Brandy: [00:00:00] Welcome to Heal Yourself. Change Your Life. My name is Brandy Gillmore, and after recovering from my own life changing injury, it’s become my mission to share with others the same discoveries I made that changed my health and my entire life. Our minds are truly incredible. The placebo is proof of this.
Each week I will take this simple awareness to a whole new level. I will even coach live callers to free themself of physical pain using only their mind, and then I’ll provide you with a combination of practical and spiritual insights that you can use. To master your mind, your emotions, and your energy to help you heal your health yourself and your life.
Let’s begin.[00:01:00]
Hello and welcome. It is so wonderful to connect with you. I just love that you are here continuing to expand your mind, your energy, your consciousness, your healing. I just love it and there are so many things that I love about today’s episode. First and foremost, our beautiful volunteer. I love the shift that she creates, not only in her health, but also in her heart, in her happiness, in her loving connection with her family, because as I was going through her session.
With her, you know, there’s a lot of hurt that we were talking about, A lot of hurt, and of course, by the way, a lot of laughter. So she was laughing through everything, sometimes laughing and crying at the same time, but just a sweet [00:02:00] heart. And also years and years and years of hurt. Stored up. And she even mentioned as we were going through the session today, that she’s been in therapy for over 30 years trying to work through certain things and yet has felt stuck.
And so what I love about today’s episode is you can just see and feel the shift from her, not only in her health, but also in her life, her happiness. It’s just, it feels good for her being, for her health, of course, but also for her soul, for her being, for her future. And those are just a few of the things that I really love about today’s topic is just that shift.
And so on that note, now let’s go ahead and dive in with our beautiful volunteer, Emily. Here we go.
Hello, [00:03:00] Emily.
Emily: Hi, Brandy.
Brandy: Beautiful. It’s wonderful to connect with you. How’s your day going?
Emily: Oh, it’s challenging.
Brandy: Okay.
Emily: It’s one of those
Brandy: I hear you. I hear you. But keeping your smile, keeping your laughter. It’s, it’s, it’s a good thing. And, uh, let’s go ahead and dive in, so shall we?
Emily: Yes.
Brandy: All right. Beautiful. How can I help you today?
Emily: Um, I’m not in pain per se, but I kind of walk like, um, the missing link and, um, at the left end of the scale, I like to move towards the right. So I had, uh, I’ve had two back surgeries, uh, diagnosed with spinal stenosis, and I was hit by a car two, uh, two years ago and broke my, um, hip in three places. So the pain, you know, feels like it’s in my back, but I think it’s my hips.
So it’s just when I stand up, I’m hunched over and it’s, I can’t hardly straighten. [00:04:00]
Brandy: Okay. Okay. So I absolutely do not recommend ever getting hit by a car again. I’m just gonna say it’s kind of a, it’s not the best Yeah. Plan, you know?
Emily: Yep.
Brandy: I,
Emily: and my spirit, my spirit guys were saying, take the crosswalk, and I was arguing with them, and I woke up in the er.
Brandy: Oh,
Emily: I know, I know. I’m hard headed.
Brandy: That’s, I get
Emily: it. I, I did, I did it to myself. So,
Brandy: wait, wait, wait, wait, wait. Oh, so, so, we’ll, we’ll, we’ll say that, uh, uh, ready to move it forward, right. Ready to move it forward. Yes. Yes. And change and transfer, right?
Emily: Absolutely.
Brandy: Absolutely.
Emily: All
Brandy: beautiful. Beautiful. All right, so, uh, here we go. So, if I ask you, if you do stand up, what your current level of pain is in your hip and back.
Emily: It’s not [00:05:00] really a, a pain, it’s just
Brandy: Yeah.
Emily: Okay.
Brandy: Not being able to stand up. Okay. Two. Yeah. As, as far as, as far as how well you can straighten up, uh, what’s, what’s your level there if you,
Emily: um, I, I have to push my hips forward.
Brandy: Okay.
Emily: So, you know, just kind of hunched over in the shoulders. Okay. It’s not attractive.
Brandy: Okay. Yeah. I would say it’s probably not your sexiest look.
All right. So, uh, so ask you to breathe. I just, you know what? You just, you have a beautiful sense of humor and a beautiful laugh. I love that. All right. I’m gonna check into your beautiful energy. You ready?
Emily: Ah, yep.
Brandy: All right. Here we go. Here we go. So, um. Gimme one second. Banga. Okay. So the first thing that comes up [00:06:00] is there’s a feeling of feeling, uh, that there’s somebody that you’re really angry with.
Do you know who that is by chance?
Emily: I don’t have any idea what’s ever Yes. Two people.
Brandy: Okay.
Emily: My mother, my mother, my mother and my last ex-husband.
Brandy: Bingo. Okay. So, uh, can you give me, ’cause I did get male energy on that, um, and, but, uh, can you give me, uh, his first initial please?
Emily: C.
Brandy: Okay. And, uh, great. And can you also give me your mother’s first initial please?
Emily: E
Brandy: Bingo. Well, actually, um, bingo.
Emily: Mm-hmm.
Brandy: So, uh, yeah,
Emily: she was, she was, she was real big in her male energy, so it
couldn’t
Brandy: Yeah, exactly. That’s what I was just about to say. Yeah. She is coming through with some male energy.
Emily: Mm-hmm.
Brandy: Uh, bingo. All right. So, uh, so gimme one second. Bingo. There. Okay, so there’s a lot [00:07:00] of anger there.
You can see that, right?
Emily: Um, yes.
Brandy: Yeah. Okay. And, uh, gimme one second. And, uh, bingo. Okay. And if I ask you, when was the last time you talked to her?
Emily: Um, I wouldn’t, no contact for 18 years. And she died I think about 10 years ago.
Brandy: Okay. That’s why I was asking because you didn’t feel on this plane anymore, but, um, bingo.
But, uh, all right. So gimme one second.
Emily: Oh, I’m hanging onto that angle though.
Brandy: Yep.
