Welcome to Heal Yourself. Change Your Life. I’m Brandy Gillmore and what I’m most known for is helping people to create radical transformations and even demonstrating the power of the mind and self-healing under medical equipment so you can see the results and my work has even been published in a medical journal because it’s truly incredible what we are all capable of when we understand our own minds at a deeper level.
So whether you’re new to this work or you’ve been studying the power of the mind for many years, I love that you are here. I love that we’re on this incredible journey together, and I look forward to sharing breakthrough information with you. That said, on this podcast, I’ll share two types of episodes.
First, self-healing episodes, where I share key insights from working with live volunteers. And the second type are where I answer questions from the audience. That said, if you’d like to volunteer or submit a question, come visit me at BrandyGillmore.com. On that note, let’s dive in.
Hello and happy, beautiful day to you. Today I want to share with you four key insights that keep people from getting real results in their lives, where they’re creating that radical shift, healing themselves, changing their relationships, their life. I want to talk about the four things that I see that all the time, hold people back and what you’ll want to do, because they’re so often overlooked. Now, the first one is the most obvious, which is identifying the specific patterns and the specific things in the mind.
And even though this is just simple, it is so often it’s overlooked. When we think about it for a moment, the mind body connection works. We can see that specifics matter. If somebody’s embarrassed, their face can turn red, or if somebody’s got anxiety, they can have a panic attack, racing heart, shortness of breath, right?
And so we can see how different emotions can have a very different impact. And of course, sexual thought can create a sexual, physical response. Or if somebody’s nervous, they can have sweaty palms or a upset stomach. And so we can see different emotions affect the body differently. Now, of course, when it comes to healing a major issue, there’s deeper level of understanding, but it’s still specific.
So it’s really about un understanding and identifying what those specifics are. And so often people will overlook this foundational piece. They don’t really dial it in. But notice if you’ve seen me work with people on past sessions and past episodes where I’ll take somebody and identify the specifics and then show them how to start shifting their mind.
You can see results can happen really fast, and so of course that’s number one is really taking a moment to identify what is the specific thing. It is key. Now, the second thing is this, is that so often people’s mind, it will justify what it is. They might justify it or even overlook it completely where they see it, and yet they don’t fully acknowledge that it needs to change or they don’t see it as being a problem.
And let me give you an example. All of the time I’ll see people who, let’s say they’re feeling defensive and, I see this all of the time. Maybe they grew up and they felt criticized by their mother or father or somebody. And so they built in this feeling of feeling defensive. And what happens is a person will feel as though it’s helping them.
So their automatic reflex is to go to defensive. Now, let’s be honest, and I see this all the time, what can happen if the person feels defensive, it actually, what does it do? It creates a big problem. And I see, I can’t tell you how often I’ve seen this because this is what happens. Like I’ll see this even, I’ve seen this so often where, let’s say with a husband and wife, let’s say that the wife will give the husband, she’ll say, Hey, there’s an issue here.
So if she’s speaking up, she’s saying, Hey, this and this and this. Can we talk about this? This is a problem for me. And then let’s say he has a defensive pattern where he immediately feels criticized. What will he do? Defend. Defend, defend. Now what happens is, of course, the wife will typically speak up again.
Like eventually she’ll say, but there’s this and this and this, and then he defense and, whatnot. So he’ll defend and then it’s brought up again, and then defense, and then again in the defense. So the problem is that problems never get resolved because defense, so a person feels as though quote unquote, defense is helping them.
They feel like, I need to defend. So notice what I’m saying is they don’t see the problem as being a problem. They instead feel like they’re right, feel like it’s going to help them. So it never comes to a solution. I cannot tell you how many times that I’ve seen marriages break down for this very reason, because there’s never any solution to anything.
They never get solved. And so something comes up, defense. Something comes up, defense, something comes up. And typically what happens is either people have to just settle with feeling something is off or after a while, the problem becomes so big and things aren’t getting solved, that somebody gives up in the marriage.
One person feels defended defense and broken down and criticized, and the other person feels like they’re never heard. Nothing’s ever fixed. The same problem continues, and this is a huge issue that I see all the time in relationships. Now, my point is going back to identifying the problem is that a person with the defensive criticism pattern will feel that they’re right to defend.
And I can’t tell you how many times I have seen this very thing sabotage people’s lives in big ways. So that’s another thing. So that’s number two. Now, number three is this, is that if you think about this in a neurological way a lot of times if somebody feels like they’re defending themselves, it is ingrained in them in such a deep level from their perspective to their emotions, to the way they’re thinking, their feeling, their nervous system, their reflexes, their reflex is to defend.
And so what can happen is that very thing is, they feel like it’s, not program like it’s, they’ve got to really reprogram themselves that what they thought was helping them is not. Of course the problem is. Is it so often they feel like they’re right. And so that, that is the last one is exactly that, is that people feel like they’re right.
