Questions (IQ): The Subtle Reason Things Still Feel “Off” (Even When You’re Doing the Work) (IQ. 259)

Welcome to Heal Yourself. Change Your Life. I’m Brandy Gillmore and what I’m most known for is helping people to create radical transformations and even demonstrating the power of the mind and self-healing under medical equipment so you can see the results and. My work has even been published in a medical journal because it’s truly incredible what we are all capable of when we understand our own minds at a deeper level.

So whether you’re new to this work or you’ve been studying the Power of the Mind for many years. I love that you are here. I love that we’re on this incredible journey together, and I look forward to sharing breakthrough information with you. That said, on this podcast, I’ll share two types of episodes.

First, self-healing episodes, where I share key insights from working with live volunteers. And the second type are where I answer questions from the audience. That said, if you’d like to volunteer or submit a question, come visit me at BrandyGillmore.com. On that note, let’s dive in.

So often I see people who have been working on healing themselves or transforming their lives, and yet still feeling stuck because the mind can be tricky. And so often what many people don’t realize is that even self-help, where spiritual practice can actually keep people stuck for a variety of different reasons.

And so, there’s one thing that keeps coming up recently that I’ve seen a lot of that I just want to share because it’s just, I’ve seen it so many times over the years and I’m just seeing it increase, and it’s this, it’s that sometimes when people become really focused on creating a shift, they may not always notice what that looks like.

In the way that it is impacting their relationships. And let me give you an example, I have seen people who are, you know, maybe working on feeling boundaries where they’re really focused on boundaries. And what ends up happening is the energy of it has an abrasive type of feeling. And so it doesn’t go well, like, it feels like suddenly they’re working on boundaries and then their people around them are, it, it feels abrasive.

Now, the way to think about boundaries. Is thinking about even, you know, you might have heard me use this analogy before, but where Spain and Portugal, where there’s a, a, a harmonious boundary there where they’re respecting each other and it’s harmonious versus a boundary, you feel like you need to protect all the time.

And, and of course. What happens is there’s always patterns. There’s patterns connected to it. And so that’s one example or another example that I’ve seen so often is this is I’ve seen people who have been working on, let’s say they’re working on bringing in more money or bringing in self love or bringing in confidence, and what can happen is they’re trying so hard to bring it in that it ends up pushing their relationships or their connection or their life.

In a negative way that they didn’t intend upon. So for example, I’ve seen people who were doing affirmations for years, like, you know, listening to affirmation songs and trying to bring in money and abundance and what they start to bring in, or even towards life itself. But they start to bring in this feeling of deservingness.

Now, of course. Feeling deserving in life is very important to feel deserving is a good feeling, but I can’t tell you how often I’ve seen people go into feelings of deserving and bringing it in and bringing it in, and really programming their mind in such a way. That then ends up feeling not good in their relationships, where their relationships are, are feeling like taken advantage of, are feeling, uh, one-sided.

And, and so it ends up swinging the pendulum in a way. That doesn’t feel good. And what can happen, and it’s so often I’ve seen this, is that it can actually be connected to health issues, to keeping a person from healing instead of helping them to heal or even creating a lot of relationship issues and disconnect.

And so. The insight that I want to share today is exactly that, is I want to invite you to look at your spiritual practices and really look at the way that they’re impacting your relationships, because you might be surprised what you find. And a few other examples are this. I’ve seen people who were working so much on self-love because they didn’t feel that feeling of self-love inside.

So then they started. Wanting to feel acknowledged or whatnot. So then like some type of issue could occur in a relationship, and instead of ever acknowledging another person, they would say something like, I have to give myself credit for this and this, and this. It was like they, they were trying so hard to work on a pattern that it didn’t, they stopped hearing.

What other people were saying in relationships, or even another example is, um, I’ve seen people before where they’re genuinely from their heart really wanting to help. Like they’re, they see personal development, they see spirituality, they see the beauty in it, they see the potential in it, they see the excitement in it, and so they really want.

Their family members to be involved in it too. And so then they start giving all of this unsolicited advice, which breaks down their relationships. It doesn’t feel good. And so I’ve seen that as well. And in just so many things that I’ve seen shown up in a, a variety of different ways and. Again, the insight.

So looking at it, of course, we want to feel deserving. It’s important to feel deserving. It’s important to feel love. It’s important to feel boundaries, but all of these things can be done in a very harmonious way to feel boundaries. We want boundaries that are just like, Hey, let me respect yours. Let me respect, like they’re just in flow, right?

Those are the types of boundaries that you want or self-love. That also means. Loving others. And then it feels so good from a place of just like a love fest, right? Where you’re loving self and you’re loving others and you can hear others and they can hear you, and it feels fantastic. Or even money from a place of, of abundance and, and connectedness and sweetness, like a sweet energy.

Around abundance and part of what I’ve seen is, I’ve seen people, you know, when it comes to money, they go, I just, I deserve money. And they’ll really start programming this in. And sometimes what’ll happen, I’ve seen people do this where maybe at work. They start showing up less and less because they feel like, you know, they feel like, um, they shouldn’t have to work so hard because they’ve programmed their mind to do that, or they feel like they deserve money for nothing.

And, and, and it, again, it just, it doesn’t go well in relationships. Now, of course, when it comes to money. The best way to monetize and to have abundance is to be valuable, to provide value to others. And as you’re providing value and receiving value, like when you stop and think about life for a moment, our planet is, it’s a big ecosystem.

Everything is helping everybody in some way, shape or form. You know, even ants, you know, are helpful and, and amazing for the planet. And so if we look at every, there’s an ebb and there’s a flow in life, and of course. Feeling deserving is important, and also feeling the flow of life, the, the connectedness, the love, the sweetness.

So even if it’s boundaries and you’re setting boundaries, that they still feel that the ultimate goal is, is feeling harmonious, feeling connected, feeling respected, and and respecting others. So it’s a beautiful connection. And so from that place, that’s the place. Where harmony lives. That’s the place where there’s more healing and more expansion and more transformation.

And so those are the insights that I want to share today just because I see so often people are literally trying every single thing that they can to change their lives and as they are. They end up sabotaging other areas of their life, their relationship, their health, their connections, their work. I mean, just so many different ways that I see this.

And so just food for thought and thinking about the harmony that comes in with transformation. Just a beautiful, beautiful, connected feeling. So those are the insights that I want to share today. And of course, by the way, if you’re somebody who is working on healing yourself, I do have a free training.

The link is in the show notes, so you can check that out. And as always, I want to ask you, please do take just a quick moment to hit the share button on this episode. Share with somebody you love, somebody you care about, or somebody you don’t even know. Because the more that every single person in our world.

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