Emily: She might be. She might, she might be gone, but,
Brandy: but you’re not letting it go. Oh,
Emily: oh,
Brandy: no. All right. So gimme one second. So gimme one second. And, uh, bingo. There is a third person also. Um. There’s another energy I’m looking for. Do you know who that is by chance?
Emily: Could it be my older brother?
Brandy: Uh, gimme his initial [00:08:00]
Emily: W
Brandy: Bingo. Yep, that’s the other one. Okay. So give, oh
Emily: wow.
Brandy: Gimme one sec.
Emily: Well, I’m just a ball of anger,
Brandy: Megan, you’re awfully judgey towards self, right? So, uh, yeah. Yeah. So, uh, so what I think what you were really meaning to say is, wow, there’s some anger that I could let go of that would be amazing. ’cause, uh, like you’re lovingly kind to self, and I know you know this with your mind and I just, I wanna make sure we’re just being super delicate and kind and super self-supportive to you and, and that you’re feeling held in that space, right?
Emily: Thank you. Thank you for the reminder.
Brandy: You’re absolutely welcome and beautiful. And, uh, and I know you know that and, uh, but we just, we’ve just gotta hold that space in a beautiful way. So, uh, so gimme one second. All right. So, bingo. Okay. So [00:09:00] the energy that we actually want to go with first is actually your older brother, uh, is actually where you want to go.
Yes. And so, um, so if I ask you what’s going on there, what would you say that is?
Emily: How do you want, I don’t understand what your question is.
Brandy: Uh, if I ask you, do you know why, why you’re feeling so angry with him?
Emily: Um, yeah. Uh, it’s behind money.
Brandy: Okay. Bingo. Okay. And, uh, and if I ask you, uh, can you unpack that a little bit more please?
Emily: Yeah. Um, I rented his home and he told me it was gonna be 600 a month. And when I moved in, he waited till the, that till the movers were gone. And he said, uh, it’s gonna be 900. I can’t give you that deal. I lived there for five years. He never told me he was selling the house. He had the real estate agent call.
So I fell used. All the tears are coming. Tears are coming. [00:10:00] I at all.
Brandy: Okay.
Emily: Yeah. Used and unappreciated.
Brandy: Okay.
Emily: Five years. It was five, five or six years ago, and I hadn’t shed a tear.
Brandy: Mm-hmm. Okay. So, uh, so notice that you are very good, so to speak, at, uh, at that, at suppressing. Anger, holding it in and just putting a smile on the outside. You can see that, right? A smile and a beautiful aftermath. I had beautiful laugh, beautiful smile.
Um,
Emily: but it’s packed in there, huh?
Brandy: Yeah. You see it, right? Bingo.
Emily: Now that you, me, now that you mention it.
Well,
Brandy: well, your teams may have even brought it up, but, uh, um, all right. So, uh, so, uh, bingo. Gimme one second. All right. [00:11:00] Bingo. Okay. If I ask you zero to 10 how much you can find that feeling of feeling like nobody, um, values you or appreciates you, what would you say? Zero to 10.
Emily: I’m crying again.
A 10.
Brandy: A 10.
Emily: 10.
Brandy: 10. 10. Okay. So, uh, so I’m gonna ask you to breathe now. Can I ask you a question?
Emily: Sure.
Brandy: Do you value and appreciate you?
Emily: I’m not laughing, I’m crying.
Brandy: I know you’re, you’re crying and laughing. Don’t, both, both are happening at the same time. I get you. I get you. So I’m gonna ask you to,
Emily: yeah. I’m mm-hmm.
Brandy: Go ahead.
Emily: I’m working on it work, working on it. Reparenting myself. Yeah.
Brandy: Okay.
Emily: Yeah.
Brandy: Okay. So, uh, so I’m gonna ask you to breathe.
So the thing of it is, is you have [00:12:00] so much anger towards other people for everything that it’s not allowing you to let it go. Okay? So it’s locking in place. Does that make sense? Beautiful.
Emily: It’s not what’s wrong with my hips.
It’s locked in place
Brandy: and they’re locked in place. They’re locked in place. So, uh, so I’m gonna ask you to breathe.
Emily: Mm-hmm.
Brandy: And I’m gonna ask you to notice what it would look like moving forward. If you felt really, really good about you and you felt like people around you weren’t using you, but actually appreciating you, appreciating you, loving you, appreciating you, loving you, and that’s how you felt, you felt appreciated, you felt loved, you felt acknowledged, and that’s just how you felt.
What would that look like?
Emily: Freedom.
Brandy: Freedom,
Emily: joy.
Brandy: Bingo. Now, by the way, if I ask you how much you felt your ex-husband used you, what would you say?
Emily: [00:13:00] Uh, 10 times.
Brandy: Okay, so
Emily: exponential. Yeah.
Brandy: Mm-hmm. Mm-hmm. So I’m gonna ask you to breathe.
I don’t want, I want you to notice you have this pattern of feeling used by people. You could see that, right?
Emily: Yes.
Brandy: Okay. So, uh, so gimme one second. Bingo. Another way would be, um, set it, uh, a a pattern of feeling taken advantage of. You can see that?
Emily: Yeah.
Brandy: Okay.
Emily: Yes. Yes.
Brandy: Okay. Now, uh, gimme one second. Yes. Bingo.
Okay. What’s interesting by the way, is this pattern first starts around age five. Do you know why it starts at such a young age of feeling taken advantage of?
Emily: I was, uh, sexually assaulted.
Brandy: Bingo. Okay. And, uh, bingo. So, uh, so I’m gonna ask you to breathe.
Emily: How do you do this?[00:14:00]
God, I, I listen to every episode. How do you do this? Yes. Five years old. That’s,
Brandy: yes. See,
Emily: wow.
Brandy: See, I see you. I’m just, you know, um, how, how do I do this? I always say that. Um, universe is, is good to me. It gives me information. Your body gives me information, the energy, so just checking, checking the information.
I guess the easiest way to think about it is kind of like, um, you know, one way to say it would be like the internet. We can all connect into the internet and everything is energy. So if, if I, if you think about the body, it has all of this information and so it’s like a, a cell phone or our computers that connect to the internet.
