Welcome to Heal Yourself, Change Your Life. My name is Brandy Gillmore, and after recovering from my own life-changing injury, it’s become my mission to share with others the same discoveries I made that changed my health and my entire life. Our minds are truly incredible. The placebo is proof of this.
Each week, I will take this simple awareness to a whole new level. I will even coach live callers to free themselves of physical pain using only their mind. And then I’ll provide you with a combination of practical and spiritual insights that you can use to master your mind, your emotions, and your energy—to help you heal your health, yourself, and your life.
Let’s begin.
Hello and happy, beautiful day to you. Welcome to today’s quick IQ episode, where we talk about insights and questions. And today I want to share a very powerful insight from a mother that I worked with recently who was having some patterns that were affecting her daughter. You’re just going to absolutely love these insights because they’re common, they’re all around us, and not only can they affect children—but they can also affect adults. Most people just don’t realize it.
Understanding Subconscious Patterns in Children and Adults
A lot of times, the programming in our subconscious mind is so hidden. Not only that—it can be completely illogical. Because it doesn’t make logical sense, we often dismiss it or overlook it.
You’ve probably heard the saying, “Someone can feel alone in a crowded room.” And it’s true. How can that be? It’s because that’s how the emotions and subconscious mind work. Those feelings of being alone—even when surrounded by people—can have a real impact. They can affect your health, happiness, relationships, and overall energy.
Changing those deep-seated emotions and reprogramming the mind is key. In this particular case, there’s a common pattern that showed up—one that can apply to both children and adults. It’s an important one I hope you’ll use for yourself or with your own children.
A Hidden Emotional Pattern: The Power of “Boo!”
This beautiful, loving mother reached out because her two-year-old daughter had been saying, “Owie, owie, back pain,” even though nothing was physically wrong. They’d checked her out—she was perfectly fine—but the little girl kept saying she had pain, even for about two weeks, along with a little cold.
When I checked into her energy to see what was going on, what I discovered was surprising. It had to do with something we’ve all experienced before—the game of peekaboo. You know, when you play peekaboo or say “boo!” to a little one and make them jump?
What happens in that moment is fascinating. You might scare them for just a second, then they laugh and everything seems fine. But emotionally, that moment of surprise can create an emotional pattern of fear in the subconscious mind. That’s exactly what I found happening with this sweet little girl—feelings of being startled and scared had been stored subconsciously.
Now, this was a loving, caring family—wonderful parents who are deeply attentive and kind. So, logically, there was no reason for her to feel fear. But emotions don’t always follow logic. That’s how the subconscious works.
I’ve also worked with other children who developed pain or health issues linked to being scared by something seemingly harmless—like a neighbor’s dog barking at night. It’s amazing what can show up when we look deeper at the emotional patterns beneath physical symptoms.
Early Emotional Links That Shape Our Health
To give you another example, I once worked with a wonderful woman named Shirley in episodes 247 and 248. She was experiencing severe pain and other health issues, and as we explored her subconscious patterns, we found something unexpected. As a child, she felt unwanted—even though her parents loved her deeply.
She was what her family lovingly called the “bonus baby,” an unplanned surprise after her parents thought they were done having children. Even though her parents adored her, that early emotional link of feeling “unplanned” got associated in her subconscious as being “unwanted.”
So, even with a loving family, that pattern stayed active in her mind, affecting her emotions and health years later. That’s how powerful subconscious emotional patterns can be—they form early, often from simple moments that don’t seem significant at the time.
Reframing Fear Through Love and Play
Back to the little girl and her mom—the healing process turned out beautifully. When I mentioned that her daughter’s energy showed fear, the mom immediately understood and didn’t judge herself or feel guilty. She said, “Okay, let’s change this.”
So here’s what I had her do: instead of saying “boo!” in a sudden, scary way, I told her to redo the pattern in slow motion. I had her say it playfully, like “booooo,” in a silly, funny way, laughing with her daughter. This reframed the emotional experience from fear to fun and love.
The result? The back pain went away completely. Her daughter was laughing and happy again. It was such a beautiful transformation—and the mom’s attitude was incredible. She said, “You should do a podcast episode on this so other parents can learn from it!”
I loved that. She didn’t see it as her fault—she saw it as a chance to bring more awareness and healing to others. That’s true empowerment. Because let’s be honest—it’s a cultural norm to say “boo!” when playing with kids. But those little emotional reactions can get linked up in the nervous system in ways we don’t expect.
It’s just like another example I shared in a past episode—when a child gets a scrape and an adult lovingly says, “Let me kiss your owie and make it better.” That can create a subconscious link between love and sickness or injury. The mind can associate pain with receiving affection, which can influence future emotional and physical patterns.
How Subconscious Emotional Links Affect Us as Adults
There are so many ways emotions and experiences get linked in the subconscious mind—and these patterns can continue affecting people far beyond what they realize, especially when they are repeated over and over again.
So, if you’re listening and thinking, “Wow, maybe I’ve accidentally linked something like that with my child,” I want to encourage you: just change it. There’s no need to feel bad or guilty. Simply begin to shift the emotion. Be silly, be playful, and help your child associate love, laughter, and safety instead of fear or pain.
