it in a certain amount of time, then maybe you should have asked earlier, or maybe when you did ask, you could have said, “Oh, I just looked at the time and I need to catch a plane. Is there any way you could prioritize that, please?” So you could have communicated your sense of urgency or prepared for it instead.

But otherwise, you asked. They didn’t drop everything and go do it immediately. But you didn’t communicate. And of course you’re angry—and it’s their fault. Okay, I get it. So I’m gonna ask you to breathe now. If I ask you right now how valid you feel like that anger was, what would you say?

Michaela: Not valid.

Brandy: So it’s not really fair to them to then be angry. Now, by the way, did you then express anger to them? Like being annoyed at them, remember?

Michaela: I can see…

Brandy: Mm-hmm. Do you think they knew that you were annoyed with them? Did you even make anything—

Michaela: I think I had a little bit of a temper, yes. I wasn’t too, too impressed.

Brandy: Wasn’t too impressed. Okay, well there goes their tip. They didn’t even get that for me immediately. You know—what? Tip them now? For that horrible behavior that they exuded?

Michaela: [Laughs]

Brandy: Okay. So I’m gonna ask you to breathe. And if I ask you how much you’re looking at things in a different way, what would you say?

Michaela: Definitely. 180 degrees.

Brandy: Bingo. So if I ask you—how much does this feel like real change versus, “Oh, I’m trying to control my temper from these stupid people who just didn’t bring me my invoice the second that I asked for it because they should have known and I had a temper and I can’t believe it.” So—a little bit of a change or a big change?

Michaela: Quite a big change.

Brandy: Yeah. Quite a big change. So healing takes real, real change. Does that make sense?

Michaela: Beautiful. Totally.

Brandy: The question is just—can I tell you—wait a second, wait a second. Can I tell you how impressed I am with you? So I’m gonna ask you to breathe. Give me one second.

Now I want you to notice for a moment how much—you were about to ask. You were about to ask this: “How do I implement a real change,” right?

Michaela: Mm-hmm.

Brandy: Okay. So I got you. I feel you. I got you. Now, this is the thing. If I ask you how much you’re seeing this situation in a different way, what would you say? A little bit or a lot?

Michaela: A lot.

Brandy: Yeah. So what happens is as we rewire our minds, as we let go of negativity, as we start changing, we shift our consciousness. So a lot of times people go to shift their consciousness, they go, “Oh, well I’m just gonna picture energy,” or “I’m gonna picture…” like they want to check out. They go, “Okay, well let me just check out, let me check out.”

But instead, what happens is when we really start to think and feel, perceive, act, and be with our world in a different way—that’s when we really start to change. So what would have to happen is to really rewire your mind at a deeper level. Does that make sense? So you really start to see life events, you experience life in a different way. You’re seeing life, you’re feeling life, you’re showing up to life in a different way.

… (continued in Part 6)

Real Change Requires Real Rewiring

Brandy: Now, I’m gonna ask you to breathe, and I want you to picture just for a moment what it looks like if somebody looks at life and they see everything in life as being fearful. And that’s how they feel. What does that feel like to their nervous system?

Michaela: Constant tension.

Brandy: Yeah. So the thing of it is, this is what I did—I gave you a glimpse of what change looks like. So what happens is as we rewire our subconscious mind and emotions and mindset, we start to open up our consciousness where we’re seeing things in a different way, we’re feeling in a different way. Like a real change opens up at a deeper level. Does that make sense?

Michaela: Yeah.

Brandy: So I’m gonna ask you to breathe and—bingo—I want you to notice for a moment how much you went from feeling wronged with the invoice to then feeling like, oh, oops, maybe you were in the wrong with the invoice. You see the difference?

Michaela: Mm-hmm. Yeah. I was not right to be unhappy with the delivery.

Brandy: Yes. Okay, so I’m gonna ask you to breathe. Now, if I ask you in the past, how much do you feel wronged and have you felt wronged in relationships?

Michaela: Too often. Too often.

Brandy: Zero to ten, how much?

Michaela: A ten. Twelve.

Brandy: Twelve. Now are you sure you were right? Now you make me wonder—obviously, I think maybe not.

Brandy: Ah, I love your awareness. I love your awareness. Now this is the thing, right?

Releasing the Cycle of Victimhood

Brandy: Alright, so let’s go ahead and pause it just for a quick moment. You know, first and foremost, again, I love her response of laughter and also how willing she’s to be open-minded and look at things in a different way. It’s beautiful and brilliant and wonderful, and that’s the direction of really making a change that needs to happen to create the change.

