What happens when deep hurt and betrayal are held onto — even when those feelings feel justified?
In this powerful episode of Heal Yourself, Change Your Life®, Brandy Gillmore reflects on a session with Dagmar, a volunteer who reached out while feeling hopeless and spiraling after a stage-four colon cancer diagnosis. At the time, she felt as though nothing was working and that she was losing hope.
As Brandy worked with her, she focused first on Dagmar’s physical discomfort so she could see the mind-body connection and understand what was happening at a deeper level. Dagmar was experiencing stomach discomfort at about level 7 when the session began.
Through the session, Brandy identified long-standing emotional patterns connected to feeling deeply hurt, unloved, and betrayed — particularly involving her father and a close friend — along with strong feelings of wanting to punish others. As these patterns were brought into awareness and shifted, Dagmar experienced a clear physical change, with the stomach discomfort releasing to no pain by the end of the session.
This episode explores how holding onto hurt, betrayal, and the need to punish — even when emotions feel valid — can affect the body, and how being willing to shift these patterns can open the door to healing, clarity, and renewed hope.
As always, if you’d like to listen to the full live self-healing session where Brandy works directly with the volunteer—or if you’d like a deeper understanding of mind-body healing—you’ll find the links below in the resources. And if this episode touched your heart or opened your mind, please take a moment to hit the share button and share it with someone you love.
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Welcome to Heal Yourself. Change Your Life. I’m Brandy Gillmore and what I’m most known for is helping people to create radical transformations and even demonstrating the power of the mind and self-healing under medical equipment so you can see the results and my work has even been published in a medical journal because it’s truly incredible what we are all capable of when we understand our own minds at a deeper level.
So whether you’re new to this work or you’ve been studying the power of the mind for many years. I love that you are here. I love that we’re on this incredible journey together, and I look forward to sharing breakthrough information with you. That said, on this podcast, I’ll share two types of episodes.
First, self-healing episodes, where I share key insights from working with live volunteers. And the second type are where I answer questions from the audience. That said, if you’d like to volunteer or submit a question, come visit me at BrandyGillmore.com. On that note, let’s dive in.
Hello and happy, beautiful day to you. I want to add in a quick but important note to make this podcast very easy to navigate because today’s episode has a special format. Today I worked with a live volunteer. As you probably know, there are a lot of people who are now using AI to modify information online.
For that reason, we have taken an extra step to help protect our beautiful volunteer and the integrity of this work to help keep the information from being modified. And we actually love how this turned out because it provides you with even more information. This is how it works. On today’s episode, you’ll hear an overview of the person that I worked with, and I will provide you with simple but powerful breakthrough insights that helped our volunteer begin making a radical shift.
Then at the end of this short breakthrough episode, if you are ready for a deep dive, you can click in the show notes to gain access to the actual self-healing session where I worked directly with the live volunteer. This enables us to help protect the information online from being modified. While still continuing to provide you with powerful information to help bridge the gap between science and spirituality and personal empowerment, because it’s truly incredible what you are capable of when you learn to understand your mind at a deeper level.
That said, let’s dive into the simple but powerful insights that came from working with today’s volunteer. Here we go.
All right, so as we get started with today’s episode, the first thing that I want to say is that I just have so much respect for our beautiful volunteer, and I just love today’s episode for so many reasons. Now, initially, when I connected with our beautiful volunteer, she was in a really not good spot.
She felt like she was just spiraling downwards. And ultimately, to give you a bit of her backstory, her name is Dagmar, and when she reached out, she did so because she has stage four colon cancer that was diagnosed in 2022 and she felt like she was starting to get better after surgery, and she was very hopeful that she was going to get better and then the cancer came back and. Came back really strong with bowel obstruction and nothing was working, and she basically said she was spiraling down and losing hope. Now things have changed since then. So let me unpack this. So when she reached out, that is how she felt and I began working with her now her session actually took place a couple months ago now. So the great thing is, is that between this time when I’m releasing this and she reached out for the actual session. A bit of time has passed and the beautiful thing is, is that now she’s actually really excited. Her body is actually improving and she’s going on holiday, and so things have shifted around beautifully and I love that.
So I just love that and I love that I get to record this. Instead of saying, oh, she’s in a really bad spot, I can say, yep, she was. But things are looking up. Now. Of course it is going to take a real follow through and she is following through. She’s doing the medical treatment, she’s doing, working with her mind, she’s literally doing everything but. The beautiful thing is, is when they said that it wasn’t working and everything was stuck, and now suddenly after our session, things are opening up and they are working. So it’s a beautiful shift that she’s making now, by the way, when I worked with her, she had stomach discomfort pain in her stomach at about a level seven.
So she had this level of discomfort and. That’s what we began working on. Now, of course, the reason that I like to show pain release is because people can then see the mind body connection and what’s going on, and they can see not only that, they can see that they can make changes, but also then we can see some of the bigger picture of what else is going on at a deeper level and that was very much the case with our beautiful volunteer Dagmar. Now, part of what was going on is that she had a lot of hurt in connection with her father. So she loves her father very much and has had all of this hurt and not feeling loved, and it’s just been a very painful experience for her.