And if you’re an adult realizing that you might have old patterns of fear, sadness, or insecurity linked in your subconscious mind, the same principle applies. The first step is to begin creating and reinforcing feelings of safety—over and over again—until that becomes your emotional default. Every time you do this, you’re reprogramming your subconscious mind and nervous system to feel more at ease and at peace.
Healing Childhood Patterns and Emotional Programming
Now, while these IQ episodes are designed to bring insights and awareness, if you recognize deeper emotional patterns from childhood, know that you can absolutely change them—but it does require going deeper. When I work with people one-on-one, even in full sessions, we’re often just scratching the surface. The mind is incredibly complex and layered.
If you’ve read my book, then you know how deeply I explore the mind, emotions, and subconscious links. It’s mind-blowing to see how these emotional patterns show up—and how changing them can completely transform your health and your life. This is the very reason I’ve been able to demonstrate people healing themselves under medical equipment. It’s because we’re working at that deeper emotional and energetic level.
So even small emotional changes that seem insignificant can actually be pivotal for transformation. When you shift the subconscious, everything in your energy and body begins to change with it.
Recognizing and Releasing Emotional Patterns
Let’s think about this for a moment. People can have lifelong patterns—such as rejection, abandonment, or even abuse—that repeat in different forms. For example, you’ve probably heard me mention before: a woman who grows up with an abusive father may later find herself with an abusive partner, boss, or friend. These patterns continue not because someone chooses them consciously, but because the emotional experience is familiar to the subconscious mind.
These are emotional patterns—not logical ones. They don’t depend on appearances or situations; they depend on the emotional energy. That’s why something as simple as “boo!” can carry meaning to the subconscious—it’s the emotional feeling that matters.
So when we think, “Oh, it’s just a little game,” what we don’t realize is that the emotional imprint might be getting programmed into the nervous system. And when those emotions of fear or tension get repeated, they can lock in and manifest in the body over time.
But again, this isn’t something to stress about. These patterns can be transformed. All it takes is awareness, intention, and repetition of positive emotional states—feelings of love, laughter, safety, and joy. When we bring those in intentionally, they rewire our energy and create healing from the inside out.
Shifting From Fear to Love
If you notice that you or your children have patterns that don’t make sense or seem illogical, instead of ignoring them, use them as cues for healing. Maybe you’ve felt lonely in a crowded room or unworthy even when loved—those are signs that something in the subconscious is misaligned. They’re not logical, but they’re meaningful.
So rather than dismissing these emotions, embrace them as opportunities for transformation. Ask yourself: “What can I change within me to feel more love, connection, and safety?” Every time you do that, you begin to rewrite your emotional story.
Remember—be kind to yourself. Don’t criticize or blame yourself for old patterns or emotions. This awareness isn’t about guilt; it’s about empowerment. The more you bring in love and compassion, the more you release fear and rewrite the programming in your subconscious mind.
Empowerment Through Awareness
So, that’s today’s insight: if there’s “boo” or fear energy in any area of your life, shift it. Replace fear with love. If you notice emotional patterns that don’t make sense, don’t ignore them—transform them. Even the smallest shift can make a profound difference.
And I want to invite you to please take a moment to hit the share button on this episode. Share it with someone you love, someone you care about, or even someone you don’t know—especially parents. The more we all learn how to nurture emotional safety, positivity, and love, the more empowered and healthy our world becomes.
This beautiful mother I worked with said, “Yes, please share this story if it can help others,” and I’m so grateful for that. It’s a wonderful reminder that awareness and love are how we create change—not guilt or blame, but awareness and transformation.
So please do share this episode, and also, make it a point to have an incredible, joyful, healthy rest of your day. I look forward to connecting with you on the next episode. We’ll see you then!
Outro
Thank you for listening to Heal Yourself, Change Your Life. Every week, people reach out to share how these episodes have given them hope, touched their hearts, or helped them stay positive in difficult times. Others share how it’s awakened them to a completely new level of awareness—an awareness of how amazing we all truly are.
If today’s episode touched your heart or expanded your mind in any way, please share it with those you care about—or those who really need it. As more people become empowered, it truly changes our world for the better. That is the point—and the power—behind these demonstrations: to create a radical shift in world consciousness by showing everyone what we are capable of.
Each volunteer you hear on the show will need to follow through and reinforce their new programming to maintain their results, but the point is for you to see that you can also create rapid results in your health and your life—when you understand how to use your mind. You are incredible.
Now, I do want to be clear: most people won’t get results this fast on their own. I make it look easy because of the discoveries I’ve made. Remember, there’s so much more happening in our minds at a deeper level than most people realize.
Connect With Me
If you’d like to send me any questions or comments, come visit me at BrandyGillmore.com. And if you’re currently experiencing physical pain and would like to be a volunteer on the show, you can sign up there as well.
Lastly, please remember—if you do have any health issues, don’t avoid your doctors. Keep seeing them, and make it your goal to blow their minds with what you’re capable of—with the power of your mind.
Thank you.