I would say I’m connecting to your body and getting information from your body, from your, your body and your subconscious mind and, and universe and your past. And, and so it’s just, uh, so the easiest way to think about it, I like to call it universal wifi, so [00:15:00] I’m just kind of tapping into your wifi, if you will.
Your, your, um. Your energy and getting information. Yes. Beautiful
Emily: brand Brandy. That was actually rhetorical.
Brandy: I, I,
Emily: you’re gifted. I get it.
Brandy: I, I get it. But this is the thing. Now if you ask that, and then people, and then they’re like, well, she didn’t answer. I’ve gotta answer. I, I
Emily: got,
Brandy: alright, so, uh, so, so bingo. Not only that, but just so you know, by the way, this is the other thing that’s happening is I know that notice some of these things that I’m mentioning, how there’s a lot of tears and hurt coming up right.
You’ve been uhhuh. So what I’m actually doing is also pacing it. So I’m mentioning things and then, okay, to actually breathe for a second and laugh about something. So we’re not dropping your energy too low. So it might, so that’s why even when we’re coming out and we’re laughing a bit and [00:16:00] whatnot, it’s because my goal is to, that’s where we need to go.
Mm-hmm. So that’s also what I’m doing. Pacing and notice, we’ve talked about a couple, a couple insights here, and then we didn’t dive too deeply into any of them. Instead Oh, we kept going forward, which is where we’re going now. So I’m gonna ask you to breathe.
All right, so let’s go ahead and pause it just for a quick moment. You know, first and foremost, I just love her. I love her heart, I love her laughter. And of course there’s a lot of pain underneath as well. And that’s what I wanted to take a moment to address because you know, notice, as I just mentioned, that I’m pacing ourselves so we don’t go too deep into that hurt and upset.
And also how I’m wanting to move everything forward right now. And as soon as I say that, some people might think that I’m talking about [00:17:00] bypassing the emotions, just skipping over them, and it’s not about that. Ultimately what I’m wanting her to do is start creating this shift and then of course it will be key to address things at a deeper level in the subconscious mind to let them go even more.
But right now, first. We need to head towards relief and that’s where we’re going. Both physical relief and also emotional relief. And so she makes a really nice shift where you can see that she really is feeling even better. And so that’s where we’re going as we step back in with our beautiful volunteer, Emily.
Here we go.
Emily: Bingo.
Brandy: And, uh, that
Emily: you’re saving the best, you’re saving the best for last.
Brandy: Wow. I mean, I’m already talking to the best. [00:18:00] Right.
Alright, so, uh, so I’m gonna ask you to breathe and that’s actually where we were going is, uh, is I want you to notice how hard on yourself you are. You can see that, right? If I ask you zero to 10 how much your hard on yourself, what would you say?
Emily: Uh, I don’t, that’s the only way I know. So it’s hard to compare to what, you know, like,
Brandy: okay.
Mm-hmm. So if we just compare it to zero, zero to 10, we’ll give it about an 11. Okay. So,
okay. So, uh, so, so gimme one second. Bingo. All right. All right. So if I ask you, if you knew you were going to feel loved moving forward in life, if you knew you would feel loved, if you knew that, how would you feel about your future? [00:19:00]
Emily: Um, optimistic, bright, hopeful.
Brandy: Bingo. So, uh, so I’m gonna ask you to breathe.
Emily: Okay, I get it. Then my hips will loose up and I could spring it too.
Brandy: You’re gonna sprint. That’s exactly, I,
Emily: I could spring forward Exactly. Not hobble.
Brandy: Exactly, exactly. So, uh, bingo.
Emily: Wow.
Brandy: All right. So, uh, so I’m gonna ask you to breathe. Okay. Now, I want you to notice, also notice how it feels like you’ve been kind of trying to do work on your relationship with your mom, et cetera, for a long, long, long time.
Is that true?
Emily: Oh, yeah.
Brandy: Yeah. About, if I ask you how long you’ve been trying to work on that, on those connections, what would you say?
Emily: I’m not sure what you mean. Like I, I went into therapy at [00:20:00] 40, I’m 70.
Brandy: Okay.
So,
Emily: and, uh, yeah.
Brandy: Okay. So that’s part of, mm-hmm. So the thing of
Emily: being But before, yeah, go ahead. I’m sorry. Go ahead. I was just gonna say, you know, before that it’s just, you know, it’s always been torture. It’s always been miserable. She didn’t like me.
I, you know.
Brandy: Okay. But the thing if it is, is what it feels like happening is it feels like you’re opening, like there’s so many open wounds and topics and topics and topics and topics that are just sitting on. And so what would happen if they were closed? Like, what would happen if, if you didn’t feel the same anymore?
What would happen if you actually really, really let them go completely and you didn’t have to carry ’em for another 10 years, or 20 years, or 30 years, but you actually felt really, really at peace? What would that look like?
Emily: I can’t even imagine.
Brandy: Bingo.
Emily: Freedom. Freedom. Yeah.
Brandy: Mm-hmm. [00:21:00] Bingo. So, um, so I’m gonna ask you to breathe. Okay. All right. So I’m gonna ask for a big change and we’re gonna see how it’s gonna go. Right? We’re gonna see,
Emily: okay.
Brandy: We’re gonna see you ready?
Emily: Yeah.
Brandy: So we’re gonna look at something in a different way Okay.
And we’re gonna see how it’s, we’re we’re gonna, I’m gonna ask you to be super open-minded, okay? Okay. So I acknowledge and I hear you about your brother that he waited until move in day. Then he said, Hey, it’s gonna be 900. Then you were there for five years, and then he sold it and he didn’t even tell you, right?
Emily: Yeah.
Brandy: Okay. Now, if I ask you, was the amount of rent he was charging, was it above market, below market, or at market?
Emily: Below
Brandy: what?
Emily: Below? Below.
Brandy: Below. [00:22:00] Below?
Emily: Yeah.
Brandy: So if he was charging below and he did that for you and he was charging below, did you appreciate him over that five year span for charging below and never raising it up?
Emily: No.
