Welcome to Heal Yourself. Change Your Life. I’m Brandy Gillmore and what I’m most known for is helping people to create radical transformations and even demonstrating the power of the mind and self-healing under medical equipment so you can see the results and my work has even been published in a medical journal because it’s truly incredible what we are all capable of when we understand our own minds at a deeper level.
So whether you’re new to this work or you’ve been studying the power of the mind for many years. I love that you are here. I love that we’re on this incredible journey together, and I look forward to sharing breakthrough information with you. That said, on this podcast, I’ll share two types of episodes.
First, self-healing episodes, where I share key insights from working with live volunteers and the second type are where I answer questions from the audience. That said, if you’d like to volunteer or submit a question, come visit me at BrandyGillmore.com. On that note, let’s dive in.
All right, so today I want to talk about patterns and transforming patterns because so often I’ve seen this as a key problem that people have when they’re working on personal development or transformation or really healing themselves. Is that patterns can perpetuate for a variety of different reasons and so that’s what I want to talk about today because there are two key insights that I want to share with you that I see all of the time that people have been doing. One of them is this, is that they’ll have a pattern that’s been going on in their lives, and even though they’re trying to get rid of it, they’re simultaneously reinforcing it but they don’t realize it. And I’m gonna give you an example that I’ve seen all of the time. And part of the reason this even came up is because I saw it on social media. This very thing happened and it was this, basically somebody felt a sense of hurt and rejection and it had been their pattern for a long period of time.
So this woman, ultimately, she had felt hurt and rejection. Even since childhood, so it had been this ongoing pattern. Now maybe you’ve heard this before, where somebody can develop a, response that in trying to make themselves feel better, and it, can look like this. Where, maybe in childhood, where a child is left out and then a loving adult comes by and says something like this, it’s okay. You are just better than them. They’re just jealous. What happens in that moment is that feeling of rejection can get linked up to superiority. So then a person feels superior. And so what happens is then the person goes through life, 20 years old, 30 years old, and then they have, maybe they get hurt or rejected, and then they go, I’ll just find somebody better than you.
So it’s that same feeling of rejection with superiority over and over again or somebody feels even at work where they feel like they’ve made a mistake and then they go, I’ll just do something better and then they start to bring in the feeling of superiority to try to make themselves feel better while simultaneously feeling a sense of rejection or feeling like they messed up or whatnot and this happens over and over again. And so the very pattern of rejection ends up perpetuating all around. And that was something that I again, just saw on social media where somebody said, they had this feeling of feeling like they, they broke up and in a relationship. And of course you can have absolute compassion but then there was this feeling of said, there’s this breakup, but that’s okay. You’ll find somebody even better. And of course, we want her to find somebody even better. And that’s the beautiful thing, is absolutely, but not from a place of superiority and righteousness and, criticizing him, but just from a place of saying, okay.
We hope he has great love and success and, wonderful moving forward and, so it’s, it’s not a superiority, it’s not a righteousness, it’s not a negative rejection response. But a genuine transformation, a, feeling that says, you know what? Let me let go of this pattern of rejection or hurt or superiority.
Instead, find a relationship that is holistically better, beautifully better, lovingly better for me. Not, that feeling where it’s not a superiority, but it’s just okay, well it’s just a, genuine. Feeling. And so my point is, is that even if it feels like the superiority, well I’ll just go find something even better, so to speak.
It perpetuates that same pattern. So that pattern as a childhood and from childhood that is, that feeling of feeling left out or rejected, and that loving adult comes by and says, you’re better than they are. They’re just jealous. You’re better than they are. And that, because that pattern then perpetuates and shows up in a variety of different ways and so food for thought on that. Now, I mentioned a second insight, and this is something that I see all of the time as well. So even if we take this same pattern, I’ve seen people before where in a relationship they’re doing that very thing. Maybe they are feeling superior and they’re feeling like. Their husband isn’t giving them enough time and so what happens is they can have this feeling of feeling like, well he’s, feeling rejected by him. And I’ve seen that so often where that very thing can perpetuate where somebody feels rejected over and over and over, but their own actions end up perpetuating the problem. For example, there was another woman that I worked with who had this pattern of wanting her husband to do a bunch of things, so she asked him to do all of these things, and so he was always busy and then she always felt left out, rejected, hurt because he wasn’t spending time with her. What is my point is that her own actions. We’re perpetuating the very problem that she was experiencing and so what can happen is that so often the pattern can perpetuate in a variety of different ways where I’ve seen people before where maybe they’re criticizing their husband or wife, spouse, whomever, and they’re criticizing them, breaking them down, breaking them down, and then feeling a sense of superiority.
While their spouse is failing in one way or another because their spouse is feeling broken down. My point is, is just simply that, using this one example, but I, see it all of the time where. If a pattern is showing up and continuing to show up in a variety of different ways, it can keep you from really creating that transformation and so that’s the insight that I want to share today is exactly that, is that so often patterns that are creating problems in people’s life or relationship or, health or whatever it is, are unconsciously, perpetuating in life and creating more and more hurt. And more and more upset, even though it can feel like it’s being fixed, like the superiority pattern or the righteousness pattern, you’re just better than he is or whatever it is. So it can be tricky in working with the mind, but if we really, really, if you’re working through these patterns and if you really look at them and you really look at shift in these patterns, that’s when it becomes pivotal for love, relationships, life, connection, healing, all of it.
So that’s the insight that I want to share today. And of course, as always, if you are somebody who, wants an even deeper understanding of mind body healing, there’s definitely a free training in the show notes but also, as always, I ask you to please do take just a quick moment to hit the share button on this episode.
Share it with somebody you love, somebody you care about, somebody you don’t even know. Because the more that everybody can make the changes in their life, the better this world is for all of us and so on that note with this pattern, what would somebody do? They would really specifically look at where this pattern is, showing up, and not continue to perpetuate the pattern and instead genuinely rewire it.
So even when people are working on, changing their mindset, if they’re simultaneously perpetuating the pattern. It can keep going. And so that’s the insight that I want to share with you today is just noticing that looking forward and embracing that genuine transformation. So it has been such a pleasure connecting with you.
I look forward to connecting with you next week on our next episode. I wish you an incredible rest of your day.
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Instead, it’s best to see your doctor regularly. Keep them informed on what you are doing, and you could make it your goal to blow their minds with what you are capable of with your mind. Thank you.