And I’ve got to say so often, you may have seen this before—but so often this is what people end up doing. They end up feeling resentful towards relationships and then reinforcing it. They reinforce it with—I mean, what the buzzword today is, you know, in our world today is “narcissists.”

So then maybe they’re feeling wronged from a relationship, and of course typically in any relationship both people can make mistakes, but what has—what I see happening more and more is that people will feel like a victim in the relationship and they emphasize it and they get upset about it and hurt about it. Then they add labels to it—“so and so is a narcissist,” and “they did this”—and then they vent about it and all of these things.

And instead of healing, they end up increasing the issue or the problem. And that’s what I want to bring to your awareness is that it can be so common for people to do and not realize it’s the very pattern that’s affecting their life and their health. And so we just have to work with the mind in a different way to genuinely let these things go at a deeper, deeper, deeper level.

Because if not, they just literally hold onto our consciousness. And by the way, you’ll notice—you can notice as I’m even speaking with her—that I’m being ridiculous and silly, but I’m also pushy a lot. You know, so I’m pushing and I’m going, “Oh…” you know, just being really strong in the way I’m pushing but also laughing and being ridiculous at the same time.

But the reason that I needed to push so much is because her consciousness, her mindset has been so stuck in this and feeling like she’s right. That even as we can see with the receipt and the invoice—you can see things from a different side and it really starts to open your mind.

… (continued in Part 7)

Breaking Emotional Cycles and Programming

Brandy: So just food for thought—because what happens is of course the mind gets sucked back in. And that’s where we’re going as we step back in with our beautiful volunteer, Michaela. Here we go.

Brandy: This is what you’ll want to know—is this: It does take a real change. And this is what will happen, okay? So let’s say you have this awareness, and then we hang up right now. And then what happens is that there’s all these little triggers and triggers and triggers and triggers, and big triggers and little triggers. It’ll suck your mind back into that emotion. So you’re feeling it, experiencing it, and it consumes you. Does that make sense?

Michaela: Mmhmm.

Brandy: So what has to happen to heal is we have to break the patterns. Because what—this is what happens—is that we have ways of responding, and it might not be accurate. But then we also have ways of attracting, where maybe we attract something that is accurate because then we’re on that bandwagon anyway—where we’re on that level. So we get in this cycle. And let me put it in another way to clarify.

Let’s use the example I give all the time—of maybe a woman with an abusive father who leaves him and finds the abusive boyfriend, boss, spouse—that pattern continues, right?

Michaela: Yes.

Brandy: Okay. So if that pattern continues in that situation, that scenario I’m giving you, is he really abusive or is he fake abusive? Are they like fake black eyes or is it real abuse?

Michaela: It was probably real. Real abuse.

Brandy: Mmhmm. Right. So my point is, is that both can be true and not. Meaning that—this situation that I just gave you with the example of the invoice and the waiter—is an example where you could see that your actions were not necessarily optimal and you can see that that was an issue, right?

Michaela: Correct.

Brandy: But additionally—emotions breed more of the same. And so then what happens is some of the experiences that you felt where you were really upset and frustrated are probably also valid.

So I gave you a not-valid one. But then there’s also going to be a quote-unquote valid one that you attract—that you don’t want to validate. But my point is you’ll end up with both of them if you’re in a pattern, typically. Does that make sense?

Michaela: Beautiful. Mmhmm.

Brandy: So what needs to happen to be able to heal is to be able to shift your mind out of these states and your energy out of these states to really then break free from it so you’re no longer in that state of that energy. Does that make sense?

If I put it in another way, it’s like this. Let’s say somebody’s trying to heal anxiety attacks or panic attacks, right? So we’re just simplifying. So let’s say they’re trying to heal panic attacks—and let’s say there’s 10 things a day that make them feel panicked. Some of them are real, some of them are not real. But there are 10 things a day that make them feel panicked. How soon till they are going to heal panic attacks if there are 10 triggers a day that make them feel panicked?

Michaela: Not really.

Brandy: Okay. So now let’s say that some of those situations—they might have done everything right and it still attracted the wrong thing. And then in other situations, they’re just having an experience in their head and they’re not seeing it with clarity. So they’re programmed to respond in this way. Does that make sense?

Michaela: Mmhmm.