Now, I could add more and more, of course it’s this, it’s that, so often what’ll happen is, people will do something like this where they want to change, and in this scenario, let’s say, this gentleman, let’s say he wanted to the husband, so to speak, in this scenario, let’s say he was trying to get rid of the pattern of feeling criticized.
So he’s feeling like he’s always criticized and he’s always criticized. So he’s trying to get rid of this pattern and he’s feeling always criticized and he’s trying to get rid of it, but he never really learns to listen and hear it. So what happens unfortunately is the same thing perpetuates. My point is a lot of times when you hear me, if as you hear me and I work with people and I show people how…I’ve seen people heal from all kinds of things. Autoimmune conditions, years of pain problems, relationship issues, to transform their lives in massive ways. But you hear me say all of the time that it does take a real, real, real, real change.
That means really integrating a transformation all of the way into even actions. And so my point is, is in this case, let’s say that the husband, so to speak, says, okay, I’m going to work on my energy and my mindset, and I’m going to really get rid of this pattern of criticism, and yet never develops the pattern and the understanding and the action of being able to listen.
Being able to communicate, say, oh, is there something off? Well, let’s talk about that. Now, imagine, in this case, by the way, so going back to this scenario of this husband and wife, imagine that something comes up and instead of being defensive, he says, oh, well, let’s talk about that. Let’s resolve that.
Let me hear what you’re saying. Let me really hear you. Let me implement it. Let me understand. So we come to a mutual understanding. Now that doesn’t mean he has to do everything she says, but what it means is acknowledging each other, understanding each other because from understanding and that connectedness, right from the understanding and the connectedness, that right there, everything is possible.
It’s a comradery, it’s a connection. That’s the thing. So my point is, imagine if he changed at that level, what that would look like. So does that mean he has to do everything his wife says No, but it does mean hearing each other. So it’s a real transformation. Somebody going from feeling criticized and defensive to hearing, to understanding, collaborative, to connectedness, that feeling of, connectedness. And so my point is, just simply is a couple things. That real transformation at a deeper level, there’s resistance patterns, that there is a real transformation that needs to take place at a deeper level and reprogramming the nervous system.
Is so important and the subconscious mind, it’s that deeper, deeper level of programming is key. Now, by the way, this example that I gave you is just like a visible one, if you will, but what happens is all of the time people will have invisible patterns that are not fully conscious, that they’re not consciously aware of.
That are then creating a lot of other emotions in their lives. And so that goes back to of course, the identification piece of really identifying what is going on, what do you need to change? Because ultimately, the more you can get clear on what it is that you need to change and really change it all of the way and reprogram the mind, the more it becomes pivotal.
So often I see people do that same thing. So of course, this is a simple example, but it’s a simple example of a real transformation of making that change at a deeper level. Now, of course, if you think about this couple, it’s the difference between feeling disconnected and a relationship not working, and feeling unheard, and feeling not seen, and feeling critical, and feeling defensive versus feeling connected, feeling loved.
Feeling that sense of community. Like it’s just, it’s such a different life. It’s a different future. And so ultimately what happens is that, again, I know this one is a bit obvious, but what happens is at a deeper level is so often that people have these patterns that they’re not even seeing they did that.
It’s not so obvious to see that’s affecting their health and life. And what’s beautiful is that just like with this example, when people identify those and really transform them, that’s when it becomes healing and transformational. That’s when I see people change their lives, their health, and that’s of course why I call my method The GIFT Method, because it’s not about just thinking positive. And don’t get me wrong, thinking positive is great, but it’s not just about thinking positive or binaural beats or frequencies or whatnot.
It’s about really understanding the mind-body connection and what’s going on in the subconscious mind at a deeper, deeper, deeper level, and rewiring that because the energy that comes from that, the patterns that come from that, the transformation that comes from that is, it’s incredible. And you always hear me say, the example that I use is like a check engine light on a car.
if a check engine light goes off on a car, what does it mean? It means that there’s something wrong with the car and you want to change it. And the same is true with healing and transformation. If there’s something off with the body that’s going on with health, if we really identify it.
So if you’re identifying it, getting specific, understanding what it is, and typically it’s multiple things, multiple ingredients if you will, but you identify those and really transform it, it’s pivotal, it’s life changing, more love, happiness, and joy. And that, of course is my hope for you and for everybody in this world.
And so those are the insights from today. And as always, I want to ask you, please do take just a quick moment to hit the share button on this episode. Share it with somebody you love, somebody you care about, or somebody you don’t even know. If you think about just even this transformation, the more people could have love and joy and happiness and just seeing with more and more and more clarity. That of course is my hope. So those are the insights that I wanted to share on today’s quick Insights episode. And by the way, if you are somebody who wants a deeper level of understanding with healing and how it works for self healing, there is a free link in the show notes for a free training to give you that deeper level of understanding of how it works.
So definitely that is available. And as always, I wish you an incredible rest of your day. I look forward to connecting with you on the next episode, we’ll see you there.
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Instead, it’s best to see your doctor regularly. Keep them informed on what you are doing, and you could. Make it your goal to blow their minds with what you are capable of with your mind. Thank you.