Brandy: Oh,
that was kind of nice of him. Don’t you do, do we? Maybe. Okay.
Emily: Uh, no. Not re No, I understand what you’re saying, but no, because I wouldn’t have moved there if it was 900, I wouldn’t have moved there. I going to move somewhere else? Mm-hmm.
Brandy: Okay. So I, I hear you. Was he trying to do something nice for you by charging you below market?
Emily: No.
Brandy: No?
Emily: No.
Brandy: Okay.
Emily: No, I don’t mean, I don’t wanna go to a long story, you know, but like, he did that [00:23:00] because an apartment I was paying 900, but I had two Rottweilers and they both died. So I don’t, I didn’t, you know what I’m saying? I don’t need to pay that.
Brandy: Yep.
Emily: At the time
Brandy: I hear you. I hear you. I hear you. Okay.
So, um, could you have left and found a cheaper place,
Emily: Brandy?
Brandy: What?
Emily: Yes. I said I hate to move. Yes, I could have.
Brandy: Okay,
Emily: this is, this is rhetorical again. How do you do this? Yes, gie I could have. Okay. Okay. God, you’re amazing.
Brandy: As are you. Beautiful. As are you. So, uh, so I’m gonna ask you to breathe and so can you see maybe both sides of the coin where maybe like he would, even if it wasn’t [00:24:00] perfect that he was trying, but then also you could have left and mo like there could have been there, you could have possibly done it in a different way.
Can you see that?
Emily: Yes.
Brandy: And then ultimately, if you think about it, you got most mad when he also then sold it and didn’t tell you Correct. And had the realtor tell you, correct?
Emily: Absolutely.
Brandy: Okay. So if you think about it, there was a part of you that still wanted to be there, right? You don’t like?
Emily: Yeah, I don’t like.
Brandy: Mm-hmm. I hear you. I heard you. Absolutely.
Emily: I like, I like stability.
Brandy: Okay. Now I have a question for you.
Emily: Mm-hmm.
Brandy: If I, if I asked him, would he say you have a little bit of anger at times?
Emily: I’m, I’m sure he would.
Brandy: Okay. So do you think that he might’ve been afraid to tell you?
Emily: Yep.
Brandy: Okay. [00:25:00] Zero to 10, how much do you think he might’ve been afraid to tell you?
Emily: 10.
Brandy: 10? Okay. Now, by the way, was your ex-husband afraid of you at all?
Emily: I don’t, yeah, that’s, I never looked at it like that.
Brandy: Okay. Zero to 10, how much would you say he might be a little bit afraid of you?
Emily: I said a five, but
I, I don’t know.
Brandy: What would you guess?
Emily: I mean, that’s probably why he acted the way he did. I don’t know, you know, to, you know, to throw me off the scent, but because he is the one, yeah, he would rage. I don’t know, you know?
Brandy: Okay. And, uh, bingo. And if I ask you, do you have [00:26:00] a tendency to rage a bit?
Emily: A bit?
Brandy: Zero to 10. Zero to 10, what level would you say is a bit?
Emily: Probably a 10. I could get it going.
Brandy: Mm-hmm.
Emily: Yeah.
Brandy: Okay. So, um, so I’m gonna ask you to breathe
now. If you look at this in a beautiful way, what does it look like? If you were to look at it in a way that you realize that everybody has actually loved you, but maybe the anger is getting in the way, a bit where your brother actually loves you, where your ex actually loved you, but that the anger is also creating some issues.
And that’s not to say your ex is, is your perfect person, as you know, it wasn’t your person to be with forever, et cetera. So it’s not a feeling of regret, but mm-hmm. It’s [00:27:00] also a feeling of awareness. What would it feel like if you felt loved and appreciated and loved and just realize that maybe there are some patterns that are getting in the way of continued love and communication and connection.
Does that make sense?
Emily: Yeah. I can’t even imagine, honestly.
Brandy: Okay, so, um, so I’m gonna ask you to breathe. If I ask you once, yeah.
Emily: Um, I used to scratch my face as, um, I think I was like three or four years old. I would rage so bad, I would just run my fingers down my face. So this is making a lot of sense.
Brandy: I love your awareness.
I love your awareness. Very, very, very impressive. And I, I just, I love your self-awareness. And if I ask you to notice for a moment, would you say even with your mom, you had a tendency to rage a bit? [00:28:00]
Emily: Probably.
Brandy: Well, probably, or, yes.
Emily: I was scared. I was afraid of her.
Brandy: Mm-hmm.
Emily: So
Brandy: I hear you
Emily: for the most part.
Yeah. I mean, it would have no, because I was afraid of her.
Brandy: Okay.
Emily: She, she, she, yeah. She was rage, but I mean,
Brandy: okay. And, uh. If I ask you, how did that feel, to feel afraid of her?
Emily: It was horrible.
Brandy: Okay. Now, by the way, if she didn’t have that rage, how would you have felt towards her?
Emily: I don’t know.
Brandy: What do you think if she didn’t have that rage,
would you have felt
Emily: it was other, it was other stuff too, but I, I, I don’t know, Randy. I was always miserable. Okay. I was just miserable.
Brandy: I hear you. I hear you. But what I’m saying is, do you think your relationship with your [00:29:00] mom would’ve been different without the rage?
Emily: Yes.
Brandy: So if she didn’t have that at all and you didn’t have that, how much do you think your relationship would be different?
What would you say?
Emily: I understand what you’re saying, but it’s other stuff, but yeah.
Brandy: I, I hear you. I hear, I, I hear you on other stuff. Okay, but I, I’m asking you zero to 10, how much do you think it would be different? Like zero, like five, like six
Emily: 10. 10.
Brandy: 10. Okay. So I’m gonna ask you to breathe. So if I ask you moving forward, if I ask you, moving forward, if you knew you could have better and better and better and better, amazing relationships moving forward, that you could get good at love and good at people and good at connecting.
And as you really shift this anger for real, that you change this anger that you could actually create the relationships [00:30:00] that your soul has been craving, how would that feel to you?
Emily: Amazing.