Brandy: So what would need to happen is they need to rewire themselves at a deeper level so they’re really embracing the change. Does that make sense? So they’re not feeling this emotion at all anymore—whatsoever. Because once we’re in an emotional pattern, we can attract more stuff on that level, but we can also perceive more things on that level, and we really need to reprogram the way that we respond at a deeper level in the subconscious mind.

Michaela: Basically, you’re not allowing any outside situation to trigger me anymore.

Brandy: Yes. That’s part of it, absolutely. Watch this. The tricky part is—notice how your consciousness around it—how you are seeing things in a different way when I pointed it out. Does that make sense?

Michaela: Yes.

Brandy: What happens in the healing process is that the more that we program our minds and the more that we change the subconscious programming—the more that we see with clarity. I’m going to say that again. Notice your mental clarity regarding this one situation has gotten better. You see it with more clarity.

Michaela: Mmhmm.

Brandy: And what happens is—the more you reprogram your mind, the more you start to see everything else with more and more and more clarity as well. Your consciousness opens up in a better way so you can respond in a better way. Does that make sense?

… (continued in Part 8)

From Awareness to Integration

Michaela: So from my understanding, if now a situation happens and I’m getting irritated, but my consciousness wasn’t yet that developed, so I still got triggered—then I’m kind of like saying, “Okay, pause. What has just happened? Why did it trigger me? Maybe I could see the situation from a different angle,” so that if a similar situation then happens again, that I’m then not triggered anymore. So this time I was triggered, but in future… so then I’ve got a second example—like my invoice type, right? So basically that I’m just calling—

Brandy: Yes. And notice—I would say that is where I’d want somebody to go at about a level three.

Michaela: Okay.

Brandy: Why? Because we have to create a radical shift at a deeper level. So in other words, this pattern of feeling a bit of a temper—if I ask you what age were you when it started, let’s say eight or nine comes to mind—

Michaela: Nine is what I get.

Brandy: Bingo. That’s what I would say. Okay. So there’s a pattern. So there’s that. So what I would do is—yes, reprogram it—but then also release it from the subconscious mind. And so—bingo. So give me one second. So…

Brandy: Okay. So let me expand for you for a moment. So I’m going to expand here, and it’s like this. So the answer is yes. And—because notice you have had this pattern for this long and it didn’t make you sick previously. Why is that? Because there are different ingredients now. There are different pieces to the puzzle.

You hear me say all of the time that it’s like this: If it was just stress that affects the physical body—now we know stress affects the physical body, that’s been proven. We can see medical research. We know that yes, stress affects the physical body. But if it was just stress, then anybody who’s really, really, really, really stressed would be very sick—and anybody who’s not, wouldn’t be.

So what I figured out is—it’s key ingredients. So there are emotional ingredients, if you will. So it’s kind of like this. Does everybody with anxiety have panic attacks?

Michaela: Oh no.

Brandy: What’s the difference? It depends on the ingredients in their subconscious mind. So do we know that people with anxiety can have panic attacks? Yes, absolutely. It’s proven. We know that. We can see that people with anxiety can absolutely have panic attacks. But not everybody does. And it’s like there are certain pieces of the mind that need to fire simultaneously for that to happen. That’s what I figured out, which was a breakthrough in healing and understanding—is, “Okay, what are those other emotions that are triggering at the same time that are creating the problem?”

Brandy: So what I want you to notice is—yes, there is this pattern. But if I ask you right now how much there’s a part of you who is also feeling extremely stressed about work and finances and everything moving forward—zero to ten—what’s your level there?

Michaela: It has decreased. Zero, baby—

Brandy: Zero to ten—what’s your level there?

Michaela: Uh, five… seven. Seven.

Brandy: Okay. And if I ask you also—zero to ten—how much there’s an inner, inner, inner, inner part of you that is feeling lonely and unloved, what would you say?

Michaela: Five to six.

Brandy: Okay. So notice—there’s multiple pieces here. And my point is—what I see people do to heal themselves—and that’s why you hear me say all the time—is that there are multiple ingredients. And we have to take those patterns and really, really resolve them and really shift that.

So that’s what I’d want you to do—is ultimately take these patterns and shift them.

… (continued in Part 9)

Taking Action and Embracing the Change

Brandy: Now, the other thing is—I don’t want you to feel overwhelmed. And it does take a real, real, real change. Considering that, what I’d recommend doing is this:

I’d recommend just starting to notice where this pattern comes up and starting to shift it. And I would also really, really recommend going through my video course. Taking time to go through it and really, really embrace the change at a deeper, deeper level—to look at all of the pieces specifically and take your time with them and really embrace the change.

