Welcome to Heal Yourself, Change Your Life. My name is Brandy Gilmore, and after recovering from my own life-changing injury, it’s become my mission to share with others the same discoveries I made that changed my health and my entire life. Our minds are truly incredible—the placebo is proof of this.
Each week, I will take this simple awareness to a whole new level. I’ll even coach live callers to free themselves of physical pain using only their mind, and then I’ll provide you with a combination of practical and spiritual insights that you can use to master your mind, your emotions, and your energy to help you heal your health, yourself, and your life.
Let’s begin.
Hello, and welcome to this week’s Quick IQ episode, where we talk about insights and questions. Today, I have a really quick but important insight for you regarding connection, love, health, and healing yourself.
The Growing Epidemic of Loneliness
When we stop and look at it for a moment, loneliness has become a growing epidemic. And we know this. Research has shown it—it’s everywhere. And let’s be honest, if you’re somebody who’s feeling lonely, it’s not like you want to feel that way.
But the thing that’s really being overlooked is the awareness that all change starts from within. You hear me talk about this on every past episode—when we’re working to release physical pain or heal the body, it always comes back to changing the mindset and emotions. Patterns breed more of the same.
We’ve talked before about the example of someone who has an abusive father attracting an abusive partner, boss, or friend. That pattern continues because the energy has not yet shifted. And it’s not only in these extreme cases that patterns continue—it also happens in the more subtle emotions that lead to feelings of loneliness or disconnection.
Understanding Emotional Patterns and Loneliness
If you are feeling this way—if you’re experiencing loneliness in your life—I want to share some insights to help you look at it from a different awareness and begin changing it genuinely.
When we stop and think about it, there are over 8 billion people on the planet. Theoretically, none of us should ever be lonely. People are everywhere! But what creates loneliness is not the lack of people—it’s what’s going on inside of us. Our inner patterns and emotional state attract more of the same.
Many people feel a desire to connect with others but simultaneously feel misunderstood or unseen. They tell themselves that nobody understands them or gets them, which reinforces those very emotions. Others have patterns of rejection, hurt, or abandonment. They want connection, but it feels painful—so the cycle continues.
Hidden Patterns That Push People Away
Another key insight is that people often have habits of pushing others away—without realizing it. All the time, I’ll see people who have patterns of superiority, where they feel the need to prove they’re right or to show how smart they are. But in doing so, they end up making others feel wrong, which pushes people away and blocks connection.
You may know someone like that—someone who always has to be right. And while it’s great to be right, it’s not great if you have to make someone else wrong in the process. If we look at things from multiple perspectives, we can often see that each person can be right in their own way.
For example, one person could be standing in front of a building saying, “There’s a door right in the middle,” while another person on the side says, “There’s no door at all.” Both are right—from their perspective. But if they argue and insist the other is wrong, it creates conflict. This is what happens in relationships all the time: instead of trying to truly understand and respect each other’s perspective, people try to prove each other wrong. And that makes it hard to connect.
How to Begin Changing Feelings of Loneliness
Now, the reason I bring this up is because if you are feeling lonely or disconnected, I want to invite you to really look at these patterns and make the decision to change them in your life.
And when I say “lonely,” it doesn’t necessarily mean you don’t have people in your life. We’ve all heard the phrase, “A person can feel alone in a crowded room.” So it’s not just about being physically alone—it’s about feeling emotionally disconnected.
So that’s today’s Quick IQ episode question: Are you feeling alone or disconnected, even if you have plenty of people around you? And more importantly—are you willing to make the changes needed for your health, happiness, and longevity?
When you look at research, you’ll see that human connection directly impacts health and life expectancy. People who are well-connected tend to live longer, happier, healthier lives. It’s that important.
Releasing Emotional Blocks to Connection
Sometimes, people get to a place where they say things like, “I don’t even want love. I’m tired of people.” Or, “I like animals better than people.” I’ve heard this many times—and it usually comes from a place of hurt. If that’s how you’re feeling, I want to lovingly encourage you to begin healing those emotional wounds and transforming the subconscious patterns that created them.
Real transformation happens when you reprogram the subconscious mind—so you begin to genuinely feel differently, hold a different energy, and attract new types of relationships. And a wonderful way to begin that process is to get clear on what you do want. Because all too often, people are focused on what they don’t want.
So instead, start visualizing the connection, friendship, and love you truly want to experience. Feel it in your heart as if it’s already yours. That is how change begins from the inside out.
Closing Thoughts
I hope you’ll take something from today’s episode and begin to implement it in your life. And I also hope that you’ll take just a quick moment to hit the share button on this episode. Share it with someone you love, someone you care about, or even someone you don’t know—because the more happy, loving, and healthy each person is in our world, the better this world becomes for all of us.
So please do have a most loving, wonderful, fantastic rest of your day—and I look forward to connecting with you on the next episode. We’ll see you there.
Final Message
Thank you for listening to Heal Yourself, Change Your Life. So many people reach out and say how much these episodes have given them hope, touched their hearts, or helped them stay positive in hard times—or even woken them up to a new level of awareness of how amazing we all really are.
If today’s episode touched your heart or expanded your mind in any way, please do me a favor and share it with those you care about—or those you know who really need it. As more and more people become empowered, it truly changes our world for the better. That is the point—and the power—of these demonstrations: to create a radical shift in our collective consciousness by showing everyone what we are all capable of.
Each volunteer will need to follow through to reinforce their programming and maintain their results. But the point is for you to see that you really can create rapid results in your health and your life when you truly understand how to use your mind. You are incredible.
And I do want to be clear—most people won’t get results this fast on their own. I make it look easy because of the discoveries I’ve made. You’ll want to remember that there’s so much more happening in our minds at a deeper level than most people realize.
That said, if you want to send me any questions or comments, come visit me at brandygillmore.com/podcast. And if you’re currently experiencing physical pain and would like to be a volunteer on the show, you can sign up there as well.
Lastly, please remember—if you have any health issues, don’t avoid your doctors. Instead, continue seeing them and make it your goal to blow their minds with what you’re capable of—with your mind.
Thank you.