Brandy: Amazing. So, uh, so I’m gonna ask you to breathe.
All right, so let’s go ahead and pause it just for a very quick moment. Now, notice some of these feelings where, you know, I mentioned, what would that feel like to really feel loved moving forward? And you know, she mentioned amazing, but also when I’ve been asking her how it would feel, some of these things she mentioned, you know, she didn’t even know how it would feel because of course she’s been experiencing the hurt and the pain for so long, and these patterns have just been perpetuating in so many different ways for so many years.
And so I just wanted to point that out because that will be important going forward when we bring everything together. So [00:31:00] first we’re going to create the shift, and then we’ll bring everything together. And so that’s where we’re going as we step back in with beautiful Emily. Here we go.
And if I ask you zero to 10, how much you have felt like anger protects you, what would you say?
Emily: 20.
Brandy: Exactly. So the thing of it is, is part of the reason. So, but but wait, wait a second here on this. So part of the reason you’ve had a hard time letting it go is because you feel like it protects you, right?
Emily: Yes.
Brandy: So imagine if I told you that there’s somebody who has a lot of anger and they’ve spent their life beating themselves up about it and trying to get rid of it, but meanwhile feeling at a deeper level that it’s protecting them at a level 20. And so now they’re in this spiral of feeling [00:32:00] critical of self because they feel critical, like they’re, uh, because of the anger, and then they feel unloved, and then they feel unappreciated because there’s a part of them that then when people do love them.
The rage part is then pushing people away. You see it?
Emily: Yeah. It’s making me dizzy. Going in circles.
Brandy: Mm-hmm. Bingo.
Emily: Yeah.
Wow.
Brandy: So I’m gonna ask you to breathe. So honestly, if you didn’t have this rage part, you didn’t have it, do you think it would change your relationships a little bit?
Emily: Yes.
Brandy: Yeah. Right. So I’m gonna ask you to breathe
and notice for a moment how you’ve told yourself that people aren’t loving you and they’re taking advantage and they’re not appreciative of you. And there’s this other part that might be a lot [00:33:00] pushing them away, even when they are trying to love you. And it’s because of this pattern. You can see that right?
Emily: Yes,
Brandy: yes. Now, if I ask you, by the way, your ex-husband, zero to 10, how much did he have? A rage pattern? What would you say?
Emily: 10.
Brandy: And so notice your mom also had a rage pattern, right?
Emily: Yep.
Brandy: Yep. So notice how much anger and rage has been a normal part of your life. You can see that, right?
Emily: Yes.
Brandy: So instead of judging yourself, could you have compassion and understanding for yourself and begin transforming that from this place of compassion and understanding?
Emily: Yes.
Brandy: Really?
Emily: Yeah.
Brandy: You’re gonna be nice. Gonna be nice yourself. You’re gonna be nice yourself.[00:34:00]
Emily: Yeah.
Brandy: Smart, smart. I like it. I like it. I like it. And so, uh, so I’m gonna ask you to breathe bingo. And if I ask you how much you can find the feeling of hurt inside zero to 10, what’s your level
Emily: 10? Yeah.
Brandy: Yeah. So, so the thing of it is, is that even when I look at starting to take away, like the anger going down, there’s a part of you that’s felt so hurt that it’s like you are, you’re stewing on the hurt and then re-upping on the anger.
And because that’s the way it’s coming through, you’re feeling hurt and then it’s going into anger and you feel like the anger is then going to protect you. And then, so there, there’s a strong peace. And then, um, bingo. So I’m, uh, so I’m gonna ask you to breathe and then on top of it. If you’re telling yourself you’re not appreciated, bingo [00:35:00] and you’re unloved, it’s just going to continue to trigger everything further.
So gimme one second.
So, uh, so I’m gonna ask you to breathe. So if I ask you, would you ever want to reconnect with your brother?
Emily: Not really.
Brandy: Okay. And if I ask you why, why is that?
Emily: Um, I just, I a lot of unforgiveness, I guess.
Brandy: Oh, so basically what you said is you plan on never changing.
Just checking. Just checking.
Now if I ask you, would other people say that your brother is a good guy or not a good guy?
Emily: The split.
Brandy: The split. So would some [00:36:00] people say he is a really good man or no?
Emily: Yes.
Brandy: Zero to 10. How much
Emily: What do you mean? How much would they say he is a good guy?
Brandy: Yep.
Emily: 10.
Brandy: 10. Okay. And, uh, so I’m gonna ask you to breathe,
and if I ask you if you were no longer hurt at all, if you were no longer hurt at all and no longer angry at all,
would you want him to be back in your life?
Emily: I wanna say no, but I’m sitting here, my head is shaking up and down, yes. But I wanna say no.
Brandy: Okay. And, uh, bingo. [00:37:00] So, um, so I’m gonna ask you to breathe. So notice if he was giving you rent below market, he probably, in his perspective, probably felt like he was doing you a favor, right?
Emily: Yeah.
Brandy: Okay. So, and in your perspective, you thought, well, I would’ve never moved there if I knew it was going to be 900, right?
Emily: Correct.
Brandy: Okay. So you guys had two different perspectives, right?
Emily: Yes.
Brandy: Okay. And of course, in relationships you’re familiar that the only perspective that counts is yours, right?
Emily: Absolutely
Brandy: right.
Emily: You know? Yeah.
Brandy: Okay. So even if his delivery wasn’t perfect or his in or his, [00:38:00] the outcome wasn’t perfect and whatnot, was his heart in the right, did he, was his perspective in a kind, trying to be good place, would you say?
Emily: No.
Brandy: So you feel like he was trying to be mean to you?
Emily: I feel like what he needed was more important.
Brandy: Okay. So basically he was trying
Emily: to, he wanted
Brandy: what?
Emily: He wanted to rent. He wanted to rent the house, and he wanted someone in there that would take care of it.
Brandy: Okay. So that sounds horrible. He wanted to rent the house and he wanted somebody to take care of it.
Oh. Sounds like he had some pretty bad intentions going on.
Emily: I understand what you’re saying, but I wouldn’t have moved there for that.