Because I have seen people heal from all kinds of things. All kinds. And even right now we have somebody who just—they’re following up, they’re seeing their doctors, they’ve got a PET scan. She literally just sent it in like a couple days ago. Like, “Oh my gosh, my doctors are so amazed. My PET scan is great…”

So I see people do amazing things all the time, and I just want to make sure that we’re not putting fluff on it and saying, “Just think positive. It’s gonna be great.” Because I’m gonna tell you—it does take a real change. So that’s my biggest recommendation: follow through. See your doctors. Don’t be afraid of the tests. Instead, show up and say, “Okay, game on. Let me show up, pay attention, notice where my biomarkers are going, pay attention, listen to your doctor, hear your doctor—and then roll up your sleeves and make a change. And a real, real change. And do it.”

Does that make sense?

Michaela: Totally. Yes.

Brandy: You’re beautiful. I am so impressed with you. I am so, so impressed with you. I am so impressed.

So that’s what I want you to do. And—you’re just—you’re amazing. I’m hugely impressed. I adore you. I adore you.

Michaela: Thanks. And we really appreciate your help and your advice. You really made me think now—my goodness.

Brandy: That’s fantastic. That’s fantastic. I love that. Beautiful. It has been such a pleasure connecting with you, and I just absolutely adore you. I’m cheering you on. Let’s see you do this, okay lovely?

Michaela: Thank you so, so much.

Closing Thoughts and Key Takeaways

Brandy: Alright, so let’s go ahead and bring everything together. And you know—first and foremost, I just love her. I love her self-awareness. I love her sense of humor where she—just as she started to see things in a different way—she was able to laugh about it and also own the shift. And just say, “Well, let me really look at this in a different way.” So I love that.

And of course—as you notice—I pushed quite a bit. Why? Because she’s got a very, very, very strong mind. And so I needed her to really start seeing things in a different way. And in this case, with that really strong mind, if I would’ve paused for too much or left too much of a gap, then of course her mind would start thinking a lot and going into her old way of thinking. And I really needed her to start thinking in a different way.

So of course, pushing her a lot to then think in a different way, to see in a different way—and it’s up to her to really embrace it. Because as you may have noticed, there’s a lot of resistance to change. So my goal—and even when I said I’m giving her a glimpse of what that change, that new perspective looks like—and the reason that I said that is because likely, her mind is going to go back into the negative.

And that’s very common. Because what can happen is, as soon as the mind gets triggered and triggered and triggered, it goes back. Now, of course, I say likely it’s going to go back into the negative—but hopefully it doesn’t. Because, as I recommended to her, I would love for her to go through my video course and follow the instructions and really start changing.

Because as you hear me emphasize all the time—it does take a real change. And that’s one of the things that I really love about this episode, is that you can see it takes a real, real, real change. You start seeing things in a different way, feeling in a different way. And it’s not just, you know, seeing energy in a different way or life in a different way—yeah, that’s great—but it’s also seeing patterns in a different way, seeing emotions in a different way, seeing people in a different way, really connecting with life from a different consciousness. Getting rid of the fear or the panic or the upset or the anger or the whatever it is—but really creating that shift so we can feel and experience life in a whole new way.

And of course, that’s a gift. When we really change these patterns—I mean, imagine if she’s changing these patterns and she really starts feeling what? Probably more connection with people, less anger, less upset, more connection, better communication, better relationship. I mean, it’s just beautiful what happens as we really start healing things at a subconscious level.

And so that, of course, is my hope for her—that she follows through to really embrace that change. Cheering her on. And also, just so impressed with her—just beautiful, beautiful, beautiful being.

And those are the insights that I wanted to share today. The awareness of shifting your consciousness, of making a real change, of realizing that we really have to change the way we see things at a deeper, deeper, deeper level. It’s so important for healing, for transformation.

So those are the insights from today’s episode. And as always, I want to ask you to please do take a quick moment to hit the share button on this episode. You know—share it with somebody you love, somebody you care about, or somebody you don’t even know. Because the more that every single person in our world feels happy and healthy, and loved and loving—the better this world is for all of us. So please do make a point to hit the share button, and please do have an incredible rest of your day—and I look forward to connecting with you on the next episode. We’ll see you there.