Welcome to Heal Yourself. Change Your Life. I’m Brandy Gillmore, and what I’m most known for is helping people to create radical transformations, and even demonstrating the power of the mind and self-healing under medical equipment so you can see the results. And my work has even been published in a medical journal because it’s truly incredible what we are all capable of when we understand our own minds at a deeper level.
So whether you’re new to this work or you’ve been studying the power of the mind for many years, I love that you are here. I love that we’re on this incredible journey together, and I look forward to sharing breakthrough information with you. That said, on this podcast, I’ll share two types of episodes.
First, self-healing episodes where I share key insights from working with live volunteers. And the second type are where I answer questions from the audience. That said, if you’d like to volunteer or submit a question, come visit me at BrandyGillmore.com. On that note, let’s dive in.
All right. So today I want to provide you with a very powerful insight that can help you to really shift your life and make things a lot easier and a lot more smooth in life. And it actually comes from a question that I get all of the time from people, and it’s this. Is that so often people will reach out and they say, you know, they, they say, “Why do people on the spiritual journey seem to end up with more lessons,” if you will?
Like, where they feel like they overcome this, quote-unquote, lesson, and then they have another one and another one, despite doing all of the work. And that’s what I want to talk about because I have seen people literally who have been on the journey for 10, 20, 30, 40 years, and they feel like they’re continuing to change, and yet problems keep showing up.
And I’ve seen this even for people, you know, who are very, very successful where I’ve worked with people who are, you know, speakers or authors or, uh, you know, doing all kinds of things at all different levels of business, and yet it just still feels like there’s that underlying feeling of a struggle, if you will, or quote-unquote lessons, and that’s what I want to unpack, and it’s this.
Now, if we simplify everything for a moment, patterns breed more of the same. Now, we could get technical, and we could refer to it in psychology as repetition compulsion or reenactments or attachment theory or, you know, Freud’s work or whatnot, but patterns breed more of the same. So if we simplify it, we can unfortunately look at, you know, the, uh, the example that I use all the time, the unfortunate example where maybe a woman has an abusive father or man has an abusive father and leaves him and finds the abusive boyfriend, boss, spouse, or partner, spouse, whomever, but that pattern can unfortunately continue to repeat.
Now, if we take that awareness for a moment and we build on it, this is what I see happen so often, is that I’ll see somebody who is on the personal development journey, who is working on really clearing their trauma, cleaning things up, and what happens is this, is a lot of times they’ll remove like the hurt or the wounding or the trauma, but they won’t clear the pattern itself.
And so then what typically happens is that the pattern then just shows up in a different way and then in a different way and a different way. And so what can happen is it can feel like the problem is happening more and more, so more and more lessons, if you will. So it’s this lesson, so to speak, or but it’s really this problem and this problem and this problem, and it’s just showing up in a different way, and people don’t realize it’s connected to the same pattern.
So for example, a person may have conflict with their mother, let’s say. And so maybe they worked to clear up that feeling of conflict or hurt or rejection or what it was, and they really did the work around that to clear up that relationship. But they didn’t clean up the actual pattern. And so then what can happen is they clear the trauma or the struggle or challenge with their mother, and then it shows up with their daughter or their son or their spouse, or it shows up in a different level, a friend, a connection, a business, and they don’t realize that it’s part of the same pattern, the same way of feeling showing up.
And so that’s the insight that I want to share with you is just go deeper because, again, when somebody clears that first trauma, that first problem, if you will, they can clear the problem But it doesn’t necessarily clear the pattern. And so I see that so often. And so ultimately what you’d want to look at, and this is the insight is, you know, to go beyond this is notice where else has the pattern shown up and really be willing to get rid of the pattern because it be- it becomes a patterned way of feeling, if you will, that can show up in a variety of different ways.
Now, just to give you an example, let’s say using that same exa- uh, initial example, let’s say that somebody did have conflict with their mother, but then let’s say they talked about it for five years or 10 years. Now it’s a patterned way of feeling that has shown up in so many different ways. Or maybe they didn’t talk about it, but they still felt it.