Brandy: But I I get it. I hear you. [00:39:00] But what I’m saying is, is if his intentions were, Hey, I wanna take advantage of somebody, or Hey, I want to trap somebody in there so they can’t get out, or blah, blah. So what I’m saying is his intentions
Emily: Yeah, I understand.
Brandy: So his, his motivation wasn’t bad, and that’s why I said maybe his delivery wasn’t perfect. I’m not saying your brother is perfect. I didn’t say that.
Emily: No, I, I understand.
Brandy: Okay. Mm-hmm. So let me ask you, were you perfect in the whole connection with him?
Emily: Hmm. Probably not.
Brandy: Oh, okay.
Emily: Probably not.
Brandy: Okay. So probably you weren’t quite perfect and probably he wasn’t quite perfect. Right.
Emily: Right. Okay.
Brandy: So, but you know, miscommunications never [00:40:00] have or misunderstand misunderstandings and miscommunications never happen in relationships. Right,
Emily: right.
Brandy: Okay. So you’re just never gonna let it go.
Correct. Now, keeping in mind, why are we talking about this topic? Oh, that’s right. Your health, right. Uhhuh. Uhhuh. Uhhuh. Yep. So I’m gonna ask you to breathe. That’s right. We’re talking about it for you.
Emily: Yes.
Brandy: Okay, so I’m gonna ask you to breathe.
Yeah. I don’t think you should change.
Emily: Alright.
Brandy: I, I mean, there was something, there was something in it for you.
Okay. [00:41:00] So, uh, so I’m gonna ask you to breathe. Now notice for a moment, even when we started in the very beginning, right when we started, in the very beginning, we were looking for anger and upset. And you mentioned two people, your mother and you also mentioned your ex. And it looked, and, and this other piece right here, okay?
Emily: Mm-hmm.
Brandy: Um, is what came up as very being also very, very important. Okay? So, um, so I’m gonna ask you to breathe
bingo. And if I ask you how much you want him to feel. Uh, sorry for you, if you would, how much you want him to feel bad for, quote unquote, what he did to you, zero to 10, what would you say?
Emily: I never really thought about that, but now that I’m gonna think about it. Yeah. Yeah.
Brandy: Zero to 10.
Emily: I, I, yeah. I’m gonna punish him. [00:42:00]
Brandy: Yep. Uhhuh,
Emily: I’ve never, I’ve never looked at it like that. Yeah.
Brandy: Mm-hmm.
Emily: 10. 10. Yeah. 10.
Brandy: Okay. So if I ask you, so you wanna punish him and you want him to feel bad for what he did to you, right?
Emily: Right.
Brandy: Mm-hmm. Which means you have to look, like if I said, oh, I want somebody to feel bad for what they did to me, what does my life have to look like?
Emily: Yeah. Me drinking a poison.
Brandy: Horrible. Yes. Right. I would never want that. Okay. So the thing of it is, wow. So you want him to be punished and to look at how bad he did you and did you wrong and whatnot, and, and that feeling, right?
Emily: Mm-hmm.
Brandy: After all, he did still give you below market rent, but his intentions were to have somebody in that house, so it’s rented who would take care of [00:43:00] the place, right?
Mm-hmm. Sounds like
Emily: yes.
Brandy: Sounds like an evil man. Horrible intentions, okay? Not really. I mean, I get it. I understand, right?
Emily: I understand what you’re saying.
Brandy: Okay, so bingo. So this is the thing. So if we look at it from the other side, now remember why are we looking at it from the other side? We’re also looking at it from
Emily: my,
Brandy: go ahead.
I’ll
Emily: say for my benefit.
Brandy: Exactly. Exactly. So, so likely what happened is this, I would assume he was trying to give you something, he’s trying to give you a rent that you could afford and then probably told you 600. And then when he found out you were paying 900 somewhere else, he was like, okay, well 900 is still below market.
So he still felt like he was giving you a deal. He just didn’t wanna feel taken advantage of either. So he was trying to give you a deal and [00:44:00] trying to also make sure he was receiving something in return too. And maybe his delivery wasn’t great, but that sounds like probably what happened. Would you agree?
Emily: Yes.
Brandy: Okay. So, but you could see why it’s kinda like this. Let’s say you went to go do something for somebody. Let’s say you went to go, uh, buy groceries for somebody and you, you went to go do something generous and they just paid somebody else $50 for groceries. And you were like, well, okay, well you paid them $50 for groceries.
Could you pay me $50 for groceries too? Right? Does that make sense?
Emily: Mm-hmm. Yes. So,
Brandy: so maybe he wasn’t trying to be mean, he just was trying to also receive, so you had a good deal, but he also was able to receive as well, and that, that felt fair to him since you were paying somebody else that same price too, and he was already still giving you below market.
Does that make sense?
Emily: Yes.
Brandy: Okay. So, so maybe he’s not, maybe his delivery wasn’t great, [00:45:00] but now when you look at it from this perspective, could you feel less hurt if you wanted
Emily: Yes.
Brandy: Who would that be for? That could be good for you, right?
Emily: Yes. My hips and my back. Yes.
Brandy: Bingo. And your heart.
Emily: Yeah. That who?
Brandy: Your life, your smile, your happiness, your future.
Great. So I’m gonna, yeah. So I’m gonna ask you to breathe and if you stand up and if you walk around, if I ask you to notice how it feels
Emily: better,
Brandy: right?
Emily: I didn’t make the sound. Yeah, I didn’t make the sound. When I usually stand up, I have to make a, ugh. I didn’t do that
Brandy: right. If I ask you, how’s your walking?
Emily: Pretty good. [00:46:00]
Brandy: Pretty good. I
Emily: could definitely see it. I could see an improvement.
Brandy: Two to 10. How much?
Emily: Uh. Five.
Brandy: That’s what I said, five, six, somewhere in there.
Right. Fantastic.
Emily: Uhhuh. Yeah.
Brandy: Fantastic.
Emily: Significant. Yeah.
Brandy: Okay, great. Don’t change this, this is gonna make it way too easy. Okay. So,
Emily: okay.