Now, in addition to that, there’s a lot of feelings of really wanting to punish her dad and also her best friend as well, because what she found out is that. Her dad was actually having a relationship with her best friend many years ago, and she ended up finding out. Now the thing to note is that technically speaking, while Dagmar was not happy with this information, she was really upset and she felt violated. Technically speaking, there wasn’t necessarily something that they were doing that was necessarily wronging somebody, if you will, meaning that her friend was well over the age of 18, so there wasn’t an issue with age, neither one was having an affair. They were both having a relationship that was not violating integrity issues with other people except for the fact that, of course, they hadn’t told Dagmar because they were afraid that she would be upset. And so there were a lot of hurt feelings, a lot of feelings of betrayal and upset.
Now this is the thing is that technically speaking, even though she was very hurt and very upset, technically speaking. They didn’t necessarily wrong her. They weren’t doing anything to her that was negative. I mean, yes, they were having a relationship, but technically speaking, two consenting adults are allowed to have a relationship without telling somebody else about it. So even though it, it would’ve been, out in the open for them to say something she wasn’t technically wronged. And of course there was a reason they didn’t tell her is because she would’ve been, of course, very upset about it. So there were just a lot of different emotions.
Now, the insight that I want to share. From that is this, is that after this information came out, Dagmar stopped speaking to her friend completely and just had all of these feelings of wanting to punish both of them because she felt really hurt. And the problem is, is this, is that we can’t punish somebody for love.
We can’t punish somebody. We want to think about, yes, if something hurts your feelings, I get it. But so often people might feel upset or rejected or unloved for something, and then they want to take it out on somebody else because it didn’t feel good, and they feel upset and they’re angry, but we can’t do that to one another. We don’t have a right. Like I don’t have a right to go punish people. And you don’t have a right to just go punish people or be mean to you people because they didn’t do what you want them to do. And what I love is that Dagmar, she just, she really started to shift where she really started to see things in a different way and that’s when her pain dropped. So that discomfort type of pain that was going on in her stomach literally dropped from a level seven down to gone, and she did it, and it was brilliant to see her do that. And part of what was brilliant was this is just for her to come in feeling absolutely hopeless and feeling like she was in a spiral and there was no hope for her health and kind of reaching out as a last ditch effort to do something to live, and then being willing to start changing and letting these things go. To see her pain go from a level seven to a level zero. She could see them mind body connection, and so the thing of it is, is that sometimes we have to be willing to change the things that we may not want to change, not because we want to. I mean, even in Dagmar situation, this was something she was very hurt about, very upset about, very angry about. And if I asked her, is this something that she really wants to change? It wasn’t something she wants to change, it wasn’t something she wants to change but when you can start to see the mind body connection and you can see the shift.
And you can see as you shift your mind that you can shift your pain and start shifting that, that body, you start to realize that some of the things that you may hold onto or may be angry about can affect you more than that anger is affecting other people, and so that’s the insight that I want to share from today’s episode is exactly that, is that, sometimes. In our culture, there can be a tendency to coddle victim emotions or it’s not fair emotions. And the problem is, is that the price tag on that is huge, meaning that so often people are coddling victim emotions in other people, and they don’t realize that it is connected to the cancer, it is connected to the autoimmune or the health issue or the problem and literally all of the time I see people coddling and nurturing and venting and reinforcing the very patterns that are actually affecting their health and their life.
And so just food for thought that sometimes to create healing, we have to change things that maybe you may not want to change consciously, but if you look at them through a different lens, you start to realize that it’s in your best interest to do so, and I see that all of the time. And so just food for thought. So often when I’m working with people or people are going through my video courses and they start identifying the specific emotions that are coming up for them, a lot of times they are surprised at what comes up and for Dagmar, she was surprised at what was affecting her as well. But again, the great thing is, is that she could see.
The pain shift, she could feel that discomfort, that pain in her stomach shift. And so it was a very powerful awareness for her. And by the way, on that note, if you’d like to listen to the actual session itself, you can do so by clicking the link in the show notes, it’s a very powerful episode. I strongly recommend listening to it. It just it’s so insightful and the shift. It’s just really profound. The shift is at the end, if you will, so it kind of, it comes in an interesting way. That shift is just really profound. So there’s that.
And of course, if you are somebody who’s wanting to gain a deeper understanding of mind body healing, there’s a link for free training that’s in the show notes and lastly, as always, I want to ask you to please do take just a quick moment to hit the share button on this episode. Share it with somebody you love, somebody you care about, or somebody you don’t even know. Because the more that every single person in our world feels healthy and happy, and loved and loving, truly, the better this world is for all of us and so please do take a quick moment to hit the share button, and please do make a point to have an incredible rest of your day. I look forward to connecting with you on the next episode. We’ll see you there.
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IMPORTANT NOTE: We understand that some may believe mind-body healing is impossible. Therefore, if you would like to see images of individuals using their minds to relieve pain, you can check out this medical journal. It includes images from some of Brandy's case studies. If you want to learn how to use your mind to heal yourself, you can check out the training on Brandy's website. Each week, Brandy publishes a volunteer episode where she coaches a volunteer to heal themselves using their own mind. In addition, Brandy shares a quick IQ episode (Insights and Questions) where she answers listener questions or delves deeper into insights on working with the mind for healing. This podcast is for educational purposes only and is not a substitute for psychiatric or medical care.
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