IQ-158: Identifying Two Subconscious Connections to Pain and/or Illness

Welcome to Heal Yourself, Change Your Life. My name is Brandy Gillmore, and after recovering from my own life-changing injury, it has become my mission to share with others the same discoveries I made that changed my health and my entire life. Our minds are truly incredible—the placebo is proof of this.

Each week, I’ll take this simple awareness to a whole new level. I’ll even coach live callers to free themselves of physical pain using only their mind. Then, I’ll provide you with a combination of practical and spiritual insights that you can use to master your mind, your emotions, and your energy—to help you heal your health, yourself, and your life.

Let’s begin.

The Hardest Part of Healing with the Mind

Hello and welcome to this week’s Quick IQ Episode, where we talk about insights and questions. Today, I want to share with you a question I get all the time. People often ask, after watching me coach someone to release physical pain—even under medical equipment where we can see it happen in real time—what is the hardest part of doing this? What is the most challenging part of healing with the mind?

While every person has unique challenges, I’d say there are two major ones that come up again and again.

1. Understanding Miswired Mind Programming

First, many people are unaware that our minds can be miswired. A miswired mind means we’ve accidentally linked up emotions or behaviors in a way that doesn’t make logical sense.

One unfortunate example is someone who cuts themselves and feels relief or safety from doing it. Clearly, this doesn’t make sense logically—they didn’t consciously choose that association—but the brain can wire it in at a subconscious level.

There are many other, subtler forms of this. For example, a person might link pride to hardship. They feel that the more they struggle, the more worthy they are. Or someone might subconsciously associate love with illness.

How These Links Form

Think about a child who falls and scrapes their knee. A loving parent says, “Let me kiss your owie and make it better.” The child receives affection at the same moment they are hurt. That tiny emotional connection can wire the brain to associate love and care with being hurt or ill.

Later in life, if that person feels lonely, their subconscious might pull from that early wiring and say, “The way to get love is to be sick.” Of course, this isn’t something they consciously want—but it can still influence the body.

Similarly, as kids, we may have learned that saying “I don’t feel good” lets us stay home from school. Fast forward to adulthood—someone overwhelmed by work might subconsciously recreate illness to get a break. It’s not intentional, but it’s the old wiring running the show.

Other Common Miswirings

• Linking success with jealousy—“If I succeed, people will hate me.”
• Linking responsibility with punishment—“When I take on more, something bad happens.”
• Linking rest with guilt—“If I relax, I’m being lazy.”

These miswirings can quietly sabotage health and happiness. And because they were formed in childhood, they often hide deep in the subconscious mind, beyond conscious logic.

2. Recognizing and Releasing Repetitive Patterns

The second key challenge is understanding how the mind works in patterns. In psychology, we see this as repetition compulsion, reenactments, or attachment theory—all of which describe how emotional patterns tend to repeat themselves.

For example, a woman with an abusive father might later find herself with an abusive boyfriend, boss, or spouse. The pattern repeats, even though consciously she doesn’t want it to. Our subconscious keeps recreating familiar experiences until the pattern is healed.

We can also see this in everyday frustration: when we push too hard against something that isn’t working, frustration builds—and nothing changes. But when we step back, calm down, and reset, suddenly things begin to flow again. That’s how emotional energy patterns operate.

Why Validating Pain Keeps It Alive

Another reason people get stuck is because we’ve been taught to validate our negative emotions endlessly. While empathy and understanding are important, continually validating anger, hurt, or fear actually reinforces those emotional pathways in the brain. It feeds the pattern instead of transforming it.

Real healing happens when we can compassionately acknowledge our feelings—but then choose to release and rewire them rather than repeating or justifying them.

Breaking Free: A Real Example

In my recent podcast episode (Episode 236), I worked with a woman who had deep anger and hurt toward her mother. This emotional pattern repeated in her relationships—she felt unloved by her first husband, then again by her second. The theme of rejection and anger kept playing out.

Once she recognized the pattern—without blaming herself—she decided to let go of the anger and resentment. During that session, her pain dropped from an 8 or 9 down to a level 1 in minutes. She shifted her subconscious wiring by choosing new emotional associations: love, connection, and willingness to change.

If she had continued validating the anger, her pain would have stayed. But by saying, “I’m willing to let this go and connect differently,” she changed her body’s response instantly.

Empowerment Through Awareness

The key takeaway is that we must rewire our minds. Healing comes from being willing to think and feel differently. When you notice a painful pattern, don’t judge it and don’t validate it—just recognize it, and choose to change.

That’s true empowerment. That’s when healing, transformation, and real freedom begin.

In Summary

• Our minds can be miswired. Emotional associations formed in childhood can still affect us today.
• Our minds work in patterns. What we don’t heal, we repeat.
• Awareness and willingness to change can rewire your brain and transform your health.

If you haven’t listened to Episode 236, I highly recommend doing so—you’ll see how identifying and shifting patterns can release physical pain in real time.

And if you’d like to go deeper, be sure to check out my free 90-minute masterclass on healing with the mind, where I share what most people overlook and what to do to create radical results in your life, health, and happiness.

Closing Message

It has been such a pleasure connecting with you. As always, please take a quick moment to hit the share button on this episode—share it with someone you love, someone you care about, or even someone you don’t know. Because the more happy, healthy, and empowered people we have in our world, the better this world is for all of us.

Please make it a point to have a wonderful, loving, and joy-filled rest of your day.

Thank You for Listening

Thank you for listening to Heal Yourself, Change Your Life. People reach out all the time to say how much these episodes have given them hope, touched their hearts, or helped them stay positive in hard times. If today’s episode touched your heart or expanded your mind, please share it with others—because the more empowered people become, the more our world transforms for the better.

The purpose of these demonstrations is to show you that you truly can create rapid results in your health and your life when you understand how to use your mind. You are incredible.

Most people won’t get results this fast on their own—I make it look easy because of the discoveries I’ve made. Remember, there’s so much more going on in our minds at a deeper level than most people realize.

If you’d like to send me any questions or comments, visit BrandyGillmore.com. And if you’re currently experiencing physical pain and would like to volunteer on the show, you can sign up there as well.

Lastly, if you have any health issues, please don’t avoid your doctors. Continue seeing them—and make it your goal to blow their minds with what you’re capable of with your mind.

Thank you.