Brandy: So how much longer do you wanna punish him for?
Emily: I don’t,
Brandy: how much longer Do you want him to see how much he wronged you?
Emily: I don’t.
Brandy: Okay. So maybe it’s time to start changing.
Emily: Yes.
Brandy: Okay, great. So I’m gonna ask you to breathe. Now, this is what’s great is beyond Brandy, you can see that your body wants that. So beyond Brandy, you, you can see that your body wants that. Does that make sense?
Emily: Yes.
Brandy: Great. So if we said, and I’m just gonna say it more fully [00:47:00] now, if we said, okay, you can look at your brother.
You can see maybe his delivery wasn’t perfect. I’m not saying, oh my gosh, he is so perfect. He’s an, he was so per, I’m not saying that, but I am saying that it sounds like, and looks like he had some, he didn’t have bad intentions and he had good intentions and he was trying to do the right thing and he was trying to be generous to you and also get his needs met.
And he was trying to set up something that met your needs and his needs and, and felt fair both ways. And, uh, and, and again, maybe his delivery wasn’t perfect. Maybe the, the flow of sequences was the, wasn’t perfect, but, um, but it seems like he, he had a kind heart in it. Would you agree with that?
Emily: Yes. And he was attempting to avoid my rage.
Brandy: I can’t blame it.
Emily: Me neither. Me neither. [00:48:00]
Brandy: I mean,
ah. So I’m gonna ask you to breathe.
Emily: Wow.
Brandy: Okay. So you think you should probably keep him outta your life forever. You don’t need anybody like that in your life, right?
Emily: No. Consider it.
Brandy: Okay. So I’m gonna ask you to breathe and you could kinda see things from both sides. And, and also, how much do you wanna punish him by drinking the poison, so to speak yourself.
Like, oh, look at how, uh, look, look what you did to me. Type of feeling. Mm-hmm. Right? You see it?
Emily: Yeah, I do.
Brandy: Yeah. You don’t need him to feel sorry for you. What if he’s instead feeling amazed with you and you’re amazed with him, and it’s a whole different vibe? What does that look like? Just mutual respect, feeling of just.
Appreciating each other. What does that look like?
Emily: Oh yeah. Amazing. Awesome,
Brandy: awesome. I like it. [00:49:00] So I’m gonna ask you to breathe. So it sounds like you’re willing to change, right?
Emily: Yes.
Brandy: Great. So I’m gonna ask you to breathe. Bingo. So I’m gonna ask you to breathe. Great. And I’m gonna ask you to stand up and walk around.
Emily: Yep. It’s better.
Brandy: Better, right?
Emily: Mm-hmm.
Brandy: Mm-hmm.
Emily: Yep. Wow. Mm-hmm.
Brandy: Right. Zero to 10. How much better?
Emily: Seven, eight.
Brandy: That’s exactly what I was said about in level eight. Fantastic. And who’s doing that?
Emily: I am.
Brandy: You are right. You are. And by the way, beautiful. Beautiful. Now, if I ask you to notice for a moment noticing that your body’s trying to give you a message to [00:50:00] change, right?
Emily: Yes.
Brandy: Great. So beyond Brandy, seeing that it’s good for your soul, for your being, for your energy, so important, right?
Emily: Mm-hmm.
Brandy: Go. Great. So, uh, so I’m gonna ask you to breathe
and I’m gonna ask you to take in the feeling that you’re pretty darn amazing, aren’t you? Look at, look at, you look, the power of your mind, your energy and uh, and changing actually feels good when you think about it. Changing feels good.
Emily: Yeah.
Brandy: Yeah,
Emily: it does.
Brandy: Beautiful. So I’m gonna ask you to breathe. Now, this is the thing I’m gonna tell you.
You see the mind body connection. You see that you’re doing it. Now, I am gonna suggest that ultimately a few things, that to create this change, I make it look very easy. You are really going to have to get it locked in because your mind [00:51:00] has been programmed in the old way with the old perspective and the old feelings for so long that there’s a good chance, a high probability, that you could get re-triggered and go back into the negative and get resuck there.
And so why am I saying that? Is because, because I don’t want you to do that and that it’s going to be very important to reinforce this and also really ultimately change this pattern because you can see the patterns showing up in other areas. And so creating that real change is going to be key. Does that make sense?
Beautiful.
Emily: Yes.
Brandy: Fantastic. Fantastic. Beautiful. And so that’s what I want to invite you to do is, is to make sure to follow through and even go into my video course and go through and really, really rewire this at a deeper, deeper level in the mind and rewire this programming, because there’s also that strong feeling that anger is keeping you safe, et cetera.
So there are multiple things going on at a deeper level that will likely [00:52:00] trigger back the opposite way. Does that make sense?
Emily: Yes, it does.
Brandy: I’m so impressed with you. You’re amazing. Absolutely. Thank you, by the way, with your sense of humor. And does your, your brother, does your brother have a good sense of humor also sense
Emily: humor?
Yeah.
Brandy: Yeah. What would, what would that look like to see you laughing with him in this lifetime, moving forward, connecting from a place of love? What would that, what would that look like? Yeah,
Emily: that would look amazing thing.
Brandy: It would, right. It would, it would. And uh, so I’m gonna ask you to breathe Bingo. And if I ask you to stand up and walk around,
Emily: it’s definitely better. The strain is not like in my shoulders, like it usually is definitely better.
Brandy: [00:53:00] Fantastic. Fantastic job. Beautiful. Fantastic. Thank you. How’d you do? Yeah, zero to 10. How’d you do with your energy? And I expect nothing net less than an 11.
Emily: Yeah. That was amazing. Thank you so much.
Brandy: You’re welcome.
Beautiful. You’re so, so welcome. Please make sure to get this in and it’s uh, it’s been such a pleasure connecting with you.
Emily: Okay, thank you, Brandy.
Brandy: You’re so
Emily: welcome. Beautiful. Bye.
Brandy: All right, so let’s go ahead and bring everything together. And first and foremost, I just love her. I love her sense of humor. I love her self-awareness. I love the shift that she made. I would love also to see a picture with her and her brother together, just laughing. Just that vision came up as I was talking to her, and it was just [00:54:00] so sweet.
