Self-Healing Insights: Surprisingly, Practicing “Gratitude” Can Keep You Stuck! (Patricia | Ep. 354)

Welcome to Heal Yourself. Change Your Life. I’m Brandy Gillmore, and what I’m most known for is helping people to create radical transformations and even demonstrating the power of the mind and self-healing under medical equipment so you can see the results. And my work has even been published in a medical journal because it’s truly incredible what we are all capable of when we understand our own minds at a deeper level.

So whether you’re new to this work or you’ve been studying the power of the mind for many years, I love that you are here. I love that we’re on this incredible journey together, and I look forward to sharing breakthrough information with you. That said, on this podcast, I’ll share two types of episodes.

First, self-healing episodes where I share key insights from working with live volunteers. And the second type are where I answer questions from the audience. That said, if you’d like to volunteer or submit a question, come visit me at BrandyGillmore.com. On that note, let’s dive in.

Hello and happy beautiful day to you. I want to add in a quick but important note to make this podcast very easy to navigate because today’s episode has a special format. Today, I worked with a live volunteer, and as you probably know, there are a lot of people who are now using AI to modify information online.

For that reason, we have taken an extra step to help protect our beautiful volunteer and the integrity of this work to help keep the information from being modified. And we actually love how this turned out because it provides you with even more information. This is how it works. On today’s episode, you’ll hear an overview of the person that I worked with, and I will provide you with simple but powerful breakthrough insights that helped our volunteer begin making a radical shift.

Then, at the end of this short breakthrough episode, if you are ready for a deep dive, you can click in the show notes to gain access to the actual self-healing session where I worked directly with the live volunteer. This enables us to help protect the information online from being modified while still continuing to provide you with powerful information to help bridge the gap between science and spirituality and personal empowerment, because it’s truly incredible what you are capable of when you learn to understand your mind at a deeper level.

That said, let’s dive into the simple but powerful insights that came from working with today’s volunteer. Here we go

So often people are shocked when they find that their gratitude practices are actually backfiring or keeping them stuck. Now, I know this sounds odd, but don’t take my word for it. Think about it for yourself. If you stop and think about it, how often would you say people have underlying feelings of feeling guilt or feeling undeserving in life?

Of course, all of the time, even when it doesn’t make logical sense, a person can feel guilty or bad for something or the past or undeserving for no particular reason, and yet they feel that at a deeper level. And now what happens, and I see this all of the time, is a person can have those underlying feelings and then they’re working on healing or transforming and they’re bringing in feelings of gratitude which are actually increasing feelings of undeserving or increasing feelings of guilt.

And that very thing was actually happening with my volunteer that I worked with for today’s session. Now, what’s beautiful is as I worked with her, she was able to take her neck pain from a level nine down to a level two, three, and she also has a variety of different health issues. She’s been stuck with, uh, so many different things going on for many, many years.

About eight years, and then cancer three times, and she’s got a variety of different things going on. Now- When we stop and really look at who she is, she is this beautiful being who’s made some maybe mistakes in the past, who feels like she wasn’t the best mom, like she made mistakes and, and she’s feeling this guilt with her daughter.

And so she’s been feeling this guilt for many years since her daughter was a teenager. Now she’s grown up, and she’s been… This guilt has been eating her up inside, uh, feeling like her daughter’s mad at her, but also feeling bad and guilty and that she wasn’t the best mom and perfect. And, and so she’s had all of this guilt eating her up inside.

Now, the thing of it is, is it she’s been wanting, you know, practicing gratitude and all those things for, like, over eight years, and yet her health has gotten worse and worse, and she’s in this place where she’s got cancer and neck pain and, and all of these things. And of course, now what’s beautiful is that literally, as I worked with her during the session, she was able to create a radical shift, not only in her pain, yes, she was amazed with that, but also her smile and her laugh and all of that.

Now, when I initially talked to her about gratitude, she was, she was like, “Wait a second. It’s gotta be good. Everybody says it’s good.” And I get it. That’s what everybody says. Now, during my own injury, I started really looking at things in a different way, and, you know, ’cause I was, I was doing all of the things for years and years and years, and of course, it was 20-plus years ago now.

