Questions (IQ): The #1 Block to Love and Healing and How You Can Transform It (IQ. 226)

[00:00:00] Welcome to Heal Yourself, Change Your Life. My name is Brandy Gillmore, and after recovering from my own life-changing injury, it’s become my mission to share with others the same discoveries I made that changed my health and my entire life. Our minds are truly incredible. The placebo is proof of this.

Each week I will take this simple awareness to a whole new level. I’ll even coach live callers to free themselves of physical pain using only their mind, and then I’ll provide you with a combination of practical and spiritual insights that you can use to master your mind, your emotions, and your energy to help you heal your health, yourself, and your life.

Let’s begin. [00:01:00]

Hello and happy, beautiful day to you. Welcome back. On today’s episode, I wanna share with you the number one thing that keeps most people from being able to really transform the love in their life and their relationships. And it’s this: it’s ultimately, a lot of the time, the mind will want to blame either the other person or self.

And I’ve seen this so often where people will really, really feel either like it’s their fault or they’ll feel like it’s somebody else’s fault. But the problem is it keeps fueling the problem. And a simple way to think about it is like this: if we look at the big picture, our thoughts help create our lives. Patterns breed more of the same.

How Patterns Perpetuate Pain

Now, if we look at this in psychology in a grounded way, we could look at the awareness that, you know, with repetition compulsion, that unfortunately a woman may have an abusive father and leave him and find the abusive boyfriend, boss, spouse, et cetera. You know, that pattern can continue—and it’s not all in her head.

She can really attract the abusive man, and that unfortunately can keep happening. But what can happen is that the patterns can continue. And imagine in that situation, if the woman is busy blaming herself—that perpetuates the pattern. Or if she’s busy blaming him, that can perpetuate the pattern as well, because it just adds more fuel and more emotion and more hurt and all of these things to the pattern that ends up perpetuating and continuing.

The Role of the Mind in Shaping Our Reality

And so it just fuels the very problem. And further, by the way, to add a little complexity to it—because, you know, patterns are a bit complex, and emotions—we also want to remember that our thoughts are helping to shape our lives more than most people realize. And a simple way to kind of think about that, the analogy that I always use is this:

When you think about it, we’re literally on a planet that’s rotating around the sun. We’re on the side of the planet. Does it feel like we’re on the side of a planet? Does it feel like we’re rotating around the sun? It doesn’t feel that way.

Our minds are helping to shape our life experience, and so it doesn’t feel like we’re on the side of a planet. We don’t say, “Hey, I’m gonna drive up the side of the planet,” or—

—”Our house feels flat,” whether you’re in North America, South America, Australia… our houses feel like they’re flat. We’re not feeling like we’re walking up the side of a planet. And so our minds are not only recreating patterns or attracting patterns, but also shaping our reality. And when we stop and think about it for a moment, it’s profound.

And so often, if people are feeling upset or hurt or there’s these patterns—these patterns are, once they’re in our minds and they’re attracting the problem, we experience it, we attract it, or we see it, we perceive it, and then it just keeps showing up.

Emotional Patterns and Relationship Pain

And so part of the reason that I wanted to bring this up is because so often I’ll have people who will message in and they’ll say, “Okay, well what do I do if…” You know, for example, there was a beautiful woman who messaged in recently who said she had been abandoned by all of her adult children.

And she’s in tears and hurting. And I get it. And I have so much compassion. And of course in this case, when we look deeper, there are patterns of abandonment. And so what happens is there’s all this hurt and fuel and upset and all of these things. And looking deeper and deeper, if there’s wounding—or sometimes people will say, “I don’t have any friends,” and they feel disconnected and they feel that way. And again, there are patterns.

So it could be not just patterns of upset or hurt, but patterns of loneliness, disconnect. And so ultimately, instead of blaming others—because that’s what keeps most people locked in—is they’re blaming others, whether it’s themselves or somebody else or their mom because of this, or their dad, or their situation, or the person or the self or something.

The Power of Releasing Blame

And if we can get rid of that blame, if we can really stop getting sucked into the blame, but then really look at it and say, “You know, what is the pattern?” and then really rewire the pattern at a deeper level—that’s when change occurs.

And so that’s the insight that I wanted to share with you today is exactly that. Because of course so many people get stuck there. They get stuck in the hurt, the blame, the self-blame, the guilt—whatever it is. They get stuck in those patterns. Then it continues to shape their life.

And of course, the more that we can clear the mind and identify those patterns and really transform them, that’s when we can heal ourselves, heal relationships, heal our lives. I mean, it’s absolutely incredible what we are all capable of.

And so that’s the quick IQ episode. That’s the quick insight that I wanted to share today. And my hope is, of course, you take this information and apply it to your life to improve it.

And of course, by the way, if you wanna go deeper and deeper, I do have video courses on transforming your health and also transforming your relationships—rewiring the mind at a deeper level. So those are there as well. Whatever you need to support you, I’d love to see you get real results in your life. And so that is my hope.

Closing Thoughts

And as always, I wanna ask you to hit the share button on this episode. You know, share it with somebody you love, somebody you care about, or somebody you don’t even know. Because the more that every single person is healthy and happy and loved and loving, the better this world is for all of us.

And so please do hit the share button and please do have an incredible rest of your day.

Thank you for listening to Heal Yourself, Change Your Life. All of the time people reach out and say how much these episodes have given them hope or touched their heart or helped them stay positive in hard times—or even woken them up to a completely new level of awareness of how amazing we all really are.

If today’s episode touched your heart or expanded your mind in any way, please do me a favor and be sure to share it with those you care about or those you know who really need it. As more and more people become empowered, it really will change our world for the better.

That is the point and the power of these demonstrations—to create a radical shift in our world consciousness by showing everyone what we are all capable of.

And of course, each volunteer will really need to follow through to reinforce their programming, to maintain their results. But the point is: for you to see that you really can create rapid results in your health and your life if you really understand how to use your mind.

You are incredible.

And I do wanna be clear though, that most people will not get results this fast on their own. I make it look very easy because of the discoveries that I made. You’ll wanna remember that there’s so much more going on in our minds at a deeper level than people realize.

That said, if you wanna send me any questions or comments, come visit me on my website at brandygillmore.com/podcast. And if you’re currently experiencing physical pain and would like to be a volunteer on the show, you can sign up there as well.

Lastly, please remember: if you do have any health issues, you won’t want to avoid your doctors. Instead, you’ll want to continue seeing them and make it your goal to blow their minds with what you are capable of with your mind.

Thank you.