So, of course. There is real change to do. It’s just really sweet. And by the way, I’ve had so many other people in situations where they feel hurt with family or friends for long periods of time, who then heal old wounding and old patterns and do end up creating a radical shift and feeling love and connected.
And so that of course, is my hope for her in all areas. And what I also love is that you can see that her body’s giving her this message to change. You know what’s beautiful, and you hear me say this all of the time, is that anytime there’s a health issue, it’s trying to give you a wake up call. It’s saying that something inside is off and it really needs to be fixed.
And so what we can see in this situation with our beautiful volunteer is that as we’re looking at inside, of course, what is off, and she starts creating that shift. That she can see that her [00:55:00] body is responding. So I love that. Just a beautiful job with her energy. Now, another insight that I really want to point out is, this is earlier on when I first started asking her.
How it would feel to feel loved and to let go of the old negative and to really create that shift. And she said she wouldn’t even know what that would feel like. Now, if you recall, I paused the session right there for a moment and I said, just, I want you to remember this piece. And the reason that I want you to remember that piece is for this reason, is that so often when I work with a volunteer, I make this look very easy.
And I always say, you know, I make this look really easy. It does take a real change. So I want you to think about how the mind works for a moment. You know, if you think about learning math or learning how to read for the first time, or learning how to write your name for the first time, or even [00:56:00] learning a song, the lyrics to a song for the first time, notice anything that you’re really learning for the first time.
It takes getting the information in the subconscious mind. And so, so often when I show people how to make this radical shift, it’s like, it seems so easy and it seems so logical that people think, oh, well that’s easy. I’m just gonna do that. That’s simple. But it doesn’t necessarily work like that. So that’s the reason that you hear me say at the end with volunteers where I say, I really want you to follow through and make sure to rewire the mind at a deeper level, because let’s be honest, she can have some triggers or have emotions come up that could then send her mind back onto the old neural pathways very fast.
And that of course, unfortunately. Could bring back the [00:57:00] problem immediately. And the way to think about it is like this, you know, if somebody has anxiety, they can have panic attacks, and if they get rid of it, the anxiety and panic attacks can go away. But if they bring it back, it can come right back. And so we can see that mind body connection.
And so similarly with Emily in this situation, if she goes back into the negative. Likely the problem will come right back. It does take a genuine change, and that’s the reason that I emphasize it all of the time, that I make it look very, very, very easy and that it does take a deeper level of change and rewiring in the subconscious mind.
And so I just want to emphasize that to always just be in integrity because I know I make this look ridiculously easy. Like we should be able to take a health issue and just shift it in minutes and that it’s gone and done. And yes, we can absolutely make the change, but it [00:58:00] does take really wiring it in at a deeper level.
And then also. Making sure to get rid of those old neural pathways completely. So there is that deeper feeling of release, which I mentioned briefly earlier on in the episode, that we do need to get rid of those. And another way to think about it is like this, is that, you hear me use the example all of the time of people with multiple personality disorder.
Now of course, I’m not saying that Emily has multiple personality disorder, but what I am saying is that people with multiple personality disorder can have different illnesses in different personalities, and it can follow the mindset, meaning personality number one can always have the same illness and personality number two could have a completely different illness, even though it’s the same physical body.
And the reason that I’m really emphasizing this and pointing this out is because when a person makes a [00:59:00] shift, just like Emily just did. It’s important to also then release the old mindset because if a person goes back and forth into the old mindset and new mindset and old mindset and nude mindset, then they may have pain that goes up and down and up some days and down others with triggers and with the, you know, the change in her mindset.
Now, again, of course, I’m not saying that Emily has multiple personality disorder. I am just saying though, as emotional fluctuations happen, that pain can shift. I mean, let’s be honest, how many times have we heard people who have good days and bad days or get triggered or have flare ups with an illness just so often they may not realize that it’s connected to quote unquote stress at a deeper level or subconscious triggers that are going on that people don’t even realize are there.
And so just food for thought and just really emphasizing that we see [01:00:00] incredible results. But it does take a real change now, of course. The exciting thing is, and the incredible thing is, is that our minds are truly incredible. And what we are all capable of with our minds is amazing and so much more than people realize.
It’s just absolutely incredible. And so on that note, I want to ask you to please do. Make a point to hit the share button on this episode. You know, share it with somebody you love, somebody you care about, or somebody you don’t even know. Because the more that every single person in our world feels healthy and happy and loved and loving, the better this world is for all of us.
And so please do take just a quick moment to hit the share button, and please do make a point to have a most wonderful, incredible rest of your day, and I look forward to connecting with you on the next episode. We’ll see you there.[01:01:00]
Thank you for listening to Heal Yourself. Change Your Life. All of the time people reach out and say how much these episodes have given them hope or touched their heart, or helped them stay positive in hard times, or even woken them up to a completely new level of awareness. Of how amazing we all really are.
If today’s episode touched your heart or expanded your mind in any way, please do me a favor and be sure to share it with those you care about or those you know who really need it. As more and more people become empowered, it really will change our world for the better. That is the point. And the power of these demonstrations is to create a radical shift in our world consciousness by showing everyone what we are all capable of.
And of course, each volunteer will really need to follow through to [01:02:00] reinforce their programming, to maintain their results. But the point is for you to see that you really can create rapid results in your health and your life if you really understand how to use your mind. You are incredible. And I do wanna be clear though, that most people will not get results this fast on their own.
I make it look very easy because of the discoveries that I made. You’ll wanna remember that there’s so much more going on in our minds at a deeper level than people realize. That said, if you wanna send me any questions or comments, come visit me on my website at BrandyGillmore.com slash podcast. And if you’re currently experiencing physical pain and would like to be a volunteer on the show, you can sign up there as well.
Lastly, please remember, if you do have any health issues, you won’t want to avoid your doctors. Instead, you’ll want to continue seeing them and [01:03:00] make it your goal to blow their minds with what you are capable of with your mind. Thank you.