But I was doing all of the things for so many years, and it wasn’t working. And one of the things that woke me up was, and you hear me say this all of the time, but, you know, ’cause I had been doing the things and it wasn’t working, I started looking and just thinking about things. Now, the placebo, for example.

Everybody said you have to believe, believe, believe it’s gonna be really important for healing. What ultimately happened is I started researching and I found something called the open label placebo, which is exactly like it sounds, open label. So both the doctor and the patient both know it’s fake. So it’s got an open label, and it still works.

So in other words, a fake treatment that people know it’s a fake treatment can still work, and it… So that was mind-blowing. It, it made me think, “Well, wait a second here. It’s not all about belief,” number one, and number two, “What else should I start questioning?” So that’s when I really started questioning everything, and was shocked at how many things that, quote-unquote, everybody says to do that aren’t really true.

And because of course we’re all thinking in a different way. We’re feeling in a different way, and of course gratitude is great as long as you don’t feel guilt or undeserving. Because if you feel guilty or undeserving or any of these things deeper on the inside, it can totally backfire, you know. And I see it all of the time.

And by the way, I, I’m not criticizing or judging. I was doing that very thing. So during my injury when I started questioning everything, I started going, “Wait a second.” So I was going, “Okay, well, I’m bringing gratitude,” and I had feelings of survivor’s guilt underneath from, you know, the events of 9/11. And so here I was having this underlying survivor’s guilt, and then going, “I feel grateful for life.

I feel so grateful for all of these things,” realizing, oh, this is probably not the perfect combination. Now again, gratitude is great as long as you don’t feel guilt or undeserving or bad, but how many people who are working on healing have some type of pattern like that? And so that, for that reason, I see it backfire all the time.

Now, what I have people do and what I had our beautiful volunteer do is instead of just saying gratitude, instead working on feeling of, feelings of falling in love with life. Falling in love with life. Now, what I love about falling in love with life and falling in love with people and really, really working on that instead of gratitude right now, is that it feels more connected anyway.

Because sometimes gratitude is, is very I focused. “I’m grateful for this. I’m grateful for this. I’m grateful for this.” And don’t get me wrong, again, gratitude is fantastic, but having her shift it and instead saying, “I love this about life. I love this about life. I love this about people. I love this about…”

Like starting to really feel the feelings of falling in love with life and people is a more connected way of being, and it, it, that is part of the shift. And so, you know, ultimately what I started working with her on to help start creating that change was starting to let go of the feelings of guilt, but also starting to move into a place of feeling more lovingly connected and, and how she could connect with her daughter and feel really good in doing so.

And so it was just like this, this feeling of being willing to really, really, really change and not just slap gratitude on top. And of course, you know, it can be wonderful, but it’s not the answer and it’s not the whole picture, and so often I see people where they’re backfiring. Like if you ask me how often I see this, all of the time.

And of course, it’s not because gratitude is bad, it’s great, but because we have to be real with what’s real to get real results. And so that’s the insight that I want to share with you from our beautiful session today. Our, our Ep, our, our volunteer is just a really, really, really sweet woman, and, and I love honestly, like her self-awareness and self-honesty and to say, “You know what?

I wasn’t perfect,” and, and just to acknowledge that was beautiful, but also to really start shifting that. And it just… I, I absolutely have so much respect for this woman, just beautiful and brilliant, and I love that she was able to make that shift of at least going, okay, level nine of pain down to a level two, three, and she did it.

And of course- It takes follow through to go and keep it and go all of the way. But I just wanted to show her how powerful and how incredible our minds are when we just work with them in a different way. Because all of the things that you hear, it’s like if it… Is that we’ve got to do things in a different way to get a different result.

So that’s what I want to emphasize to you today. And of course, to fall in love with life, self, people. The more you fall in love with life, it’s like the more life falls in love with you. And of course, clearing the old negative patterns is key as well, but creating that genuine, genuine change. So food for thought, and that’s the insight that I want to share with you today.

And if you’d like to listen to the actual session with my beautiful volunteer, you’re welcome to go ahead and click the link in the show notes. Or if you’d like a training on mind body healing and how it works and how I’ve been able to get incredible results and show people how to make these incredible changes using their own mind, uh, there is a link in the show notes for a free training as well.

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