Or maybe they talked about it and complained to their husband or spouse or partner or whomever, or closest friends. But whatever it is, the problem is, is that the pattern gets ingrained far beyond the initial problem. And so even when somebody clears the problem, it doesn’t clear the pattern, which then just shows up in different ways.
And so, you know, going back to the very, very first unfortunate example that I mentioned, you know, the woman with the abusive father who leaves him and finds the abusive boyfriend, boss, etcetera, you know, I have seen that pattern show up unfortunately, where of course somebody doesn’t want that pattern, but I’ve seen people before, even one situation where a woman had that pattern and then she felt like, okay, she stopped dating.
Like she was like, “I’m not, I’m not gonna get married,” because it happened in husband number one and then husband number two. So finally she said, “Look it, I’m done. No more relationships.” And then it showed up in her boss. So then she finally was like, “Okay, well I quit that.” And then unfortunately It showed up then with her son who was diagnosed as bipolar.
So then he would be on his medication and he would be fine, and then he would be off and he would be violent. And that was like, it was like the pattern showed up in so many different ways, and that’s just one example where you can see it. But my point is, is just that very thing, is that a lot of times I see people who are on the spiritual journey or self-help journey, and they feel like they’re doing the work and they’re clearing the trauma or the problem or the issue or whatnot.
But because they’re not clearing the pattern itself, it continues to feel like Whac-A-Mole. It’s showing up over here or over here. And so that’s the insight that I want to share with you is exactly that, is that ultimately what you’ll want to do is really look at the deeper pattern itself and really work on establishing new neural pathways and creating a real, real change in the mind.
So you’re really reprogramming it so the brain doesn’t even have a new… the, the same way of patterned thinking. So it’s really, really establishing new neural pathways, really feeling in a different way, and it’s really being rewired at a deeper, deeper level. And so that is the key. And just to, to simplify it all, I would say just really start looking at what is the pattern below the trauma, the problem?
Because ultimately, that’s a key for healing, for transformation, for really creating that real lasting change that I see so often people are missing. You know, they’re, they’re on the journey and yet problems continue to perpetuate. So those are the insights that I want to share with you, and the beautiful thing is, is once you start really identifying the pattern and re-patterning the mind and establishing new neural pathways, that’s when it becomes pivotal.
That’s when it becomes easier, transformative, and you don’t feel like you’re in a Whac-A-Mole energy. When, when I say Whac-A-Mole, by the way, it’s, it’s that, uh, game, you know, if, if you’re somebody who doesn’t know, it’s like, um, the, like, uh, a mole popping up, if you will . Like, the game where the… basically something pops up and you kind of push it down and it pops over here and pushes down.
I don’t know if you’ve ever played that game before as a child , but, but it was, uh, you know, just basically the problem keeps popping up over here and over here and over here, and trying to address it in a bunch of different ways. So if, if you’re not familiar with the Whac-A-Mole terminology, it’s just that.
It’s basically that the problem pokes its head up over here and over here like a, like a mole, if you will, where a mole pokes its head out of the ground, but it pops up and you, and, and addressing it. So of course, we don’t want to hit any moles, but you get, you get my idea is, is that, is, is creating that change is pivotal.
for creating that lasting change that you’re wanting for healing transformation in your life. All right. So those are the insights that I want to share. And by the way, if you are somebody who has been stuck in that, make sure not to judge yourself. That was something that I was stuck in 20 years ago, same type of thing where I didn’t understand that mind at a deeper level.
And so it can keep you from healing, from transforming, from really getting the results that you want. So make sure not to judge yourself, being kind, supportive, and just really embracing that change at a deeper level. All right. So those are the insights that I want to share today on today’s quick IQ episode.
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And of course, classes and workshops as well. So those are available. My biggest goal is that everybody is able to heal themselves and change their life. And so I wish you an incredible rest of your day. I look forward to connecting with you on the next episode. We’ll see you there. Thank you for listening to Heal Yourself.
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